our grandson is 6 years old he lives with us he has ASD and some very challenging behaviour any ideas on how to stop him hiting us and throwing things at us and slaming doors in our faces and the fowl language is hurendious he isnt like this all the time but it is on a daily basis he is like two children one is this loving little boy and then from no where comes this terror that i cant get through to time out dont work he dont play with nowt so taking toys away is no good i cant reason with him when he is the terror and when he is back to our loving little fella he has no idea he has been behaving so awfull we are all getting so stressed out and any advise that any one out there has would be realy apresiated he was in hospital on christmas eve to have all his top teeth out he vomits on a regular basis and the acid has made his teeth roten thats just another one of his problems
2007-12-27 13:10:44 · 6 answers · asked by darlonana 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
That is a tough situation. You may want to seek outside help. Hire a specialist for ASD, to help with the unruly child.
Please don't feel bad, it is NOT your OR his fault at all. It's just how things are.
It's going to take some time, but hold your ground. Take action if he starts hitting. I don't mean hit him back, but be firm in dicipline. (Time outs are a joke, take away privleges... THAT will get his attention!)
Good luck!
2007-12-27 13:20:42 · answer #1 · answered by SARswimmer95 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depakote is a drug for people who are bipolar, not who are autistic. NEVER give a child medication that has not been prescribed by a licensed medical practitioner!
You say your grandson is 6. That means he is school-age. Is he receiving any special services at school for his disability? Does he have an IEP (Individualized Education Program)? It sounds as if you need to look into Behavioral and Mental Health for him. If he acts the same way at school as he does at home, he is surely getting into trouble at school because physical violence is not tolerated in school. Is your grandson verbal? I ask because sometimes children with autism don't speak. If he isn't speaking, he may be hitting out of frustration. Although it's still not acceptable, at least it might help you understand better why he is acting the way he does. You need to take your grandson to his pediatrician right away and ask for a referral for mental health. That is NOT to say that he is 'crazy,' so please don't take it the wrong way! :) Your grandson's school can help you with the behavior part. You can ask for a behavioral evaluation -- it will look into all aspects of the child's life, not just school -- and he may qualify for some services that way.
2007-12-27 13:50:57 · answer #2 · answered by aloha.girl59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to his doctor about depakote. First off do not threaten or reason with. Give a direction. Do not give him anything he wants until he follows this direction. Both of you need to be on the same page when he has a problem so he can not use this against you. he will get better at word games so watch how you phrase things. Agian like said by other check about bipolar and keep things consistant and scheduled the same at the house helps.
2007-12-27 13:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have your hands full and kudos to you for being in his life.
I think you should seek professional help with your grandson. He need medication, counseling, and lots of support.
2007-12-28 05:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by T J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get him a medicine that cures it, because it is a disease, so there is nothing you can do except give him medicine.
2007-12-27 13:17:24 · answer #5 · answered by Unknow 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe hes bi-polar ( switching moods out of the blue ) idk but by the time kids get to 6 yrs old they should be tame...
2007-12-27 13:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋