i had my childs birthday party and handed out goody bags. one of the parents went through it and took out all the candy and told me she doesn't allow any candy at all, only fruits and veggies. which i agree that is great of course but it was a kids birthday party. i'm not saying to give it to them everday but i don't see anything wrong in giving a piece or two and some cake on special occasions. i just wanted to know if anyone else agrees with me or am i the crazy one for giving my child something sweet every now and then.
2007-06-25 03:52:57 · 26 answers · asked by bednum 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Most people would have probably thought you were nuts if you didn't put sweets in the goody bags. It was a birthday party. Did she not let her kid eat the cake and ice cream? I think it was rude of her to go through the bag in front of you and to say anything about it. If she didn't want her kid to eat the sweets she could have taken them out later. Everyone I know puts candy in goody bags for birthday parties. Everyone deserves a treat every now and then.
2007-06-25 04:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with sweets now and then. Now I think that the mom who did that was rude. Even if I didn't give my child sweets, I would have taken it out after I left your house.
I will admit that when my daughter has girl scouts late or a ball game late (after 7 pm) I will go through her goody bag or take the "treat"., I will let her have them, but I tell her that she has to wait until tomorrow. I also never do this in front of the parent offering the treat. I don't want to offend anyone. I do this just because all that sugar has her bouncing off the walls too long and it takes her a while to settle down for bed.
2007-06-25 04:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by chemrose 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a sweet tooth and I have had to find alternate solutions. I'm diabetic and I've found some really great sugar free candy. You get the same effect but without all the sugar. There are so many sugar free options! Maybe at the next party you could find some sugar free candies for the kids! I don't think you are crazy. We've all survived eating candy with sugar in it, I don't think anything bad will come of it! Hope this helps!
2007-06-25 04:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you're not crazy, kids should be allowed to be kids and that includes some sugar occasionally!
It's important for kids to have a balanced diet and limits on treats. But it was very rude for this woman to take the candy out of the bag at the party, not to mention disappointing her child in front of all his/her friends.She at least should have waited till she and her child left the party.
Another problem is that if the child isn't allowed a few treats once in a while, there's a danger that later on, he/she will have too many and become overweight. I've seen this happen. Everything should be in moderation.
I think she needs to lighten up a little!
2007-06-25 04:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by mom of 2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweets are okay for kids to have on special occasions... as long as they always have a good balance with fruits and veggies. I think the woman who took the candy out of her daughter's bag was going a little overboard. You didn't do anything wrong by having those sweets there, so no worries. You just encountered someone who is MUCH more particular.
2007-06-25 03:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by splurge_munki 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here is the problem with adults that think it's okay to give other people's kids candy. What happens when the kid(s) are with several groups of adults each day. IE teachers, grandparents and ex's family not to mention getting candy from other kids bring to school. What happens is the kid gets way too much junk food and no one ever knows about it. The polite thing to do before giving a handful of candy to someone else's kid is to ask permission. You wouldn't just start feeding someone elses dog whatever you felt like would you? Put the pleasure you get from giving candy to kids that aren't yours aside and be respectful to parents who may not share your point of view on nutrition.
2015-04-11 10:25:27 · answer #6 · answered by warren414 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure on special occasions and other occasions too. For instance give the kids sweets on days ending in Y.! jk I bet that mother just wanted them for herself. What a sourpuss idiot! I feel for those kids! Sure sweets are ok, in moderation of course!
PS. I don't know how old her child or children are but if you could catch her gone and them at home. Leave a load of soda and candy on the doorstep, ring the doorbell and run! lol
2007-06-25 11:37:56 · answer #7 · answered by Rockster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I allow sweets in moderation all throughout the year - IMO when it's forbidden, it becomes more attractive.
I wonder how much candy was in the bag - I have a friend who sends the kids home with a paper lunch bag FULL of pinata candy every darn year - ticks me off. On the other hand, a few pieces in with some toys really doesn't seem that big a deal to me. I wouldn't let her eat them all in one day, but she could surely eat them.
2007-06-25 04:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think it's ok for children to get sweets occasionally, just not every day. I also think every parent has the right to raise their child healthily.. so if they choose to take the sweets out of the lolly bag, I would simply apologise for 'not realising' (the message being 'you should have told me') and leave it at that. (It would have been more polite on her behalf to remove the lollies after she had left your party.)
I filled my son's party bags up with predominantly popcorn and dried banana chips.. with just a few lollies on top, plus a balloon, a glow in the dark necklace and a small bubble blowing container. This way, if the lollies were removed, the child would still end up with a great treat bag to take home.
2007-06-25 04:05:47 · answer #9 · answered by Aussie mum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How boring life would be without an occasional sweet. Of course its okay. I feel sorry for the kid that doesn't get any. Of course veggies and fruit are all good but an occasional sweet is not going to kill a kid. I AGREE WITH YOU.
Have a nice day.
2007-06-25 04:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by smile4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋