Marriage & Divorce - 23 December 2007

How did you deal with it when they were speaking to you about the 'abuse' that you knew wasn't real?

Did the judge believe the abuse allegations & rule in her favor?

Did the lying continue throughout the child's life (if it was a custody case)? How do you think it affected the child?

2007-12-23 08:00:56 · 5 answers · asked by Maureen 7

MY BOYFRIEND'S EX GOT PREGNANT WITH ANOTHER MANS BABY AND LEAD HIM TO BELIEVE IT WAS HIS UNTIL SHE WAS 8 MONTHS OLD..... HE AGREED TO ACCEPT AND RAISE HER AS HIS BECAUSE HE WAS ALREADY IN LOVE W/ THE CHILD.... THEY HAVE SPLIT CUSTODY OF HER. ALLL THE MONEY THAT THE EX SPENDS ON THE CHILD HE PAYS HALF.... SHE MAKES SURE HER DAUGHTER HAS THE BEST OF EVERYTHING. WHEN QUESTIONED WHY SOMETHING COST SO MUCH SHE THREATENS TO MAKE HIM PAY CHILD SUPPORT... THAT HE WOULD HAVE TO PAY ALOT MORE THEN. MY QUESTION IS ( IS THAT POSSIBLE?) IF YOU HAVE SPLIT CUSTODY DON'T YOU SPLIT EVERYTHING? WHAT WOULD THE LAW BE ON THIS MATTER???? HE IS SCARED TO STAND UP TO HER THINKING THAT SHE WILL PUT ANOTHER BILL ON HIM... HE SUPPLIES INSURANCE AND ALL......

2007-12-23 07:59:28 · 13 answers · asked by TAMTAM 1

After being together for 5 years, married for almost 4, with four kids total between us (hers, mine, ours situation), I am still totally infatuated with my wife. Honestly, I still think she is the most beautiful, sexy woman she was when we first met. I hate to say, but she has gained weight, doesn't do the same things we used to do, and we don't get near as much time to ourselves, but no matter what, I still look at her every day and stand in awe. She thinks this is completely odd, but is not complaining. Others think I am just doing this as an overcompensation.

I just thought I would put it out there and see if this was an odd thing or do others agree. Even if it is odd, I don't care, I always liked being the weird one :)

2007-12-23 07:50:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

She claims she loves me but she is mean, bitchy, negative, nasty, controlling, takes anti-depressants, comes from a broken home and is terrible at sex (she was sexually abused as a child). However she cooks great, has a perfect 10 killer body and is a neonatologist earning $135K an year. My friends all tell me bite the bullet and go for it. The rationale being it's better to be married, miserable and rich than married, miserable and poor.

2007-12-23 07:43:52 · 31 answers · asked by jessica_simpson_is_dumb 2

Thank you to all of you who have encouraged me during this difficult year with my swine of a husband. He's been banned from the local pub,lol! There was an incident with "squirting" ?? God knows what that's about, he won't tell me. Anyway, hope you all have a very merry Christmas x

2007-12-23 07:38:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay me and my husband of 6 years have a joint account together. He just sold one of our trucks and I put the money in the account. Well I used 700.00 for bills and presents. Then my husband took out 300.00 to buy some gifts and extra things for himself. When he looked at the account he called me and said that I owe him $1000.00. ANd that I need to pay him back. Now mind you I AM THE BREAD WINNER IN THE HOUSE!!!! I make $5 more an hour then he does. Is this right that he does this to me??? I just want to walk away from this marriage. But I have two boys with him and we are pregnant again with another child.

2007-12-23 07:33:17 · 20 answers · asked by Proud Mommy 2

Well, me and my fiance worked at the same place, I thought it would be cute, since we're almost always together, and we could also be partners. But recently, he is annoyed for some reason, and so am I, I'm thinking probably, he's afraid that I might beat him at ranks, or might get a promotion higher than him, but then again , I'm just guessing. I tried to talk to him, but he always ignore it when I bring up that topic. How would you feel if your spouse worked at the same place as you? Oh yeah, one more thing, I can't quit my job, I love it.

2007-12-23 07:26:43 · 6 answers · asked by jenny 5

What is your sexual fantisy involving only one woman?
I want to know mens oppions mostly, but I don't care if women answer too.
and also, any ideas on how to "be" sexy, would be good.
I think my husband is getting bord of me, and I need ideas.
I'm not saying that he is cheating, 'cause I don't think he is. Just bored.
any real ideas would really help.
Thanks

2007-12-23 07:24:57 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2

Just wondering how many people are right now wishing they where single and married not single to run off with a boyfriend or girlfriend I am talking about someone who is married and rather be alone period!

2007-12-23 07:07:25 · 12 answers · asked by lisalisa 4

2007-12-23 06:57:50 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

you think he was doing this just to be funny or do you think he was curiious to see how it looked and felt?

2007-12-23 06:43:41 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am female my roomate is male and I have asked repeatedly for him to wait my permission to enter.He states he has a right to do so. I installed a deadbolt as to ensure my privacy.He now demands Im wrong for doing that and it will be removed one way or the other. What is proper in this situation?

2007-12-23 06:36:16 · 14 answers · asked by d w 1

my early 40's and a recent breast cancer survivor. I'm posting this looking for honest opinions from men as I don't have a lot of male friends to ask. I have scars and implants now. What do you men look for in a woman? I have kept myself in great shape and take good care of myself, have lots of interests and friends. And I do know how to treat a man. How soon should I reveal the fact about my cancer? Would you still consider a woman to be sexy even with the scars? If I didn't immediately tell a man about the cancer, would he feel like I hid something or somehow lied to him? And one more ?.....it's been a long time since I was on a date. If I invite a man in for a drink or coffee after the date would they think they were automatically going to be invited to spend the night? Thanks for your honesty and please, no jerks.......

2007-12-23 06:24:08 · 13 answers · asked by justlilme 5

2007-12-23 06:04:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is only a question, I am not marries, but I know many women who are and have been cheated on by their husbands. I was having a conversation with someone a long time ago and they said "Sometimes, it takes strength to stay".

I've been through alot in my life and I agreed with the above statement to an extent. I've been cheated on by a boyfriend, which hurt like hell, but I don't think it would hurt any MORE if he had been my husband, because I feel regardless, the person you are with is supposed to love you right? Husband, fiance, boyfriend. Whatever title they have, betrayal is betrayal right?

I just don't like the idea of MY man sleeping with another woman, then coming home and smiling in my face, like he's happy with me and I would imagine that it would be hard for me to sleep with him and look at him the same way. Not only that, but I hate coming in 2nd place and feeling like a side dish to someone that I am giving my all to. Would you stay and try again, or leave? Honestly.

2007-12-23 05:46:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

what would you feel if the person you love so much got married...taking into account he never loved you back ??

2007-12-23 05:42:55 · 14 answers · asked by what goes around comes around 3

Me and girlfriend are planning on living together and being married , but I haven't told her that I wasn't divorced either. What do I do?

2007-12-23 05:39:54 · 21 answers · asked by pharmslim7 1

Does anyone truely know the meaning of love?????

2007-12-23 05:16:27 · 16 answers · asked by irishpr 2

The other day, my aunt "suggested" that my husband and I should have a child soon because the longer you wait, the harder it is to concieve. We've been married for 4 years, and I'm 22. I've done my research and to my understanding, sometimes it becomes hard to conceive after you reach 30-35. I'm only 22! Not to mention, I have faith in God that he'll do things right for us, and we'll have kids when the time is right for us. Where do people come up with this stuff?

2007-12-23 04:51:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

When ever I hear a woman refer to her husband as her "hubby" it just drives me up the wall. I don't know why... I guess it just sounds too much like, "tubby." Therefore I imagine the womn's husband as some fat, drunken, red neck, white trash couch potato, sitting on the sofa, drinking bear, watching tv, and occasionally grunting.

I guess that would be ok if you really think nothing of your husband, but otherwise it's not very flattering.

It's just a silly, random pet peeve I have. Does this word, by chance, annoy the crap out of anyone else?

2007-12-23 04:49:56 · 17 answers · asked by Laibach 3

2007-12-23 04:45:05 · 8 answers · asked by Balaji kry 1

I am so hurt by my husbands of 19 years. Once again he hasn't bought me a Christmas gift. My birthday was in October and I got nothing, so he promised to buy me a gift for Christmas. I know that he hasn't because I asked and he said no. My gifts for him are under the tree. I don't have to have something that costs a lot of money, just some thought and care from his heart. Over the years he has bought me maybe 12 greeting cards for various holidays, and I cherish them. He knows this. A card from the dollar store is .50 cents. He could throw in a gift for a dollar. That would make me so happy. I know he had the money, but he chose to prioritize repairing his stupid car first. I have told him how much this hurts me and he just hangs his head and says "I'll get you something, don't worry". I don't believe him, or if by some miracle he does, then it will be a forced gift. Am I being unreasonable? How can I resolve this? Your help would be greatly appreciated.

2007-12-23 04:31:35 · 29 answers · asked by checkthisout! 5

I ordered a Wii for my wife about two months ago for Christmas. About two or three weeks ago, my wife left me and our kids(it's a long story). Now the Wii just arrived today and I know this seems trivial, but I'm not sure what to do with it.

Do I give the Wii to my wife? She keeps saying she wants me back and I don't want her to give her any false messages by giving a gift to her, but it just makes sense to me that she should have it since she's the one I bought it for. Or should I maybe give it to my kids? They're six and three, I'm not sure whether this would be appropriate or not.

I'd REALLY appreciate any help! We exchange gifts tomorrow because we volunteer on Christmas so unfortunately, I've got a time crunch working against me. Thanks in advance! :)

2007-12-23 04:27:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

she said she wanted to work on our sex life and then last night fell asleep before sex.. should I be upset or let it go

2007-12-23 04:10:08 · 24 answers · asked by J F 1

Well its complicated. My ex and I broke up like 10 months ago but I still love her. I've been dating other girls since then I even think I have fallen in love with another girl, but I still can't seem to get my ex off my mind. We are close friends now but I still love and care for her the same. And now she is pregnant. I want to be there for her but at the same time I'm very upset and hurt. I haven't really shown it because I don't want her to be upset. I'm so confused on what to do.

2007-12-23 04:03:11 · 4 answers · asked by big baby 1

My wife was never spanked as a kid, but me and my sister were beaten by a bully of a father. Anyhow the wife got this idea that her old folks could look after the kids for a while and take them away and they could have some fun and while they were away, we could have some fun too. Well she wanted to play this game. I didn’t like the idea but I went along with it. She was to play a cheeky little girl and I was to spank her. I don’t know where she got the idea from, but it was all planned out. She told me exactly what to do and I had to ignore her acting but only to stop when I heard a password she invented, which she would shout if she banged her head or something.

Well I was doing all right and it went something like –leave me alone you pig, you cheeky little brat, you wouldn’t dare, just watch me--, and I was actually getting into it when she yelled please-daddy-stop and I froze and I remembered the brute who used to beat the crap out of my kid sister.

Can anything be done?

2007-12-23 03:58:04 · 15 answers · asked by Teenage nerd 3

I was married to a man who is in military. He mentioned divorce in my email. He told everybody especially his ex girlfriends that he is not married but in legally situation. What does that mean? What kind of man is he? Is he really psychotic?? How can he called his exes crazy but he is acting so nice to them. He called me crazy but i am not crazy. He drive his exes included me crazy when he left us. Was it really me or is it him?

2007-12-23 03:50:33 · 7 answers · asked by Crazy C 1

we were having a conversation about the fact that I dont have a child yet and this person said that she thought I would be a great Mom as 'you have a really bit heart'. This is not the first person that has said it..what does it mean..really?

2007-12-23 03:49:53 · 7 answers · asked by profe 1

i just found out from one of my cousins that shes getting a divorce after 7 years of marriage . my parents say she would call me if she wanted to talk to me but we havnt hung out in so long because she was busy or i was busy. Im her younger cousin being that im 21 and shes 29 she tried being there for me alot i should be there for her right

2007-12-23 03:25:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My family consists of about fifteen people, children,g-children ect. They all are meeting Christmas day at my oldest daughters house. All of my children live a distance from me..an hour or two. I am planning to drop in to give gifts, my e-wife that practically lives there, will be there. My girlfriend is invited but refuses to go . My girlfriend says that if I go there and my x-wife is there , she is going to break up w/me. It is rare for my family to be together at one time. It's Christmas.....whats an hour with my x-wife there going to hurt?

2007-12-23 03:23:06 · 20 answers · asked by Tom 1