At my brothers wedding there were little kids sprinting behind us during the wedding toast (not his or his bride kids, but guests). I thought this was rude, but it constantly happens. In the days of no spanking, children allowed to bring toys, car seats for 11 year olds, etc, I know parents try to do everything to control every waking moment of their kids lives nowadays, so how come I still see kids falling out in stores, hitting their parents, screaming at them in the middle of stores b/c they're not getting what they want, questioning parents authority, etc.?
2007-06-28 03:36:29 · 12 answers · asked by King H 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I could not have said it better. I have 5 boys and if any of them would have had the NERVE to even THINK about acting like a fool I would take them right out! lolI believe when youre in public your children should contain themselves not like cavemen but like you have actually had them in public before. I have friends who let their kids run around and IT drives me nuts. I will tell her to sit and her mom will say oh shes only6, shes ok. NOOOOO shes not ok. There are people (who are without kids) who are trying to enjoy dinner. I have actually left because HER kid was acting so bad..NOT MINE! I now ask who all will be joining and if her daughter comes I dont. Her daughter running around (of course) makes my kids want to also. Parents should keep their kids at a reasonable level of noise when in public. If they cant they should leave them at home. It drives me NUTS when I see a kid running around and the parents acting like nothing is wrong. Makes you wonder who is watching them when they are at home. Makes you also wonder what those same parents are going to do 10 yrs from now when those kids spit in their face?!!
2007-06-28 03:44:18 · answer #1 · answered by dee4rad 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
LIGHTEN UP! Kids question authority, we questioned authority, you, the asker, questioned authority, you probably fell a few times, unbelievable though that may seem, and I'm quite sure that at some point in your life you threw a tantrum!
What happened was incredibly rude, the parents should have excused themselves from the table and kept the kids in another room during the toast and intros if they weren't behaving, but, they didn't. Blame the parents, they screwed up, they'll pay for it in therapy bills later. In the meantime focus on the kids around you, your future children or present ones and keep a sense of humor by thinking of all the insane things you did as a tot, and the many times you embarrassed your parents in public too, with or without a carseat at age 11.
2007-06-28 07:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by Julia M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is quite rude, I would not have let my children run around during wedding speeches or toasts - if they were playing up and wouldn't sit still, then I would've taken them outside. Later on, when people are dancing and the formalities are over, well that's a different story - but people listening to the speeches probably had a hard time listening and it would've ruined their enjoyment of the night. However, I don't see a problem with parents bringing toys along for their kids, it shows a prepared parent who does that! I get really annoyed with parents who let their children run wild wherever they are - particularly when they are obviously upsetting others. What can you do though? Not everyone is a great parent, or has learnt parenting skills or even basic manners unfortunately.
2007-06-28 04:50:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, you obviously don't have children. It's either let your children stretch their legs and run around a little bit, or hold them on your lap and have them screaming and throwing a temper tantrum. It's not like you can spank them in public either, because God forbid some left-wing phsyco path might see you disciplining your child and call Protective Services on you. As far as in stores, we live in the Midwest and we shop at Walmart. When my children act up in the store, they get their little butt popped. They know then to behave. But, wait until you have kids - you'll understand better then. I agree that running behind the head table at the wedding was more than a little bit rude. I usually don't let my kids get 10 feet away from me if it's a sit-down formal event. But, if it's like a wedding dance or something, I'll let them run around with other kids and have a blast. They're only kids once ya know.
2007-06-28 03:52:02 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Mrs. GM2*~ 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I see no problem with parents bringing quiet toys for their kids to play with. I have a 2 year old and if he didn't have his Hot Wheels he would be getting into everything everywhere. I don't allow temper tantrums, and he doesn't get what ever he was fussing for if he starts whining because I don't tolerate it, but I can not see asking a toddler to sit still for several hours straight without *something* to occupy him.
I'm sorry your brother's wedding was ruined by active kids and their inattentive parents. That was rude on the part of the parents.
It sounds like you don't have any kids yet (I'm sorry if I'm wrong on that one). One day you may have a little more understanding for those parents and their kids--even if what they did was inappropriate.
2007-06-28 04:14:27 · answer #5 · answered by Lucie 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't understan this either. I would NEVER let my daughter do that. In fact I was at a wedding this weekend & I did not bring her. She would have been bored. When kids are bored they get into trouble. Everyone kept saying where is your daughter? I don't think weddings are for kids & can't understand why parents thing it's "cute" to let them run around all over the place.
2007-06-28 05:10:53 · answer #6 · answered by Cheyenne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wedding is not exactly a public function. And if children are not welcome, it is up to the bride & groom to exclude them from the invitation.
A reception is a party, why can't kids be kids there? Sure it would be a good idea to have a kids' corner but why are adults allowed to have a good time and kids aren't? If the bride and groom aren't bothered, why should you be.
Edit: I can see that mine is not a popular answer but I stand by it. I have seen appalling behaviour by adults at such events (particularly after a few drinks) and frankly I'd rather hear the happy chatter of kids rather than the post-martini karaoke of the "grownups".
2007-06-28 04:08:08 · answer #7 · answered by Lyn 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
terribly rude! I would have yanked my kids up and left. Id rather miss the wedding and ruin it for me than the people who really mattered that day! Sounds like selfish parents and kids behaving badly. My 4 and 5 year old wouldnt dream of embarassing me like that. And I DO NOT have to spank them to get those results.
2007-06-28 03:42:29 · answer #8 · answered by *Krista* 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's awful! Just yesterday I was in Target and kept hearing this kid screaming I WANT IT!!! over and over and over. The worst part was the mom just kept going down the aisle and not saying a WORD to him other than shhhh. I wanted to go over and smack her!
You can discipline your kids by spanking or however without hurting them. I DO spank my niece when she needs it. At 5, she now understands you don't do things like that.
I take her to story time at the library and the kids and the parents talk and are so rude to the librarian. Annoying!
2007-06-28 03:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by Jenn H 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Talk about good answers!
They probably can't wait for school to be in session so they can send the little "darlings" off to let the teachers try to make them act like human beings. They love to make 'em. Hate to take care of 'em.
2007-06-28 03:47:57 · answer #10 · answered by jack of all trades 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋