my 2 year old nephew will not listen. He always is telling us NO! when i put him in time out he runs yelling NO and laughing. i continue to put him in time out. he came to visit monday and over half the time he has been in time out.....what do i do? am i doing something wrong?
2006-11-08 03:41:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
are you doing anything at all to interact with him, structure his time, help him be entertained? or, are you leaving him on his own, ignoring him, telling him to shush so grownups can talk and then punishing him for responding normally to such a dull and unstimulating environment?
if you have a kid in punishment a lot, you are obviously doing something wrong.
2006-11-08 03:47:24 · answer #1 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You should NOT push and kick her as someone else suggested, then she'll think it's OK behavior. Tell her to stop, if she doesn't, give her time out in a seat in a corner. Don't let her jump up from the seat, just keep her there till she settles down. Repeat as necessary. She is probably jealous so you will have to reward her for good behavior when she displays it. Maybe an M & M when she is treating the other child well. Reward for good behavior, not hitting or yelling, will work with a jealous child.
2016-05-21 21:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by Audrey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's the idiot second from top that suggests you should hit your nephew? Regardless of your personal feelings about discipline, I doubt if people want their extended family to make those choices for them.
That said, not listening, laughing, running away and yelling "No" are the hallmarks of being a two-year old. It is a frustrating, trying time. You aren't doing anything wrong, nor can you really effectively change the way his parents are disciplining him. If he behaves that way at home, they probably should try something besides "time outs" (I personally don't think they work).
2006-11-08 10:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by eli_star 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you using you deeper more serious voice when you put him on time out? I learned alot from watching nanny 911 and it works but its the tone of your voice and consistency that will win in the end. If hes not getting time out at home then hes going to have to learn everyone has different rules and he will learn this. He is probably excited to be at your house but still you must follow through with the time out for bad behavior. Lower you tone of voice and try it a few times and see if that's the problem. Good -luck and hang in there.
2006-11-08 04:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by ~♥ L ♥~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you punishing the child, where are the parents? Maybe you are babysitting - but anyway time out is about consistency and strong will on your part. You have to keep returning them no matter how many times it takes. Although I think time outs don't work for toddlers that young, it didn't for my son. It also depends on the child, my son is very rambunctious and there is nothing I can do about it but talk to him about what he's done wrong or sometimes when he is really bad I send him to his room - or sometimes actually drag him in there and shut the door. I let him stay in there for 2 minutes and when he comes out he apologizes and he thinks twice about doing it again. Now if I warn him with putting him in his room and shutting the door the listens.
2006-11-08 03:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Perhaps you're expecting too much from him? Pick and choose your battles. If you're nitpicky about every little thing, ex he doesn't eat every last bite of lunch, you're not going to get anywhere. Spending all day in time out is just going to get him used to it and he's not going to see it as a punishment anymore. Kids know how to play you, even at that age. Distract him with toys, or play games with him. He may be acting out for attention. Kids can't be ignored and be expected to behave like angels. My inlaws treat my neice that way. Always ignoring and yelling at her. When I'm around I actually talk to her and make her feel important and she's wonderful.
2006-11-08 03:48:54 · answer #6 · answered by dolly 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Youre only half the equation. While you are handling it right by continuing to put him back in the time out chair, you cannot undo all the wrong thats done all the time he's at home.
If his parents are allowing him to behave in this way, theres nothing you can do about it for the few hours or days he's with you.
behavior starts at home.
2006-11-08 03:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Two year olds are often too rambunctious for time outs. Spanking is only appropriate for the parents to do but even then I don't really like that idea. I would put one of his toys in "time out" take away his favorite toy away until he corrects his behavior. Good luck
2006-11-08 03:43:44 · answer #8 · answered by goldengirl 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i have a 2 1/2 yr old and she doen't listen to me but she listens to my husband beter it's just that age they are testing your patience try to ignore the bad behavior and praise the good behavior. it seems to help with my little girl. hope that helps you.
2006-11-08 04:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by HotMilf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's too young for that. 2-year-olds say NO even when they mean yes. You're supposed to ignore it. When he's really naughty, stop him and find something else for him to do. If that doesn't work, then he needs a nap.
2006-11-08 03:49:09 · answer #10 · answered by Kacky 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋