It seems that a baby is 24/7/365 hard work, so where and when and how do parents find or make the time for themselves, their own interests, and their hobbies? How does being a parent help a person to self-actualize, if the great majority of their attention, time, resources, money and energy is allocated to tending a baby, working and tending their homes?
Also, why do a lot of women, once they have children, seem to let go of their personal identities or at least put their identities on the back burner, and become mothers first and foremost? Is motherhood THAT all-encompassing? You are yourself first, then a wife if you choose, then a mother if you choose. How hard is it to balance all your roles?
I'm 38 and not interested in having a child. I'm asking because my adult friendships have changed now that some of my friends have children. They're not "themselves" as much; they're more mothers, and I'm finding it hard to relate. Any help is most appreciated. Thank you.
2006-11-08
03:39:18
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Kate
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