whenI was a child, until to day I am 27 years old, I was not able to have boundaries to protect myself, I mean I was a victim of emtional, mental,verbal, physical abuse etc.. I have a problem to put boundaries, if I do I might come across to people that I am rude, or as if I tell people it's not of your business while I have been told they want the best for me. i can' win my family or relatives affection and emotional support.
my self-esteem is wonded.
I am afraid of both counsellor reaction if I told her/him my problem.
what shell I do?
my wounded self-esteem has stopped me from putting strong boundaries to protect myself from nosy people, and relatives abuse overseas and in australia.
2007-06-24 15:49:59 · 8 answers · asked by Summer O 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think you are just feeling sorry for yourself. This sounds like a bunch of psychobabble blamed at other people. I'm sorry you have had 2 miscarriages- but I doubt both were from stress alone. Get some help for your 'wounded" self esteem.
2007-06-24 16:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by Nichka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK hun........i will tell you the truth i have never miscarried but i have had me stressful situations. When i was in high school i had very low self esteem. i then joined the army and helped bring it up believe it or not. I then married not to long after and went through marriage problems. To help cope with all my past and present problems my husband and i sucked it up and went to counseling and starting taking Zoloft. The Zoloft really helps but if you can avoid taking drugs please do. I don't have to many problems any more but I'm still taking the Zoloft even at 35 weeks pregnant.
That's another good thing about Zoloft, it will not hurt an unborn child if you have been taking it for a while. Also when you do become pregnant the next just remember.......some people have it harder then you. I think about my fellow friends in Iraq right now that may never see their children again due to a road side bomb. Just remember life is hard but there's always a way to cope. Take care of yourself and don't give up and don't let people put you down, your better then that.
2007-06-24 23:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by halls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not going 2 tell u not 2 have children but maybe at this time your not ready because of all the stress in your life i would first deal with the issues that u have and tell the people in your life that r draging u down where 2 go cause in the end it is your life no one elses and from there maybe u will feel ready physically and emotionally in your life 2 carry and give birth 2 children
2007-06-24 23:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want people to know something you don't have to tell them if they are nosy then you tell them what you want don't have selfconciousness or self doubt trust yourself that you will make the right choice of friends. Also if you're having miscarriages it's okay my Grandmother has 4 miscarriages plus you can always adopt.
2007-06-24 22:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by shelbyroxhardcore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by relizing that you have a right to say no, and not care if people get mad. That's part of being a human being. Also, listen to relaxation/ hypnosis CDs. They work for me. I have the same problems, and I've miscarried. Good luck!
2007-06-24 22:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get Dianetics Auditing.
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2007-06-24 23:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by dexter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always need to treat yourself as a person. I have so much to sayh to you but I have to go right now..PLEASE get with me at dee4rad@yahoo. PLEASE I am 33 and have gone through the same things. Even misscarriages...please get with me
2007-06-24 22:54:34 · answer #7 · answered by dee4rad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn to say no and stick to it!
2007-06-28 18:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋