I can understand why families had more children in the past. They needed children to work on the farm and they had more health problems that could lead to a death of a child. But in this day and age there is no need to have more than 2 children. When you have more than 2 children, you have less quality time to spend with each child. I guess those parents (with more than 2 children) choose quantity over quality.
Why do people have more than 2 children?
2007-12-27 08:57:19 · 24 answers · asked by kidfree 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I don't know how they do it! We only want two and that's it! Sorry but I would go crazy, I also see a lot of people having all their kids close in age too. It must be expensive and a lot of work.
2007-12-27 11:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by hopewishdream 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I come from a bigger family (3 sisters) and we are very close. My sisters and I are like best friends, we do everything together and our kids are growing up together as well. When there's trouble, call your sisters they'll come sort it out for you. When there's a wedding, call the sisters, we'll make it happen. When you need a babysitter, call one of the sisters - there's always one handy. We fight like cats and dogs, but let one idiot hurt us, and you have to deal with all of us! And you will hurt when we're done with you.
My parents would spent time with us together as a family, giving us all attention at once, and then spent some time with us alone, taking care to give all of us equal attention. It wasn't quantitiy over quality. I think I am blessed growing up the way we did. One of my fondest memories are Sunday night board games... spend less time in front of the television and you'll have more time for the family.
As we got older, we craved less attention from our parents anyway. We had less than smaller families, not such a nice car and less clothes... but we had a roof over our heads, our bellies were always full and we all received a proper education. I can now look back and realize just how lucky I am to have a loving, close family. I would hate to have been the only child. I wouldn't change the way we grew up for the world! I wanted 4 kids as well, but my husband is standing firm on two. Just as well, because if he doesn't stop me, I won't stop making babies. I'm like my father that way, if my mother didn't stop him, we would've had more siblings.
I think big families are great... there's no substitute for the love and support you get in such a dynamic.
2007-12-27 17:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by elainevdb 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well i definitely didn't "choose" quantity over quality. i had a daughter and became pregnant with twins. so i didn't have the choice. i think if people can raise the children and give them everything they need, then they can have as many as they want. my children don't get less quality time just b/c there are more of them. i also have a stepdaughter. they are all fine and dandy. so, since when did "in this day and age there is no need to have more than 2 children" start?
2007-12-27 17:02:35 · answer #3 · answered by littledebi82 4 · 10⤊ 0⤋
I have three children. I certainly did not choose "quantity over quality". What a ridiculous statement. Apparently I just have more love inside me to be able to spread it across three children equally. And trust me, I'm sure my kids get a lot more quality time than many 2 kid families out there.
2007-12-27 17:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by Mom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If people decide to have more than two children then that does not mean they can not give enough quality time with their children. There are plenty of parents of one child that do not give the quality time and people with more than 2 that do. If you don't have enough time for more than 2 children and please don't have more, but do not tell others what they should or shouldn't do based on your inabilities.
2007-12-27 17:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by Kali's Mom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is fair to say that some people cannot handle several children, but.. it is a little unfair to automatically assume that children cannot receive the proper attention if they have more than one sibling. I do loathe those who have 6 children and lay all of the parenting responsibilities on the older children, but not every parent is like that.
And the no matter the quantity, all of my children will receive the same quality parenting and love.
2007-12-27 17:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by Holy Macaroni! 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
What a lovely way to look at kids: little workhorses and extra insurance in case one croaks! GEEZ.
I am one of 3 children, and I never felt neglected at all! We all spent tons of quality time together; in fact my mom was at home with us for years while my dad earned the money!!
My husband and I have 1 child so far and plan on having 3 or 4 total. We will always take the time to give each child attention and have fun as a family.
What a ridiculous question that is!
2007-12-27 18:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by Irritated Lactivist 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
my husband comes from a family with 4 children, they are all exceptionally close. i may not always get along with my in laws but i can say that they spent plenty of quality time with there kids and with each other. there is plenty of time for as many kids as you want as long as you choose quality time over watching tv or talking on the phone or hanging out with your friends. a board game with your kids and story time is just as much fun and has the same quality with 4 kids as with 2.
2007-12-27 17:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by princess 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well, there's no "need" to have any children, or more than one. i had four (planned) kids because it makes me and my husband happy, because we love them, because we like the family dynamic of a large loving family, because the kids thrive with the high energy level and the social community, because we can afford it and have the energy and space and patience for it. i spend less time per child than i did when i had one, obviously. but my kids spend more time with each other. as for quality, well, my school-age kids are way ahead of grade level, the kids have good friends and are thriving in what interests them, they're contented, generally well-behaved, and much loved kids. occasionally they ask if we could have another baby to play with (the answer's no ... personally i'm maxed out right now. but others handle more with grace).
2007-12-27 17:07:08 · answer #9 · answered by ... 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
There is no doubt that having multiple children can be difficult, but I am having my fourth boy next month. My husband and I chose to have our children because we love children and the joy they give our home. My three boys are happy and healthy and have yet to complain that they wish they didn't have siblings. They have loving and healthy relationships with each other.
2007-12-27 17:08:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Quantity over quality...that's a stupid statement. You make it sound as though after 2 the kids are just nothings. I have 5 and love and cherish them all. I spend quality time with all of them. I love and cherish every one of them and they are well taken care of. I have no excuses....I've always wanted 5 and am glad to have 5. Why don't you go ask the Duggar's who have 17 or the lady I go to church with that has 15?
2007-12-28 03:32:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋