Me and my girlfriend plan to get married in about a year and she has a son but no father listed on his birth certificate because the father wanted no part and denied the child and she didn't want to deal with the father so she left him off of it. She wants me to adopt...is there any way in North Carolina that I can adopt her child before we get married? Thanks in advance for any help!
2007-02-16 01:08:32 · 13 answers · asked by racersimage 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She's already pregnant with my first biological child...I want to adopt hers and nothing will change that...I just want to do it before we get married if possible.
2007-02-16 01:15:54 · update #1
I'm pretty sure you have to wait until you are married, I live in Florida and that is the law here... Since there isn't a name on the birth certificate you may not even have to adopt him though you might be able to just add your name I would call the court house and find out it might just be a matter of adding your name and changing his last name, you might have to pay for the name change but I think you can add your name to the certificate for free, this will save you money on the adoption fees... Definitely something you should look into....
2007-02-16 01:17:38 · answer #1 · answered by B-E-B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure if this is the same in NC but in OK, if the parents are unmarried there is an affadavit that the father has to sign that states he understands that he is the father, if he signs this document willingly then he his name is put on the birth certificate and he is the father in all eyes of the law. If the man doesn't sign the form that is when a paternity test comes into play.
I am currently in the same situation. I have a 6 month old son that his "sperm donor" is not involved in any way. He took off when I was pregnant and I have never heard from him again. I didn't put his name on the birth certificate and I have no plans of pursuing child support from him. Me and my current boyfriend plan on marrying within the next 2 years. He calls my son his and my son will always know him as daddy. when we get married he is going to sign the affadavit stating that he is my son's father and his name will go on the birth certificate and my son's last name will change.
Hope this helps.
2007-02-16 05:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay you might have a very nice lady there to marry. But I give you this warning. We had a friend in North Carolina who loved this gal he was living with and she had 4 kids from a previous marriage. He would always complain what a deadbeat Dad the father was.. so when they married he adopted those kids. 3 years later they got a divorce.. and guess what!? he has to pay child support for the rest of his life.. even though those kids are not his own. So if I was you let it alone. If you split up you will be libel for the child support forever!!
2007-02-16 01:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The father of the other child would need to give up his parental rights legally before any adoption can take place.
2007-02-16 01:24:28 · answer #4 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go to the court house with the original birth certificate and fill out a paternity affidavit acknowledging paternity of the child. Have it notarized and send it to dept. of vital stats. for renewal of birth certificate listing you as the father. If there is no father listed on the birth certificate you can have your name added as the acknowleding father and not have to go through the adoption process. It is cheaper, easier, and quicker. I commend you for being a stand up man.
2007-02-16 01:35:55 · answer #5 · answered by micg 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You will just need to go to the court house and fill out some papers. With no father on the birth certificate I dont think it will be much of a hassle at all.
2007-02-16 01:12:05 · answer #6 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to visit your County Clerk and them for the paperwork. I think it is very admirable that you want to do this. I suggest you do wait until you are married because if you ever decide not to get married, you are legally entitled to care for this child until it reaches of age. Congrats on being a stand-up guy.
2007-02-16 01:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by Mum to 2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations! I wish you the best of luck. I would go to the court house and talk to a lawyer. If you are worried about child support get a pre-nup. If not more power to you.
2007-02-16 01:25:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be a tard!! First of all, get married 1st. If after a year or 2 you still feel the same way, then adopt. Do you want to get stuck with child support payments for a child that isn't yours??
2007-02-16 01:13:28 · answer #9 · answered by aksnowman31 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
It's great that you want a family, and know what it takes to have one. Love your children as equals, no matter how many you eventually have in your family, and they will return that love in the future, when you need them most. You have a great, loving future in store for you.
2007-02-16 02:52:43 · answer #10 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋