Spanking..?

Question

I was wondering about spanking as a punishment. Can you answer these questions?
1. What is used to spank?
2. Clothed, underwear, or barebutt?
3. How long?
4. How many times?
5. How hard?
6. Both butt checks at the same time, or x number of times per check?

If you have ever given or received a spanking and don't mind sharing, can you tell me about it and especially how old you were. Thank you!!

Any other information you would like to share is welcomed!!!

Answer 1

I would never, and have never had a reason to raise my hand to my daughter. I strongly agree with the following research:

While spanking may relieve a parent's frustration and stop misbehavior briefly, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics (1995), researchers suggest that spanking may be the least effective discipline method. To test this hypothesis, researchers surveyed parents, with the assumption that if spanking worked, children who were spanked would learn to behave better over time so that they would need punishing less frequently (Leach, 1996). However, the results showed that families who start spanking before their children are a year old are just as likely to spank their 4-year-old children as often as families who do not start spanking until later. Thus, children appear not to be learning the lessons parents are trying to teach by spanking.

Spanking may be ineffective because it does not teach an alternative behavior (American Academy of Pediatrics, 1995). In fact, children usually feel resentful, humiliated, and helpless after being spanked (Samalin & Whitney, 1995). The primary lesson they learn appears to be that they should try harder not to get caught.

Spanking also sends the wrong message to children (Samalin & Whitney, 1995). Spanking communicates that hitting is an acceptable way to solve problems, and that it is all right for a big person to strike a smaller one. In addition, when children are spanked, they may know that they have done something wrong, but in many cases, they are too young to understand the lesson. It is a very difficult message for any adult or child to understand: "I hurt you because I don't want you hurt."

Finally, when spanking is the primary discipline method used, it may have some potentially harmful long-term effects such as increasing the chances of misbehavior, aggression, violent or criminal behavior; impaired learning; and depression (Straus, 1995).

Answer 2

Well as someone who grew up being spanked I will do my best to relay how It was done to me, and how I agree it should be done. ( I have used this technique with children as well)

1. I believe for a young child perhaps under 4 years old a hand is usually good enough but some mothers who arent particularly strong should use a kitchen spoon or a ruler. After that age a wooden spoon, a flyswatter, or a light belt is fine.
2. I really dont like the idea of spanking over clothes unless its a single swat type of situation to get their attention. Underwear or bare bottom is always more effective in a punishment.
3. Until the child sounds like they are crying hard enough to be really sorry for what they did
4. See above
5. Hard enough to turn the bottom good and pink/light red
6. Well I think it should go back and forth and a few on both here and there, I dont remember my mother ever using any particular order, it just went until we were really sorry

Answer 3

Um...i believe in spanking, not abusing, and yes there is a difference....I was spanked as a child and I am sure i will use this punishement once or twice on my son....My mom used her hand or a belt....I was always clothed, i never understood the bare butt thing.....how long just depened on how many swats i got...it varied....hard enough to sting (as an older child) I dont remember how hard when i was young! usually both, but occasionally she would get just one....It never left a lasting impression I just remember it would be after she warned us a few times....I dont remember much of being spanked when i was really little i just remember it from when i was like 9-13 then after that she rarely spanked! Not that it was often anyway! But i think sense i had no lasting marks physically or mentally then its ok....she was NOT abusive, but she got her point across!

Answer 4

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Answer 5

ok yes i will help!!

1: it depends on the punishment put always start with the hand then it usually goes to the ladle, spoon, padle, belt, switch that is what usually is used

2: children should always be spanked on their cloths first. then start going to the underwear than buttnaked kids usually respond to bare butt

3: again it depends what happended usually parents will spank for about 5 minutes min.

4. it ddepends what happened try a small amount and if the child still doesnt respond start hitting longer.

5. dont go to over bord u will see how the child reacts if she/he doesnt cry try going harder until she/he does cry but if she sobs stop that goes over the limit

6: thats your choice my parents always did both

yes i have been spaked many times by my parents
and i have given a spanking!

Answer 6

1. Hand or paddle
2. on underpants (rarely bare bottomed.
3. I dont recommend a time limit.
4.1 swat per age of child.
5. Hard enough to get a tearful reaction from the misbehaved child.
6. really depends on the size of the childs bottom if their bottom is small (then the whole bottom can take each swat, if it is larger, then alternating can be done.

I used spanking on kids I was allowed to spank when babysitting (Mostly relatives kids) and I spanked my own.

Answer 7

1.) I never used anything other than my hand a hairbrush or a small paddle. I believe that anything other than that is abusive.

2.) Clothing depends on the age of the person being spanked. A young child I would only spank over the clothes. An older child (8+) on underwear. Some one older (as in erotic or a teenager) I would spank barebottomed.

3 , 4 & 5) How long, how many times, and how hard depends on the infraction. Something like stealing well that would get you spanked pretty hard. Somthing like being later than what you said might not get a very hard or long spanking. Repeat offenses are a different story.

6.) I always laternated butt cheeks. Just to even things out.

Several years ago I met a young lady who was in deep trouble in school. She was constantly failing out of Colleges and was down to her last college. Her work was really bad.

So we decided that she lacked discipline and we proceeded to correct that problem. She had to bring to me once a week a report from her instructors showing her grades for the week. If her grades dropped she would get a hard bare bottom spanking.

If her grades stayed the same she would get a light spanking on the panties. Obviously if her grades approved she would be hugged and kissed.

It was about 6 weeks of hard bare bottom spankings before she started to improve in her grades. After 4 months I rarely spanked her at all. After a year she was on the honor roll and made the deans list.

Answer 8

--General recommended age for spanking is 2-5 yrs and not beyond.
--And it should be done sparingly, after you have tried other methods (time-out, rewards system, or merely being made to apologize, etc.) Different things work with different kids. Some kids are just born more compliant and others are more strong-willed.
--It should only be for defiant behavior (where they challenge your authority. Ex. not accidents that occur because they're just being kids)
--Sometimes, all it takes is a quick swat with 2 fingers on the palm of their hand or leg. Make sure you explain what they've done wrong and follow-up with a hug and remind them you love them.
--Books recommended: "Dare to Discipline" by Dr. James Dobson or "The Strong-Willed Child" (same author)

Answer 9

My parents spanked me, but I probably deserved it. I was 4-7 I think when my parents did it. It never happened often though, my mom would say "do you want daddy to get his belt?" I would behave myself after I heard that. I would just like to note that they would never spank me with a belt though. Just threaten. My sister was spanked with a ping pong paddle, she tightened her butt one time so hard that she broke it.
I think spanking is okay in certain situations. Talking to a child I think can be more effective. It just depends on your particular situation. I know I won't resort to spanking all the time. I will try to reason with my child in a manner that they understand.

Answer 10

1. Hand, occasionally a rolled up newspaper (doesn't hurt--is just loud)
2 Clothed
3. Huh?
4. 2 or 3
5. Depends--normal for small things, hard for major (going in the road, etc.)
6. Same time

Answer 11

The underlying assumption in your question is that spanking is an effective and appropriate method of discipline, and I would like to address that view.

I believe that spanking primarily teaches children, especially the very young, to be sneaky so as to avoid punishment, leads to a consequence-based moral compass, and damages the basic honesty that most children have by nature. They learn to perceive right and wrong with respect to laws and punishment rather than higher principles such as kindness, compassion, and the Golden Rule. Spanking also interferes with open and honest communication between parents and children.

My own experience bears this out. Almost all of my friends had problems with their daughters during the turbulent adolescent years, some of which lasted well into adulthood. My own daughters had more normal problems, and they talked to their Mom and me about them so that we could help to guide them around the worst traps and pitfalls in that bizarre territory. Their rebellions were less extreme, partly because rather than trying to be "cool," we gave them the reactions that they wanted at relatively low levels and made more extreme rebellion unnecessary. We all laugh about that now. I believe that if we had spanked them when they were younger, that process would have been more difficult, if even possible.

I know that these ideas are not what you had in mind when you asked about spanking methods, but I hope that you will think about them all the same.