Parenting - February 2007

He is becoming more intrested in what he wears to school and friends than his homework or paying attention in class. How do I explain that school and getting his work done is the more important than how he looks being more intrested in friends without damaging his social spirits? What can I do to help him find a healhty balance between school and social skills? With out degrading what I know is a very important part of a ten yearold boy's life.

2007-02-16 06:48:40 · 4 answers · asked by thehunterandtheprincess 1

my mom its fine cuz she did this with me when i was two months
my son is almost two months old and i was wondering if i should start feeding him baby cereal and apple souce he was 9 lb 12 oz when he was born and hes about 11 lb now and he doesent seemed pleased with just the formula so does any one els do this?
can any one give some advice on this?
he goes to the docter next week but i was just curiouse if the old fashiond way is better.

2007-02-16 06:44:10 · 14 answers · asked by SANCHA 2

I have one son and I think sometimes that I actually love him too much. I dont ever go places without hiim, he goes to m DR appt with me, i dont get babysitters to go out and do things, I dont leave him with my husband, and I often think to myself if something ever happened to my son I would take my own life. Are these normal thoughts that mothers think or am I just over the top?

2007-02-16 06:43:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I work hard to provide for our children. He works full time and I work about 15-20 hours a week... Recently my cousin was telling me about this girl that she works with that has 5 children by 5 differnt guys (the girl is only 22) and she CUT her hours at work so that her welfare benefits would not go down.. I thought welfare was there for families who were TRYING to get back on their feet... Do you agree with me???

2007-02-16 06:34:49 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-02-16 06:21:16 · 19 answers · asked by peace 1

Friends' 5 year old son used to like dolls and wear girls' clothes... So he started giving him a lot of toy guns and stuff, taking him to sports, and even allow him to play with matches and break stuff with baseball bat... Now he is 7 and does not have any feminine signs. Should he stop or continue the manly education?

2007-02-16 06:18:47 · 7 answers · asked by Rona9 2

The family who adopted my baby wants me to move there with them so they can help me with school. We talk on the phone alot and have a great relationship. We all agree that it may be helpful to my daughter as well. We understand that this may be a different kind of situation, but we also believe that it can work if everyone is honest about thier feelings and intentions. I dont in any way feel jealous towards them when they send me pics of the whole family (they have six children my daughter included)
my daughter is very sick and that was an unexpected thing she I feel I want to be there to spend time with her that may not be there in the future. I wanted an open adoption and God blessed me with that, but what do I do about her unexpected illness. I can't walk away from that but at the same time I still feel so confused about it all. She is only 8 months old so this is still a new situation.
please help with your advice

2007-02-16 06:08:32 · 16 answers · asked by Miss Sassy 2

Buying a 2 seater convertible that's $3000 or best offer even though I have a kid. I have 2 other cars. One is completely reliable,farely new,an SUV, and broken in. The other has 4 doors questionable and old, but reliable so far. My neighbor is against my decision to buy the other and telling me to get something else because I have a child. Am I wrong?

2007-02-16 05:27:46 · 9 answers · asked by So'sYerFace 4

He's had it for a couple of weeks now, he's 7wks. And it's just around his moth. Little red bumps, and some of them look white in the middle. It's on his chin above his upper lip, and cheeks next to his mouth. Could it be from breastfeeding and rubbing on my skin with milk irritating it? Some days look better than others....why? Any advice will help. Thanks!!!!!

2007-02-16 05:06:13 · 10 answers · asked by Melissa t 2

I love reading children's books. They are so cute and entertaining and informative and wonderful and and and ( I thought all those ands where just funny). I would love to write children's books and I am wondering with all the competition and selection, what could help me sell and get started in this field.

What would I have to do for you to purchase my children's books? I thought of being on Oprah but I would like some more ideas.

2007-02-16 04:40:51 · 3 answers · asked by porsha226 4

Personally I look at my 13 month old son and think that no matter what he ever ever ever did, I would never spank him. I'd let my little angel baby run me over with my own car before I would let him have it. But then my SIL's son, who is a little older, throws a cup of milk on my floor and I could string him up by his toes! So I have a new-founded sympathy for parents who let their kids get away with murder, because I might be one of them one day.
But I don't want to be one extreme or the other, and I don't want to raise a bad kid. I got spanked once or twice with my dad, and am still resentful to this day. My mom smacked me more often, but it wasn't as dramatic, and it only fueled my rage, not causing any real physical pain, and again, I still get mad when I think about it. The fact is my sister and I were good girls and its either because of or in spite of the disipline.
I'm just lost sometimes when I think about what kind of parent produces what kind of kid. Anwers?

2007-02-16 04:18:11 · 28 answers · asked by Jennifer 2

I recently planned an evening with three other couples (two of the couples have children). No one mentioned children and I assumed the couples with children would be leaving their kids home with sitters. Though the evening had to be cancelled for unrelated reasons, I later found out both couples had planned on bringing their kids. When I was young, my parents would never have taken me out with their friends without mentioning it first. Has etiquette changed?

2007-02-16 04:08:52 · 16 answers · asked by Madison 1

Sometimes my 15 week old baby boy breaks off from feeding and starts smiling and 'chatting' into space - it's just like someone is standing over him and he's communicating with them. Another mother told me that up to a certain age, children can see 'spirit' people around them. I'm inclined to dismiss this as complete rubbish, but does anyone out there think there's anything in it? Thanks!

2007-02-16 03:50:43 · 39 answers · asked by Alison 2

In your opinion, are there negative and positive effects on leaving very far from your parents?
If yes...which ones?

2007-02-16 03:21:49 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My stepson is 12. He has stolen from my husband and I and also from my brother before. However, he no longer lives with us so I thought that we wouldn't have to deal with him stealing from us anymore. I had about $700.00 in a fire proof lock box, that was set aside to pay our property taxes. I know that he knew the money was in there, because right before school started this year, I got into the box and I had a little over $800.00 and I took out $100.00 to buy him and my son school clothes. He had walked by my door when I was getting the money out, so I know he knew I had money in that box. I kept the keys by my jewelry box and I know he probably saw me put it back. If someone had broken in and stole it, they wouldn't have passed up everything else in the house, just to take that money, plus a robber wouldn't have known to go straight to my bedroom and look in that box. His mother is going to try to get to the bottom of this this afternoon. Can I call the police with little proof?

2007-02-16 02:46:11 · 15 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5

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2007-02-16 01:49:04 · 12 answers · asked by justuraverageperson 2

My Mother in law has a very bad alcohol and drug problem. She tortured her children to the extent of allowing her boyfriend to rape her daughter when she was 8 for money... She says shes changed and lies to me about her drug and alcohol usage. I really dont want my son to grow up around these things and I'm afraid she'll hurt him, maybe not physically but more on an emotional level. Plus the way she lives her life I know one day it will kill her and No parent wants to see there child hurt by death especially one that could be avoided. at the same time I dont want to take my son away from her, he's the only stability in her life and she does love him. help!!!

2007-02-16 01:33:20 · 23 answers · asked by Kais Mommy 1

My Sara since the age 9mt started w/ syotic breath holding. Dr said not life threat At 2 she slapt Gram in the face and 1wk later me. At 3 she began steeling(norm) kinder. steal from class mates bad 2 teacher hit others 1st gr. Lies about self achievements and gifts from mates, all stolen. We moved to Germany at 7yrs. Put in 1st because lang. barrier "weeks in teacher said see a Dr. she needs meds. took her Dr. said no drugs she is high intellectual intelli near end of school yr she was hurt at school falling from tree no damag 5 days in hosp 4 test ok Teacher said 2 me + hus. it was the best class all year while she was away. The school said she must go some other sch.
Next sch. same prob. Sara says it is everyone else not her.She has really no friends,she doesn't come home, she runs away from sch. so I can't find her comes home at 10 or 11 at night. Steals from stores, friends, parents, us,she refuses any rules smart mth. I am home and hus. works. 2 smlr. kids 3 and 5mths.good kids

2007-02-16 01:15:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my girlfriend plan to get married in about a year and she has a son but no father listed on his birth certificate because the father wanted no part and denied the child and she didn't want to deal with the father so she left him off of it. She wants me to adopt...is there any way in North Carolina that I can adopt her child before we get married? Thanks in advance for any help!

2007-02-16 01:08:32 · 13 answers · asked by racersimage 2

She was saying don't do this, don't even think about doing that, and the girl wasn't even doing anything.
She then called her a spiteful cow and said well I'm not going to even bother talking to you now you're not worth it.
My question is why did she even bother having kids in the first place? And why can't she what a ***** she looks like? I would have talked to her and asked her why she was doing it but she probably would have hit me but I feel sorry for her child.If your mother wishes you don't exist the nyou can't have a very happy life

2007-02-16 00:40:36 · 26 answers · asked by cigaro19 5

do you think that it is okay for same-sex couples to be able to have or adopt children and why?

please give me your name or a fake name (first and last) and an occupation and an age so that i can write it into my paper.

THANK YOU SO MUCH!

2007-02-16 00:14:34 · 16 answers · asked by lori 2

Do you think bad children are the result of bad parenting? Basically is it nature or nurture which causes children to become bad, and then later bad adults. I ask this because I see some parents on TV blame their children for being bad (ie disrepectful, violent, doing drugs, stealing). But I wondered if bad parenting might have something to do with it. For instance, if I spoil my pets, they become bratty. How can one prevent raising a bad child?

2007-02-15 23:42:33 · 28 answers · asked by wcarolinew 2

Whenever my 2-year-old nephew coughs, my father, who helps look after him in the daytime, coughs louder in order to deafen my nephew's coughs. I find this really annoying and it makes me mad because it feels like my father is drowning my nephew's own voice and it feels like intimidation, and I'm afraid it could affect my nephew's self-esteem when he goes to kindy school onwards. What's your view on this? Thanks in advance.

2007-02-15 23:41:16 · 5 answers · asked by xander 5

Hi I am thinking of having kids. But I often hear that stay-at-home moms (I would probably stay at home) have no time for themselves. Is this true? C'mon, they don't even have a half hour? Are moms truly occupied every moment? Don't children go to sleep? Don't they occupy themselves with toys? Moms make it sound like they are doing something every moment. Is this really true? If I could have one hour a day, I would be happy. What is your schedule like as a mom? Okay, thanks for your help. And I hope I worded things right, because I am a terrible writer! :)

2007-02-15 23:37:00 · 30 answers · asked by wcarolinew 2

I have met many parents who have confided in me that they regret their children and secretly hate them. I have been shocked. It makes me feel very sorry for the child. And I can't imagine feeling that way. And if I did, I would probably never say it, least of all to someone like me who shouldn't really know that kind of business. But it seems to be common. I am wondering this because I am thinking of having children, but I don't want to be someone who regrets them. What do you think? Do you regret your children? Thanks.

2007-02-15 23:33:02 · 16 answers · asked by wcarolinew 2

was to my own parents and for never once thinking of them as individuals who at one point in time had their own hopes/aspirations etc which they put on hold/gave up for us kids.. worked long hours, struggled with cash etc yet at the time we felt hard done by and took them for granted.. now if I'm honest part of me now selfishly feels sad that my life in the respect of it being set in stone is over, I am the mother now (2 a fab 2 year old) and I think given what my parents went through I imagine the same long montony and ungrateful/materialistic kids at the end of it.. maybe it is part of the next stage of growing up? All of a sudden I feel like the grown up (at age 30!?).. then I feel sad on my daughter's part, I do all possibly can for her but I feel so worried that she too will have the same heartaches/tribulations that we all did and so am intensley worried for her. I also feel guilty in that lately family life is not at all how as an outsider looking in I imagined it to be.

2007-02-15 20:33:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

if the baby has dropped..is it possible to get a C-section? or the babys head is pretty much stuck down there??

2007-02-15 20:01:44 · 9 answers · asked by Pookie 1

I was reading an article about how undisciplined our kids are and a couple of pages later where a police arrested a family for spanking their child. Are we to go through these " time outs, talkings and other psychological assessments" and let our kids grow up with the notion that if the adults "get out of line, call 911", or do we risk that and discipline our kids accordingly without the fear of " society" coming down on us for alleged abuse! I am so sick of society calling the parents to chastise their children and then switch out on them when they do. I believe either we do it or we wait until prison officials do it. At that time it is to late and our kids will be "beaten" by people who don't really care!

2007-02-15 20:01:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-02-15 18:36:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

my friend and her boyfriend are 12 they been dating for 5 mouths her boy friend been dieing to go to her house..... but you see she wont let him because her little sis...i think she already did it and i dont know because they are always saying they have the stuff.. and what is that stuff who knows i just hope she is not ahveing a baby

2007-02-15 18:13:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous