Parenting - June 2007

I asked what you all thought would be scarier, being homeless or young & pregnant. 99% of you said homeless. Now suppose a young girl was in that "scary" homeless predicament, but dug herself out of it in a relatively short period of time, by working hard, being innovative, budgeting, reading up on budgeting & personal finances, and really turned her life around in about a year? And suppose this same self-sufficient hard worker then got pregnant(unmarried)? Do you think she would be most likely very capable of taking care of a baby, since she'd obviously faced & conquered bigger obstacles before? Or, do you think her homeless experiences would deem her to be "worse" than most other moms-to-be, since perhaps her homeless experiences might have psychologically scarred her a little? Or perhaps if she became homeless before, maybe she's more prone to become homeless again?
Either way, how do you think one's past homeless experience(s) affects how capable of a parent/provider she might be?

2007-06-25 05:35:09 · 11 answers · asked by I Hate my haters 1

The boy I babysit is is 9 years old. He's OBESSED with video games, superheroes, and cartoons. I would really like him to go outside and swim, ride his bike and just do other stuff besides sit around all day. I even went to A.C. Moore and got a lot of cool crafts for him to do but he says hes too tired and he goes in his room shuts the door and watches cartoons. When I watched him last year, he wasnt like that. He also says that he doesnt want to go outside because its humid and hes afraid that its going to thunderstorm! I've tried to convince him that he will be fine, but its not working! Please help me! Thank you!

2007-06-25 05:15:52 · 12 answers · asked by hello 1

See the answers...

http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AnLZjXr1tl6NEuO5RSoBs43iMBV.?qid=20070624080059AARTmkJ



Ok this is repeatidly asked.

The reason to get diff view points in diff forums here.


But important question.

Is the lack of graphic, honest, realitic, truthful as it is in real life answers , ducking questions, BS, joking, pathetically barely answered questions...

As demonstrated here.


The clear evidence as to why this society has such a high teen pregnancy rate, not due to the fact teenagers have sex as always have and always will.


But clearly the embarrasment , ignorance, lack of education etc demonstrated but a typical slice of people unable to answer the question and forward the person where they can get more info honestly as explaining properly?


Now if the kid had asked how does a car engine work or how do you make pad thai noodles or Creme bruelee you think he would have got a proper answer from everyone?

2007-06-25 04:54:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was wondering about spanking as a punishment. Can you answer these questions?
1. What is used to spank?
2. Clothed, underwear, or barebutt?
3. How long?
4. How many times?
5. How hard?
6. Both butt checks at the same time, or x number of times per check?

If you have ever given or received a spanking and don't mind sharing, can you tell me about it and especially how old you were. Thank you!!

2007-06-25 04:46:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I having problems with my wife’s kids, Stepson thinks everything is funny. Stepdaughter throw fits and destroys things. Both talks back to his mother, they do it to me. I straighten both of them out on the spot. Son thinks it is funny. My wife thinks I am being too hard on him. I told her, I refuse let a 7 year old, daughter and 13 year old, son disrespects any her or me in my house. I told her, he was on punishment for a week. Not even a full day she let him out to play. Because he was bored being inside the house. I told her stop being soft on him. She keeps telling he nerves shot, that why he smiles all the times. I told her the crap, when he does not get he way he start bang on the walls, punching and slamming doors in the house. I told her if punch a hole in my house. I will spank his behind. I grew up a house that you respected your parents and the house you live in. I love her kids but, since we been together for three years. They just think I suppose to give them everything. They mad because I cut off the computer (internet). I told my wife, the kids on the internet to long. They are not doing well in school. That when I found my wife told, I am only their friend not their daddy. How do you deal with step kids?

2007-06-25 03:55:26 · 18 answers · asked by blkngd 1

i had my childs birthday party and handed out goody bags. one of the parents went through it and took out all the candy and told me she doesn't allow any candy at all, only fruits and veggies. which i agree that is great of course but it was a kids birthday party. i'm not saying to give it to them everday but i don't see anything wrong in giving a piece or two and some cake on special occasions. i just wanted to know if anyone else agrees with me or am i the crazy one for giving my child something sweet every now and then.

2007-06-25 03:52:57 · 26 answers · asked by bednum 1

I have a home daycare and I do not allow guns. A good example why- I just had a 4 yr old boy start, who is allowed to play with toy guns at home and at his previous daycare. Even though I have no toy guns, he grabs anything (or even uses his fingers) to point at my dogs or other children and yell "bang, bang" and says things like "your dead" or "I'm gonna shoot you" or "I'm gonna kill you".

He quickly learned that the words shoot, kill and dead are also not allowed here (nor will they be at any school he attends in the near future).

2007-06-25 03:46:24 · 22 answers · asked by The Grand Inquisitor 4

around as if she were an adult?

2007-06-25 03:44:12 · 14 answers · asked by Jared 2

If the babysitter was

a) a smart/responsible/mature kid

b) Knows how to have fun

c) Has taken a Red Cross babysitting course and gotten his/her certification. (The course covers CPR, health emergencies, babysitting scenarios, all kinds of basic injuries, proper play, how to have fun with the kids, and how to get babysitting jobs.)

2007-06-25 03:29:14 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

The couple that wants to name there child "4real"? Do you think that have the right to name it where every they want? If you have no clue what I am talking about it was on the internet yesterday..

2007-06-25 03:09:30 · 6 answers · asked by mlscsp2 1

What do you do when you know that your neighborhas a drinking problem , likes to drive drunk and you have little kids that live across the street. I mean i dont let my kids into the road to play but you never know if she swerves for some reason her car could end up in my lawn. What do you do to protect your children and how do you handel it??????

2007-06-25 02:52:41 · 7 answers · asked by dutchess20021 1

My wife and I are trying to adopt and all the books we got say to no bad mouth the birth parent. To say how selfless it was for them to give the child up and how much they loved youto give you up. Well here is my problem we fully intend to tell out child they are adopted, but we are doing foster to adopt. We can't afford private or international. So we will foster a baby/toddler who was taken from their mother because of GOD knows what. If she does not clean up her act we will adopt. How can we say nice things and she did not willingly give up the baby up but was taken.

2007-06-25 01:45:55 · 12 answers · asked by Big Daddy R 7

I have a two year old and a 1 year old. I'm so tired of doing the same thing day after day- feeding, cleaning, changing diapers... I'm bored. I don't want to clean up lately... Any suggestions for new things to do with the children? Playgroups are fun, I do two a week. Go to the park at least once a week. Anything new?

2007-06-25 01:05:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I will appreciate any kind of answer, especially one from a catholic's point of view.

2007-06-25 01:01:50 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My bad parenting just reinforces the many true points of my miserable and pointless wretched existance upon this earth. All of them beign, One no one will love me because I have become such a catastrophic failure, Two I deserve every ounce of pain I recive because I am a catastrophic failure, Three I do not deserve any love for I am a failure. No one likes imperfections or weaklings which is why I have graciously volenteered myself to die a failures death. My son is better off without me I am a terrible parent. I do deseve to die...

2007-06-24 22:00:46 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

i want answers besides mowing lawn and baby sitting and stuff like that he pet sits for like 5 people but he wants to make major money

2007-06-24 19:23:41 · 10 answers · asked by neillie 2

My boyfreinds son is out of control. He' s disobedient and he curses his elders. But boyfreind doesn't believe in spanking him.(he's 10) I suggested that he be sent in the room then whenever he does something instead of letting him get away with it. He said that a doctor told him that Its confusing to their mental state because he might not think he did anything wrong. I think that something should be done about this. I can't deal with a child leaving curse words on our voice mail. He was cursing his dad saying fu** you, over and over again.. Because we have car trouble and was not able to pick him up from his grandmothers house today. But his knew that, he's been talking to his dad on the phone all day.. He left these messages at 11:00p.m. tonight... I dont want to put up with his son anymore, and Its causing problems between me and his father

2007-06-24 19:03:18 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

If some government people came into your house and said you can only keep one of your kids. And you had to give up the other ones, and you would NEVER see them again. Would you pick? Dont say "dont know" I wana hear details hahah because when ever I ask my mom this question, she doesnt answer.

2007-06-24 18:37:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Pushy Cousin wants me and my 9month old and her kids who are 10 and 13 to go to an amusement park. She says
she will be willing to help me with the baby. My baby likes to nap at certain times and a busy amusement park seems a bit much for such a young baby. What do you think?
How can I tell her no without looking like I'm not flexible and not fun?

2007-06-24 17:36:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just wondering, tonight i went shopping (i'm a 28 year old mom) with my 4 year old son riding high on my shoulders the whole time, even while standing in line at the service desk, and checking out, and walking around the store for like an hour, he was up there. Do people think that's weird? because i noticed some people looking at him up there, and i wonder if it looks weird with a boy sitting on a woman's shoulders at the store...what do you think?

2007-06-24 16:06:44 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

whenI was a child, until to day I am 27 years old, I was not able to have boundaries to protect myself, I mean I was a victim of emtional, mental,verbal, physical abuse etc.. I have a problem to put boundaries, if I do I might come across to people that I am rude, or as if I tell people it's not of your business while I have been told they want the best for me. i can' win my family or relatives affection and emotional support.
my self-esteem is wonded.
I am afraid of both counsellor reaction if I told her/him my problem.
what shell I do?
my wounded self-esteem has stopped me from putting strong boundaries to protect myself from nosy people, and relatives abuse overseas and in australia.

2007-06-24 15:49:59 · 8 answers · asked by Summer O 2

i am a 23 year old with 2 kids. my daughter is 4 and my son will be 1 june 27th. before i had my son i told my boyfriend that i DID NOT want to be a stay at home mom, and now he has forced it upon me. so, i set in a 2 bedroom apt. with 2 kids all day every day, and i feel like i am literally going crazy. i NEVER spank my kids (i do swat the babies hand when he is into something he should not be) but i do curse at them. i say "get your @ss in the bed/bedroom" to my daughter alot and use the f-word. i feel HORRIBLE about this but i cant stop. i feel like my daughter is going to end up hating me and feel unloved. i feel alone, tired, useless, and sometimes i feel like i could just get into my car and drive off and never come back ever again. i am lost and dont know what to do.

2007-06-24 15:18:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why or why not?

2007-06-24 15:15:03 · 13 answers · asked by poet 2

i have a 4 year old girl whos behoviuor is out of controll , she has the worse temper tantrum and has at least 20 a day , every thing has to go her way and has to be done when she wants it done and if not she is uncotrolable , i am not really sure what to do any more .. i am unable to leave the house and can not take her any where because of this she has been like this since about 18 months i have atken her to the doctors and to a behaviour center to try and correct this and nothing has helped i have changed her diet and still nothing .. she doesnt know how to keep still and is always going flat chat ... i am considering having her tested for ADHD what does every one else think i am all out of options and she is going to school next year and would like to try and get it sorted out by then .. PLEASE HELP....

2007-06-24 14:57:24 · 13 answers · asked by tamieka_hyland 1

2007-06-24 14:53:44 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom read my journal and found out i had sex...I'm 19 and it was protected with my b/f. My parents are really upset and my dad is not even speaking to me. The thing is, my parents are over-protective and have never allowed me to go to parties, i have to go to early movies, i'm not allowed to date or pretty much do anything my friends can do. When i ask my parents why they say "Because we said so!" And they have never ever talked to me about sex or told me they wanted me to wait for marriage. EVER. We have never been to church as a family. My dads not even a Christian. Do they have a right to be mad??

2007-06-24 14:02:30 · 25 answers · asked by luvandlight 3

What should i do about it. they are both 16 and very social and I belive that the girlfriend is a slut

help

2007-06-24 13:45:56 · 8 answers · asked by crazymama 2

does anyone know of a website that has a questionnaire for a mother and her teenage daughter to take seperatly and then compare answers to see how strong of a relationship they have? multiple ones whould be wonderful. Thank you very much!

2007-06-24 11:32:15 · 6 answers · asked by Lauren ♥ 2

I look around and I am overwhelmed with toys, toys, toys everywhere. I swear Ive been giving toys/clothes away to neighbors for months- they must think I really like them (but I like a clean house!). So family just keeps giving us more toys, I am going crazy with clutter!!!! What do you do with your childrens extra toys?

2007-06-24 10:25:24 · 19 answers · asked by SandLady 2

2007-06-24 09:45:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous