I was reading an article about how undisciplined our kids are and a couple of pages later where a police arrested a family for spanking their child. Are we to go through these " time outs, talkings and other psychological assessments" and let our kids grow up with the notion that if the adults "get out of line, call 911", or do we risk that and discipline our kids accordingly without the fear of " society" coming down on us for alleged abuse! I am so sick of society calling the parents to chastise their children and then switch out on them when they do. I believe either we do it or we wait until prison officials do it. At that time it is to late and our kids will be "beaten" by people who don't really care!
2007-02-15 20:01:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You and me both are old school. I am raising 3 girls who all know what a good old fashioned spanking is. You can have the police called on you for anything, and they have to investigate, it's their job. However, spanking (as long as you don't leave permanent marks, other then temporary redness) is NOT illegal in the US and Canada. I don't know about other countries, but here in the states, it's legal. The furthest they have gotten to banning it, is in California, where they are trying to pass a bill that would make spanking a child UNDER 3 illegal (don't worry it won't pass, lol)
So, your right, kids these days are WAY out of control. Spanking is one of many reasons i believe is the reason.
Thank goodness there are other parents out there not afraid to do the hard stuff too.
Good Luck
2007-02-15 20:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 5⤊ 3⤋
I firmly beleive that each parent needs to discipline their child in the way that the child best responds to. For some, like my little brother, no ammount of spankings would work. For me, just the threat of a swat was enough to keep me in line. I have developed my own form of discipline for my daughter (who is almost 2), and she responds well to it. If she is deliberatly disobeying me, or doing something that could cause herself or someone/something else harm: she gets a warning, and I attempt to show her something different she could be doing. If that doesnt work, she gets a look right in the eyes, a swat on the hand or bottom, followed by a hug and an explanation of WHY she got in trouble, and what she could do differently next time.
This works extremely well for her, and I rarely have to use it, as she normally responds to firm and non-angy verbal warnings. I NEVER swat her when I am angry. I do NOT support just whooping a childs butt on a regular basis, and think there are other ways to get the point across. But to a very young child, sometimes just a swat is what it takes to get their attention and drive your point home. A child past about the age of 5 or 6 should have other forms of discipline, as they can better understand warnings and reasoning. I understand how some people react negatively to spanking. You often see frazzled parents just whooping the daylights out of their kids for even the smallest thing. Personally, I dont hold being spanked against my parents, and fully acknowlege that it was often the only way to get thru to me.
Everyone who meets our daughter comments on how she is the most well-adjusted and LOVING child they have ever met. We must be doing something right. Spare the rod, spoil the child.
Discipline should be done lovingly, not violently, and parents with a tendency to lose their temper should NOT spank.
Being consistent makes a big difference. Holding your child to the same rules at all times is important. If you let something slide once, you cant blame the child for expecting to get away with it again.
2007-02-16 04:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Then I'm old school too.
There is nothing wrong with a spanking when needed.
A spanking is merely a form of discipline and it has many forms and its up to the parent NOT Society to decide what form of discipline a child needs. Every child responds differently. As long as you DO NOT discipline in anger and you make sure the child understands why the discipline is being given that way the discipline is effective. The discipline can be in the form of a spank, a time out, losing privileges and etc. I think its a personal decision based on the child of what type of discipline is needed.
2007-02-16 06:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by joyofjoys 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I completely understand where you are coming from. I just think we need to follow what the bible has to say about it, "spare the rod, spoil the child". I just had a little girl on the first of the year and her mom and i were talking about discipline and she asked me what my ideas on them were. I say if they need it do it and if they don't like it there is a possibility that they will call 911, but that's just a risk that i have to take. I mean we could be over in that country where a few years back the boy got flogged for doing something. I think my child would much more rather get a spanking from me than to be flogged in public!
2007-02-16 06:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by DANK 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
People who spank their children obviously believe that the only way to keep their kids in line is FEAR. Quite pathetic. Childhood should not be painful especially since the child did not choose to come into this world. Spanking a child is sending the message that the adult is too lazy to take the time to explain why the behavior is wrong. It also reveals the mean streak in the parent.
2007-02-16 11:37:54 · answer #5 · answered by pepper 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I'm 26 and I believe in spanking. My parents did it for me and all of my siblings. I have no problem with disciplinary spanking. I have no problem with alchoholic beating. Spanking is teaching the child a lesson. They think twice before they do something wrong, because they think about getting spanked. Therefore they dont do it. Until the 70's parents could do pretty much whatever the hell they wanted with their kids. You dont see a bunch of depressed, insane, products of child abuse all over our world. Ok there might be a few cases where the spanking turns into beating, but if it in disciplinary cases, then I have no problem with it.
2007-02-16 06:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
the issue is not spanking or not spanking. The issue is parents that are not strict enough. You can be strict by spanking or not spanking. But kids need bouderies and strictness. They need that. They also need to be able to be treated as adults when they act like it. "society is going to pot' is silly. Kids do act up, but that is because the paretns and kids that are screaming attratc all the attention. Their are many sucessful parents that are doing wonderful who are raising wonderful children. i am one of them. I do it without spanking, but that is my choice. It is not about spanking or not spanking, it is about what a parent tolerates as behaviour in their home.
2007-02-16 04:13:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Right now it is just a "fad" not to spank. I believe we will soon see people encouraging spanking again. I will spank my children when needed. I would rather have a child with hurt feelings from a spanking than a child who got run over by a car.
2007-02-16 10:31:16 · answer #8 · answered by TRUE PATRIOT 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I was never spanked and I don't believe in spanking. I was quite an obedient child and my parents didn't have problems with me. In the rare occasions when I was disobedient they would ban watching TV for a week, stop talking to me for a few hours or something similar. It worked perfectly.
2007-02-16 10:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by nelabis 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
then i'm old school to. i don't spank mine as often as they need it but i will do it. timeouts and losing things don't seem to fase them but a spanking does the trick even if for only a little while.i'd rather spank mine then have to visit them in a correctional facility.
2007-02-16 06:43:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋