I just want to get a few people's input on this subject... any amazing sites out there that you can also find regarding this question?
2007-12-27 10:32:42 · 16 answers · asked by TashaD 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i dont think there is an exact right time to have a baby.I think it will happen when the time in life and the grand sceme of things is right. My husband and i were together for a year and we fell pregnant with our first son and and then with in the next two years we fell pregnat again and we brought a house and made major caree moves. This certainly wasnt what we had "planned" but would not change it for the life of us. Then on the other hand his sister has been with her partner for 15 years and they keep puttng off becuse it is not the right time and now she cannt fall naturally and finacially they cannt go through ivf. I think it will happen when its meant to.
2007-12-27 22:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it's different for everyone. I was 39 when my daughter was born, and it was the right age for me. I don't think I would have been nearly as calm, patient, or emotionally ready in my 20's. Also, by waiting I was financially stable enough to be able to stay home for almost 5 years, and my career was developed to a point where taking a long break wasn't harmful. Physically, I had an easy pregnancy, a quick recovery, and a very healthy child.
2007-12-27 20:46:42 · answer #2 · answered by daa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that varies from person to person. Its dependent on individual maturity, the correct circumstances with the couple's relationship, financial stability, and what other major events are going on. I would prefer to have children young rather than old, but I also understand why some women choose to wait. For me, the love and connection of family is a bigger fulfillment than what a career would give me. Though I don't look down on women who get more fulfillment from their work. Nothing has ever felt so wonderful or natural as my daily interactions with my daughter. I think youth can give a person more flexibility as we tend to get more set in our ways as we age.
2007-12-27 18:38:00 · answer #3 · answered by Sonya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you and your spouse are ready. I had my 1st at 18 and wasn't ready. My next child was born at 19 and I was very ready. Another at 22, the last I'll be 28. I love being young enough to know I'll see my grandkids grow up. But being a young parent wasn't an easy ride. For myself and my husband, we love how it worked out. For me personally, 28 is it. I'd never consider having a child past 30, but that is my story and my views. I met my future husband in middle school and were high school sweethearts. I didn't need a decade to find a spouse. So I'm a young Mom and love it.
2007-12-27 18:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its based on personal decision. Love and commitment are choices, not something that magically happens one birthday.
Your body is best able to have children between 18-30, before its very taxing, and after your eggs DNA can be compromised and your body has a harder time carrying a healthy baby without destructing itself.
For me 18 was the perfect age, although I didnt have my son until I was 23. My husband on the other hand was 30 before he was ready for kids.
2007-12-27 18:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After about 3-5 years of marriage. Late 20's is about the best time to start.
2007-12-27 18:55:15 · answer #6 · answered by InnerBeauty28 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trouble with your question is the dichotomy.
Physically, it's 18-25 for the first.
Emotionally, the more mature you are, the better.
It's a judgement call for you.
Just how emotionally mature are you?
(Raising a kid will probably require you to
double it in that first year.)
2007-12-27 18:42:49 · answer #7 · answered by Irv S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what u think if u are ready or not can u take care of a child and still do what u have to do if the man walks out on u. It all depends on where u are in life and how u think you can take care of a child no matter what.
2007-12-27 19:31:54 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Strips aka Peanut*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that really depends on the person, i had my first son at 24, second son at 26 and the 3rd son at 27, i just found out ill be having another when im 30. i feel like i was ready at 24, but like i said everyone is different. good luck and God bless
2007-12-27 18:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by mom of 4 boys 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well age over 26 doesnt mattrer but make sure u and ur couple are really in love and u both have the money and willingto raise the baby perfectly like fed properly um has the joy of living
2007-12-27 18:37:28 · answer #10 · answered by icecream.brenda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋