I am 17 and pregnant...please answer this Q!?

Question

Why do people look at teen pregnancy as such a bad thing? They think that just because your a teen and pregnant that you must be a whore and such. That isn't true. I have been with my baby's daddy for a year on christmas. He and I wanted to be together and get married before the baby even happened. I'll be 18 and already graduated when it's born. I am still going to college, just in the spring now. The baby isn't going to ruin everything for me so why do other people look at teen moms so badly?

Answer 1

Some women at a young age are not ready for this kind of commitment and neither are the fathers that's why you see a lot of pregnant teens unmarried and without the father around, because they are too immature to step up to the plate. It's a good thing you're getting married and still plan on going to college your smart. I had my son when i was 18 and i think i'm one of the best parents that i know. It doesn't matter what other people think it's your life and your the one that has to live it. At the end of the day no one else will take care of you but you. Congratulations on the baby and the wedding i'm sure you'll be a great mother and wife!!

Answer 2

The reason is the majority of teen pregnancies happen and they are way to young to care for a baby. Usually the parents take over and raise the child. Not to mention the teens plans usually get delayed and and they can't finish school/college etc. Also, having a baby is such a huge responsibility and it is very life changing it is a 24 hr job. It seems as though you are an exception and have things figured out. Don't let the negativity of people around you ruin your pregnancy. Enjoy yourself it is a blessing. I wish you luck and congratulations.. =)

Answer 3

First off, congratulations. I myself was a teen mother, and while I'm sure there were a lot of people that didn't approve of my being pregnant at 17, I ignored them. I can see why, now, why people think that being a teen mother is a bad thing, since I am now 26 and have gone through enough to be able to look back on my mistakes (I am by NO means calling my son a mistake, just that I got pregnant at such a young age and by a person that I did not stick with and was not in love with). Raising a baby is so hard, and is much harder when you are young and still in school, and most people think that since you got knocked up so early, that you are irresponsible and will never do anything with your life, and they don't realize that, yes, a lot of girls end up jobless, on welfare and what not, but there are the ones like me, who finished high school, went to college, and even though I didn't finish, that was my choice, not because I couldn't do it. I think that I have done right by my children, and my life isn't so bad. I think that older people just have high hopes for the younger generation, and I don't think that shows like Maury does, where they have the 13 year olds going on television acting like skanks and trying to purposefully get pregnant, help our cause much.

Answer 4

People look at teen moms in such a way because alot of young woman arent as responsible as you are... or they figure everything will be ok but in reality having a baby isnt what they though and dont have the fund energy and time to finish school or carry on with a higher education
also they frown apond it cause its not just the 17/18 year old girls getting pregnant and having sex its now 15 year old girls
and alot of the woman have daughters that age and dont want to think that there little girl also could be sexualy active and could wind up in the same situation so they nag on the internet and to anyone who will hear them about how its wrong and there daughter will never be like that

Answer 5

Sometimes things all work out for the young couple. But that's rare. I truly believe that at 16, 17, 18, you don't know what true love is. You haven't had the experience of dating different guys and experiencing different adult situtations with different men. you bodies are still growing and hormones are all over the place. Will you both agree on how to raise your baby? How to disciple him/her-with time outs, spanking, taking toys away, talking about their behavior, etc.? Will you both agree on how to spend your income on a place to live, transportation, foods, baby supplies, entertainment, education, car payments & insurance, health insurance, etc.? Getting along with in-laws and neighbors? There is A LOT to a marriage and being with a boy for one year isn't long enough to truly know that person. You are young and your interests will change in the next 5 years. I'm not saying that your relationship will not last. But chances are it won't. You don't get married because you are happy and having fun. Marriage is a serious commitment, through good and bad situtations, illnesses, injuries, lose of a job, child illnesses, etc. Over half of marriages of 23+ yr olds end in divorce within the first 5 years. Marrying younger than 23 (while in college or even high school) is greater than 75% of ending in divorce within the first 5 years.

I truly hope you are right for each other and things work out. But you have to set aside your lust for each other and talk about real situations that will occur and how you both will handle it. Talk about it now, before the situation happens, so you can understand each other better and there will be less arguing later.

I think adults look at teen pregnancy in a way that it's not that you are a slut (and guys can be sluts also) but that as adults, we have been through things and we know how hard life is and we don't want to see you go through it. I'm 35 and a single mother. It's tough! I'm I didn't go through this when I was 16 or 17 or 20. Being a parent is the most wonderful thing but also the most difficult thing. I will keep the 3 of you in my prayers. I hope it all works out. It can if you are mature enough to look at reality and talk openingly with each other and make plans for the future now. I just think that having sex as a teenager (and having pre-marital sex) is not healthy. Especially emotionally. There is more to life and a relationship than sex. That's only a temporary satisfaction. There are permanent pleasures in life.

Good luck with it all and I hope you have a health pregnancy and baby!

Answer 6

People say things that they shouldn't and labelling a person is wrong. However they say this only because having a baby at an early age puts added stress on the future. Having a plan to get married to the babies father and to continue on your studies is great but you have to realize it's going to be a hard and rocky road.
At seventeen you haven't experienced life just yet, your not married, your not out of college , your not financially stable and your not a mother yet. All you have is a image in your mind of how it should be easy enough but you haven't experienced any of it yet. All these things may not seem important now but the future is unknown, plans change and the future takes you to some nasty turns.
Believe me, at nineteen I was thrown into this life and it has been a long rocky road. I have a wonderful life now but I had to sacrafice a lot and missed out on being young and carefree.

Being a young adult to an adult, have a career, become a wife and then a mother is better way to go only because it is gradual, you understand things better and stress is kept to a minimum. To be thrown into motherhood straight away you still have to deal with the other issues at the same time and the stress will be unbelieveable. (I know).
I wish you the best of luck but please be realistic, your life will not be easy but you can get through it if you try your best.

Answer 7

It's not that people look at you as a whore or such.. When I see a young teen with a small baby or pregnant, I think about how hard it is going to be for her as well as that child. I was 26 before my first was born and it was very difficult then I can't image being 17 and being pregnant. Whether you want to believe it or not my dear, your life will be changed forever.. The child is a miracle and a gift, but it is can be a heavy burden, physically, mentally, emotionally and financially.. I sure hope you have family support and help behind you... I admire you that you are going on with your education and plans, that says alot for you... Good Luck...

Answer 8

Because some teen moms arent ready to settle down and be a mom just yet. Most teens would rather be shopping, hanging out with friends, going out and partying. rather then sitting at home changing diapers. It's harder on teens because at this day and age there not mature enough to be moms. If your ready for all the responsibilty good for you. But if your not it's going to be a big slap of reality in your face! And teens also have hormones raging through there body already. And then they get ten times more when there pregnant. So teens are easyier to get depressed after the baby is born. because they cant just go out with friends they have to sit home, the boyfriend doesnt always want to be there (it's good that yours does, he's a good guy) and the baby wont stop crying. it's hard for teens to handle all of this. Good luck with everything and i hope everything goes well for you and your pregnancy!

Answer 9

I don't see a pg teen and think 'she must be a whore'.

At 18, you are not mature enough to cope with motherhood. It's HARD work, very stressful. Most teens do not have the emotional, financial means to care for a baby on their own. I don't know why anyone would plan a baby that young, you should've taken the time to get to know your bf and yourself, started a career, bought a home etc and had fun partying with friends like people do in their teens/early twenties before you thought about being a mother.
And not many people stay with their "high school sweetheart" for the rest of their lives. Be prepared at some point to become a single mother.

I do think it's great that you are finishing school and going to college still.

Answer 10

People look at teen pregnancy as a bad thing because you yourself are not mature enough to raise a baby. You haven't even experienced life yet and you are bringing another one into the world. I myself look at pregnant teens and think "There goes my tax dollars to another loser that uses the system!" So, come back on here and let us know how you are feeling about this situation after the baby is born.... I guarantee you won't be singing the same tune. I'd be surprised if your baby daddy sticks around much longer too.

Good Luck. Don't be a user and a loser. Giver your child a fighting chance.