I have been maried for 4.5 years its been a rather rocky marriage and we have a 4 yr old daughter together.
We have were seperated almost a year and for 6 months i worked abroad in Ireland.During my stay in Ireland i started briefly seeing someone else to get bad into the being single mode.I recently found out after i got back together with my hubby that im almost 13 weeks pregnant according to the ultra sound.Which would mean that i got pregnant 3 weeks before i came back to the states and would make the Irish guy the dad?I met this Irish guy in a local pub where he was very charming and nice.He works with his dads families contracting business traveling ect, and also dables in pro-fighting or just fighting(sometimes legal and sometimes not so legal).He seemed like an okay guy to me and was sweet to my daughter but my friend who is from his town says part (about half?)of his moms/dads family are Gypsies and cant be trusted?I have the number for his mothers shop do i call?
2007-12-28 06:35:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
P.S I have no informed my husband yet of my pregnacy.The reason i only have the number to the Irish guys moms shop is because he was helping her out and staying with her while i was there.
2007-12-28 06:41:32 · update #1
Yuck, yuck, yuck....
"to get back in the single mode" you weren't even divorced yet.... let me say that again, yuck, yuck, yuck... and now you have brought a child into your mess....
I don't feel sorry for you, I feel sorry for your unborn child, and the MESS you've created for his/her ENTIRE LIFE!!!!!!
yuck, yuck, yuck.
Grow up!
2007-12-28 09:49:24 · answer #1 · answered by Gal in MN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told your husband that you are pregnant? Did he know you were seeing someone during separation? You should tell him first, as he will be helping raise the child in the event he doesn't divorce you and the child's father has no interest. After that contact the father and tell him. Let them make their own choice regarding the child. You shouldn't be the one to make it for them. Take their decisions and do the best you can with them. Love your baby regardless. Children are a blessing. I'll say a prayer for you.
2007-12-28 15:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes do whatever you can to contact him, he may want nothing to do with you or the baby, but he still has the right to know. If he wants nothing to do with the baby you would still need to have him sign over all of his parental rights to allow your husband to adopt the baby and be on the babys birth certificate. If you put your hubbys name on the birth certificate without the ok from bio dad and bio dad giving up all his rights that gives your husband no rights to that baby. If bio dad wants a relationship with baby, or doesn't want anything to do with baby but won't sign over his rights you still do deserve to get child support out of him, so you will need to let him know about that and know how to contact him for the courts. Please for you, him and the baby find him and let him know about the situation and try to get as much of his personal info at that point as you can so that when you do go get child support they have some info on this guy.
Good Luck to you and your family here in the US as well as the baby.
2007-12-28 15:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by H mom of 3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he is the father and does have the right to know. Even if he doesn't want anything to do with the kid then at least you know you tried. But I wouldn't tell him for sure if he was the father but let him know that there is a possibility and you also need to tell your husband about this too.
2007-12-28 14:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out what is best for you first. I'm assuming you are having the baby, otherwise there wouldn't be any reason to contact the father. You need to tell your husband, if you can't do that then you need to get out. Then if you want to give him the option of being in the childs life then tell him. I feel men deserve to know, and they can decide whether they want to be in or out.
2007-12-28 16:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should call. He has he right to know he has a baby on the way. Also, I'm sure your friend means well, but I think you should meet his family before making any decisions about them. Good luck=)
2007-12-28 14:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your husband know yet? This is a difficult situation... I guess you should because the guy has a right to know but first you need to decide what you want from this man, he could totally reject you and the child...
2007-12-28 14:39:59 · answer #7 · answered by Megsee25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, call. He has a right to know. If he has no desire to see his child then at least let your baby know the truth and keep any contact information for later down teh road for the kid.
2007-12-28 14:40:12 · answer #8 · answered by Betsy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would try to get a hold of him. He may not want anything to do with you or the child, but he has a right to know I think.
Good luck!
2007-12-28 14:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by Mikey's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-12-28 14:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by pandamgy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋