15-year-old mother to 1-year-old baby and danger?

Question

My 15-year-old daughter has a 1-year-old baby boy (no father around).The baby is moving easily and trying to walk and she all the time plays with him as if he was a doll.She is careless - leaves him near an open window and on high places without her around (he might fall down).She doesn't prevent him from dangerous things and when I talk to her she says "He is not stupid,he knows".How can I explain to her that he doesn't know?

Answer 1

You need to show her, before God forbid something happens. She is still a baby herself, and does not know. She seems a little immature, for being a mother to me. Good luck though.

Answer 2

Is it possible your daughter has changed her mind about being a mother? Kids this age are not ready to be parents and she may be putting this child in danger on purpose because she doesn't see any other way out. Do you understand what I'm saying here? If this baby were to have an unfortunate accident she would be free to be a child again. I think you need to step in , talk to her and see about adopting this child legally. She should not under any circumstances be left alone with this baby!
After reading that you raped your daughter when she was six, I take back what I said about you adopting this baby! Your daughter and the baby should be removed from your care immediately! I don't believe you raped her only once, you have probobly been doing it all along. Is this baby yours? This puts things into a whole new perspective. You are an animal, do the right thing for once and give them both up. Your a pedophile and have no business around any children.

Answer 3

At 15 she should be more mature than this. After all most teens start babysitting at age 13 or so. I find this very worrysome. You need to get her some parenting classes, honestly she needs some help. She is responsible for this child, but since she is underage you are just as responsible. If she can't care for the child you need to step in and you can legally. She should be able to grasp these safety concerns, it worries me that she doesn't . Until she is able to understand these things you are going to have to be the parent and step in. It's your obligation. If something were to happen you might be charged with neglect as well, especially if you don't step in. He is not a doll and needs a mother who understands that. Do not allow her to leave him near an open window, get locks on the windows if need be. Explain to her that she will be held criminally responsible if something happened to him, including possible trial as an adult.

If parenting classes don't help you may need to have HER evaluated develomentally because at her age she should be able to grasp these concepts. She may not be competent at this point.

I was a mother at 16. But I babysat from the age of 12. I was always concerned about safety, etc. I hope some really good parenting classes help. Especially some that focus on a child developmental process, ages and stages, etc. Because she doesn't grasp his developmental abilities. I would also buy her a good book on developmental stages of toddlers and children, etc. Read it with her if she needs it.

You might also look into seeing if there are support groups for teen moms in your area, many of these non profit organizations have mentors for teen mothers who help them along. If all other avenues have been exhausted and she still doesn't grasp it you may need to get help through social services especially if she is a danger to the baby.

In the meantime at NO time should she ever be left alone with the child. Otherwise this situation could very well end in disaster.

If she were my child I would get her evaluated immeditely by a developmental psychiatrist just to ensure there isn't more going on here. Perhaps she just isn't capable of grasping this. But something has to be done right away.

Answer 4

Wow...only 15, and I'm 15.

Okay, erm she raised this child on her own?
Before the boy was one. Like when she gave birth to him, she took care of him until now. Did she?
Does she love him?
She should be old enough to know that he doesn't know. Did she babysit little kids before? If she really really really love her baby boy then she'll really prevent him from doing dangerous stuff. Now I don't know her so I'm not implying that she does love him or not. But maybe you can try explaining to her the scientific way. She will probably ignore you and says I know I know. I'll feel like that if I were her. OR
You can just let her do what she does and let her learn her lesson herself.

Answer 5

Introduce her to CPS. The have qualified people who can tell her what could happen to her baby boy and what could happen to her if she doesn't watch a little better. Also, get her into a parenting class. At 15, the realities of life are not real to her-which is probably how she ended up pregnant to begin with. It's the "it will never happen to me" syndrome.

Answer 6

Tell her its not that he would be stupid by falling down, its that he really does not know, its gonna be hard to tell, tell her that he is 1 for gods sake and will get hurt. Maybe make up some stories about small kids falling out of windows and stuff, and then they get the child taken from them forever, while the mother is in jail.

Answer 7

Find a parenting class for her to attend and SIGN HER UP. Until that time, however, make sure she is not left alone with the baby! His life and well-being are in your hands. What you have is a child looking after a child!

Answer 8

See if there is a video that you can rent that shows what happens. I went to parenting classes granite I was 24 at the time. But it helped me out with at lot for things. Made me understand things that I THOUGHT I knew but DIDN'T. With out a father around is hard I know. I hope she learns that what her son is doing can harm him, before it is to late. best of luck

Answer 9

she needs to pay more attention. I would show her a situation. like letting the baby get a hold of a butter knife Ask the teenager"What if that was a sharp knife?? Would the baby know the difference??" That may wake her up. She needs to be more responsible. also if you find that the baby is where he can fall but not hurt himself too bad let her see if he will fall but be close to catch him. then ask her did he know about that.

Answer 10

Physically it would be fine the body is ready to concieve when a period is first taken. The hips of a 15year old will not have widenned fully so childbirth may be more difficult than say a 25 year old woman. Socially u risk ruining ur education but law states that u must stay at school till ur 16 whether ur pregant or not. I personally think that a 15year old is only starting to come out of a child like faze themselves. The responsibility of a baby is enourmous and there will have to be a lot of growing up done. The baby is priority this is where a 15year old will feel like theyve had their childhood taken away from them. If the friend are good they will support but will struggle not to distance themselves it will be a completely different life in comparison bad friends will disappear but thats always good. My advice is to always put the baby first but if friendships are important do not talk about the baby all the time, 15 year olds want to talk about fashion and boyfriends which is totally normal and the 15 year old needs to keep that up as well and live her youth. Friends can help by being supportive thru pregnancy, birth and looking after baby but they need to take into consideration that the girl will be tired and her priorities have changed.