What makes a bad child?

Question

Do you think bad children are the result of bad parenting? Basically is it nature or nurture which causes children to become bad, and then later bad adults. I ask this because I see some parents on TV blame their children for being bad (ie disrepectful, violent, doing drugs, stealing). But I wondered if bad parenting might have something to do with it. For instance, if I spoil my pets, they become bratty. How can one prevent raising a bad child?

I want to raise a good child. Does anyone have any tips?

Answer 1

I think lack of support for the child can lead to a bad child. Lack of positive reinforcement and lack of quality time can also lead to bad children. I don't think there is one specific thing that makes a child go bad. I think it takes a lot of "work" to raise a successful and happy child.

Answer 2

I believe a bad child ultimately comes from bad parenting. Adults know right from wrong, children know what adults teach them. Loving you child does not mean that the child always gets his/her way all of the time. There has to be guidelines put in place for all children. It's never fun seeing a child cry because he/she didn't get his/her way, but it is always nice to see a child respecting his/her parents. Here are some guidelines I follow: 1) Once you have verbalized a punishment or consequences for a child doing something wrong, you have to stick with it no matter what! Even if you feel maybe he/she didn't deserve to be grounded for an entire week, you jumped the gun because you were upset, once you have said it out loud it has to stick. 2) Always be consistent. Bad behavior can't be punishable one day and not the next just because you would rather not deal with it today. 3) Always praise them when they have done something good. 4) Above all else make sure your kids know that you love them very much!

Answer 3

I do not think bad parents make bad kids.. (not all the time) You just have to be strict with them. and try to talk to them when you know when they have problem and that you are there when they need you. Spend time with as much as you can.. because most teenager leave home for school... You have nurture them to be good. But not to spoiled, and while someone grow up learn a lot of things from they parents and at school. Teach them not be steal or lie or do drugs.. and not every kids come out bad when they have bad parents.. Especial when you get two busy parents who work a lot and doesn't have as much time to spend with they kids.. And when they get little older explain to them that you work because you put food on the table and pay the bills.. They should help around the house. And Family is important then anything in this world..


what make bad kid is when the family is doing drugs, get arrest for stealing, drink a lot and sell they body for money. and beat them half to dead.. and when it ask what happen they have to lie. and much more.. how it make bad kid. but not always bad parents make bad kids sometime they make good kid because they learn from they parents mistakes and not do it...

Answer 4

Bad parenting, bad schools, bad friends, bad environment...they all add up and mean more or less depending on the age of the child. There are those few that have physical (like brain chemical imbalance) or emotional problems that are bad, but those children truly are few. Just as there are wonderful people out there that come from the dregs...bad to worse and have somehow rose above it all. You have to wonder when you witness it. No one will ever really know nature or nurture...but they both play important parts in the upbringing of a child.

Answer 5

Bad parenting. A child will not act awful if the parents raise them right. Then again i know some people that did raise their kids right and then their kids turned out to be dope heads, rogues and troublemakers. When someone does raise their kids right and they turn out like that then it is the child's fault.
I hate how some people say "Peer Pressure" because that is so not true. I was offered drugs and drinking but did i? NO.

When they are babies don't spoil them, don't give into everything they want because they will expect to get what they want at all times. Don't bribe them to be good or they will blackmail you later. -I know people like this-
Just be the best parent you can be cause that is all you can do and hope they turn out good.

Answer 6

Bad parenting makes for "bad" children. Lack of dicipline from the parents, being raise by parents who have no respect, parents hanging with the "wrong crowd".

Parents should lead by example, if thier children are being violent and disrespectful, it's something they picked up along the way.

Drugs.....this one is more difficult. If you're not doing drugs and your friends arent, you can only hope that you are paying enough attention to the types of kids and thier families that your child is hanging around. Good, positive influences will hopefully keep your kids from experimenting with and using drugs.

Answer 7

Well there are 2 things I see.. most parents won't swat their kid in the diaper area when they misbehave, this is a total mistake. One swat in the rear is not abuse and it really has the kid relate a swat (ie 'NO" in no uncertain terms) with bad behavior.
The other problem is alot of mothers take illegal drugs, this messes up a kids brain in the formative time in the womb. Many teens are this way and doctors can actually can see that lobe that governs concience is not where it belongs or smaller or not even there. So if a child does not understand right and wrong and doesn't respond to punishment we are going to have a lot of problems on our hands in the very near future.

Answer 8

In many cases, yes i believe short comings at home and calling a child "bad" will in fact result in trouble. TV is NOT to blame. There should be a parent available to explain anything which might confuse a child on tv or other. Maybe not in 100% of cases, but many I do hold the parents responsible.

Answer 9

Oh you have seen MAURY too, uh... It's the parents..When the toddler does something bad like curse and everyone thinks it's so cute. Then that toddler grows up into an adolescent who then gets to much time by themselves with butterfly hormones stirring in them. Then they now are preteens/teens with raging hormones and never an adult around because of work, partying, one of those reasons. The kids are getting affection and discipline from the streets, and some love is better than no love, now we have a teenagers thinking they can do better than their parents not knowing they have not been taught the basic living skills to survive. It's a shame. Be there, no matter what, listen no matter what, have understanding, and lots of patience.

Answer 10

I believe "bad" kids are the result primarily of being spoiled.
How to avoid it?
I would start with respect, chores and Expecting Respect.
Respect their sense of self by reacting to each child as an individual - different tactics work with different kids. Respect their intellect by Expecting them to do their share around the house before they do anything extra. No TV, no PC ( don't get me started on computers in any kids room under the age of 16 )
no play at all until their chores are done. Chores can be given as young as 2 as far as I'm concerned. A child can pick up their toys before bed, or as they are playing - learn to put one away before playing with another. If they spill on the floor, they can help Momma or Daddy clean it up ( cause and effect - a great learning tool ). Expect respect back from them. Do not fall into the guilt trap if you have to work outside the home. All the more reason they should be helping. We had a rule in our family when my daughters were growing up. ( I was a single mom for part of it ).. 3 people lived in the apt, 3 people did the work of maintaining it.
Respect them, Expect their best, Expect Respect in return.
Kids live up, or down, to your expectations.
Chores are not punishment. They are making the kids part of the family and there is nothing better for helping them feel self-respect and learn the feeling of accomplishment that will take them far.