Parenting - June 2007

My seven year old is very well adjusted, and I try to keep her somewhat distant from my family. My family is very religous and fearful of the world (even if you spill water on the floor it is rather a panic, because you could slip and fall and end up in the hospital). Everything they do is from fear of something bad happening. They see everything as right and wrong. I am a single mom, so obviously I am in the wrong and my kids dont' have a 'proper' life. My auntie is the best of the bunch and the least judgemental and wants my daughter to come for a sleepover with her daughter. Her daughter is about 3 years older. BUT her daughter is very self righteous and very into the religion of what is right and wrong. I dont' like having her in my house because she labels us wrong at 11 years old! I don't want my daughter going, even though the break would be nice. How do I polietly decline?

2007-06-29 04:19:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just saw a question posted under laws and ethics. It was a guy asking if he had to pay child support even though they weren't legally seperated. How is it that guys just think it's a choice and that their child is not their obligation. UGHHHHH so irritating!!! Women just do it regardless!!

2007-06-29 02:44:04 · 15 answers · asked by BeThAnY 4

My 15-year-old daughter has a 1-year-old baby boy (no father around).The baby is moving easily and trying to walk and she all the time plays with him as if he was a doll.She is careless - leaves him near an open window and on high places without her around (he might fall down).She doesn't prevent him from dangerous things and when I talk to her she says "He is not stupid,he knows".How can I explain to her that he doesn't know?

2007-06-29 02:26:17 · 17 answers · asked by Eric J 1

I have a 10 year old daughter who i get to see every other weekend. My ex lives in San Francisco. I live in Los Angeles. Every other weekend we meet in Fresno so i can have that weekend with my daughter. This weekend however my mother is bringing down my daughter to LA because my daughters cousin is having a birthday party. My daughter very rarely comes to LA or gets to see her aunt, uncle, and cousins. My daughter got into trouble with her mom. Not listening, going to friends house without permission. Twice. After the first time my ex told her if she did it again she couldn't go to LA to the birthday party. Well she did it again. So my ex grounded my daughter. She told me she wasn't coming to LA. Plans were made a month in advance for my daughter to come here. It is my weekend. I told my ex wife that it wasn't fair to ground her from coming to LA. She wants me to drop everything and meet in Fresno. Is this right? The ex is upset with me because i am not backing her on this punishment

2007-06-28 23:34:04 · 16 answers · asked by Lewcifer 2

I am a wife but I need to know how to spank my 4 year old son when he is naughty . I want to do it myself cause my kid has no respect for me I don’t want to get my husband involved so I need to know steps how to spank him list them clearly plz like no 1 take off his clthes ( etc ) thx

2007-06-28 23:05:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

am i at any risk?

2007-06-28 21:06:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Off topic they say Mommies little boy Daddies little girl; as a child growing up it took me less time to figure out why my parents where always upset and anger. It was not me or my sisters but money and the fact that they had to work both of them to raise all for of us. To the actual question; when a parent ignores your bad behaviors is it a sign of good parenting?

2007-06-28 20:47:01 · 3 answers · asked by america8298 2

I want me ears pierced but my parents said no so i want to get them seretly with hiding it from my parents

2007-06-28 19:10:22 · 14 answers · asked by Lil Youngins 1

What kind of parenting style do you use with your children?

Example:

Are you stern, liberal, the tough love type etc..

2007-06-28 18:57:52 · 6 answers · asked by mroof! 6

Next week, my daddy and I are visiting some EXTREMELY prestigious boarding schools for me in another state. Daddy says I need to go because he needs to travel in the Middle East this fall and he said I cannot stay home alone and my only alternative is to stay with my friends parents, who are EXTREMELY STRICT. My relatives all live out of state.

Daddy has some concerns that I project the image of being EXTREMELY SPOILED and next week has asked me not to speak UNLESS SPOKEN TO, not to dare SMART MOUTH or BACKTALK, and to only ask PREREHEARSED questions. He also wants me to get a good night's sleep so that I do well on the aptitude tests, although I possess an EXTRAORDINARY VOCABULARY, ACUTE CRITICAL REASONING SKILLS, and AN APTITUDE FOR TECHNOLOGY.

I feel EXTREMELY insulted to be under these strict rules. But, Daddy says this is my future we are talking about here and I shouldn't dare mess it up. He says if I do, it will be EXTREMELY uncomfortable for me to sit on the flight home.

2007-06-28 14:09:11 · 18 answers · asked by Lori 5

My son will be two..and I am at my breaking point. I am home with him everyday, and his father comes in....spends a little time...we eat..then he goes to his friends house downstairs...(not always) he is a good father...and some of the time that he is doing something else...he is finding a way to make more money for us, whether he is drawing pictures for someone..doing tattoos or giving studio time...But I just feel like if I can't get 30 minutes to myself ....I am just going to lose my mind completely. But I just feel so bad...because I love my son...he is so amazing..but I just feel so tired..that I don't know what to do. And of course it isn't my sons fault. I have gone out with my friends a couple of times..but all I could do was think about my son..and how I should be home with him. People keep telling me that I need a break..but I don't quite know how to do it.

Don't bash my boyfriend..he is a good man...very hard worker great father.

2007-06-28 13:47:59 · 25 answers · asked by Video_Production 6

My best friend had a baby 1 year ago. While I was in the delivery room I heard her husband make a comment, he said that the baby is probably another guys(some guy she was in love with for 4 years, while she was married). Of course he laughed as he was kidding. Now the child does not look like her husband whatsoever, I mean it is like he has no jean of her husband. Now her husband has been saying to the child "I don't know who your daddy is, maybe he is a chinese man that your mom slept with, etc etc etc. But that is not the fact, she didn't sleep with a chinese man, but I am wondering if her husband is doing this because he is not sure within himself if the child is his or not. What do you think? Her husband also don't pay a lot of attention to the child, he was excited in the beginning, but now it is like he don't want no part of it. (he is very responsible as in buying for the child and supporting it, but he don't want any part of taking care of him,

2007-06-28 12:38:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I mean how many of you spank or know someone who does spank their kids?

2007-06-28 12:05:39 · 19 answers · asked by Kate T. 7

How do you do it? I am a step parent of two boys (14 & 11) and have tried hard to keep our relationship positive and close. I have had to learn to be flexible and agreed my role with my husband, which has changed significantly over the 9 years I have known them. I think things are going well right now but I would love to know how others in the same situation, with successful step relationships have/are doing it, for myself and all others in a similar situation.

Thanks

2007-06-28 11:31:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a stepdaughter and she is very overweight. She is 6 and I am buying her size 12 & 14 size clothes. Her waist is just a few inches smaller than mine and I'm not small.

I want her to be healthy.

She wants to eat ALL the time. 10 minutes after we eat, she is asking me for a snack! And, she's a picky eater so she'll eat hardly any veggies or fruits. She obsesses over food -- what's for dinner -- when are we going to eat. She thinks about eating all the time. She's very inactive when she plays.

I am concerned because I was fat as a child, and I know that if we don't help her now, she will struggle with it for the rest of her life.

To make matters worse, daddy is even pickier and eats hardly any healthy foods and eats sweets. So, he won't set a good example for her. Plus, daddy feeds her 2 or 3 snacks (maybe one of them healthy) after school when I'm not there. She also eats a LOT at meals when she likes it.

Any ideas how to address this? Should I be worried?

2007-06-28 10:36:04 · 10 answers · asked by it_girl92 2

I'm a 30 year old male, and at this point I'm sure I'm never going to want kids. I've noticed however, that people (with, as well as without kids) tend to react with alarm and concern, and even get offended when I tell them this. Why is this? It's not like I dislike children. In fact I quite get a kick out of them. I just don't want any of my own. It's like clowns...amusing, but I don't want to live with any,

2007-06-28 10:20:08 · 26 answers · asked by TheFacelessMasses 1

I've always heard that it was wrong to spank children, but never heard of any psychological effects that would follow. At the most, I've just read very general and vague statements like, "spanking is bad." or "spanking children is a violent act." and no concrete evidence follows. Please Help.

2007-06-28 09:28:03 · 22 answers · asked by lolsquared 1

My friend's parents called the police on her because she had pot in her room. If I was the parents i would just ground her for months. She was grounded AND the police called on her. Is it just me or is that a little too drastic?

2007-06-28 08:59:34 · 21 answers · asked by Kori E 1

My son has reflux. They told me to have him sleep upright but how can I position him like that at home? The nurse said no pillows. So what are other ways to have him sleep like that?

2007-06-28 08:29:00 · 14 answers · asked by yolie857 3

My lad is fantastic,love him to bits!! We play,read,go cinema and all that, but over the last few weeks he has been getting in trouble at school (being rude to teachers etc) just being silly really. We talk he says it's nothing and is apologetic , a few days later same old thing !! We'v done the naughty chair/time out/ taking away his toys/ all the warnings he needs,yet things go pear shape within days. Now is straight to bed after the usual warnings etc .. He's rude to the missus and hits his younger sister!! Trying to nip things in the bud but its not good!! We don't smack but can see how easily it can be brought on.. Any thing I havent tried yet please go for it..

2007-06-28 08:11:50 · 43 answers · asked by DENNIS B 1

In years.

2007-06-28 07:29:41 · 45 answers · asked by daisy 2

when i was liitle i always wanted some love and attention. My parents had abanded my sister and I. My grandparents were left to raise us. They were already old and i needed a mommmy at that age and my grandma was very cold and un loving . So then I always used to say to myself that I wanted some diesase, therefore I would be getting the attention I needed as child. So my question is now that im 28 and have cervical cancer. How should I feel about cancer.

2007-06-28 06:23:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-28 05:34:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-28 04:55:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

having childrens ears peirced also constitute child abuse and also be illegal ? i hate to see children, especially babies with their ears peirced, i think its tacky, it hurt them and it consitutes in my book abuse. what do you think ?

2007-06-28 04:42:10 · 38 answers · asked by Dolly 6

At my brothers wedding there were little kids sprinting behind us during the wedding toast (not his or his bride kids, but guests). I thought this was rude, but it constantly happens. In the days of no spanking, children allowed to bring toys, car seats for 11 year olds, etc, I know parents try to do everything to control every waking moment of their kids lives nowadays, so how come I still see kids falling out in stores, hitting their parents, screaming at them in the middle of stores b/c they're not getting what they want, questioning parents authority, etc.?

2007-06-28 03:36:29 · 12 answers · asked by King H 6

Please don't launch into an angry tirade. l'm asking you to seriously consider the consequences of a child being born to incapable or uncaring parents, and if you would still arive at the same conclusion. Would you still be pro-life if you had to take in all the un-aborted children? Thank you in advance.

2007-06-28 03:13:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My 17 year old likes to communicate via myspace. Whenever I go near her work area she will close the dialog. I told her I do not need to see it but to make sure she is not using objectional language and to use caution. Recently a relative showed me a dialog my daughter had sent to a friend and it contained expletives that I believe were for shock value or showing off, the subject matter was fine but flavored with one particularly offensive expletive. I told her I saw it and explained how now it was permanently recorded for anyone in the world to view. She keeps her stuff set to private, but who she sent the message to did not.

She has lost her home computer privileges temporarily because of her use of ugly language, but at 17 should we be reading her internet writings before she sends them? I really think not. I think reading her dialog would not be an effective tool. What do you think? Any suggestions for better parenting welcome.

2007-06-27 19:45:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have 2 young children, and my husband recently switched to 3rd shift, What are some good ways to get back on track from such a bug change???

2007-06-27 15:34:12 · 4 answers · asked by jessica29154 3

We're heading into summer -- which tends to be sibling bickering season! -- so I'd like to get a handle on what you guys think are the most common sources of sibling arguments. Let's talk about three age groups here: very young kids (preschoolers); school-aged (5-12); and then teens. I'm planning to blog about this @ Yahoo! Parenting (Canadian site) at some point, but I haven't formulated my thoughts at all, so I thought I'd go to the source first -- parents with kids or anyone who remembers bickering with their sister/brother.

2007-06-27 14:10:37 · 17 answers · asked by anndouglas 2