She claims she loves me but she is mean, bitchy, negative, nasty, controlling, takes anti-depressants, comes from a broken home and is terrible at sex (she was sexually abused as a child). However she cooks great, has a perfect 10 killer body and is a neonatologist earning $135K an year. My friends all tell me bite the bullet and go for it. The rationale being it's better to be married, miserable and rich than married, miserable and poor.
2007-12-23 07:43:52 · 31 answers · asked by jessica_simpson_is_dumb 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage doesn't have to be miserable. If you think it will be no matter what then don't get married. You're dating for the wrong reasons. Just stay single. That way you don't have to deal with mean girlfriends and if you ever did date someone nice they would be saved the misery of your company.
2007-12-23 08:01:22 · answer #1 · answered by Rockit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this a serious question? The best points about this woman whom you call your girlfriend is that she is a great cook, has a perfect body and makes a ton of money a year. Are you kidding me?!?! I would rather marry someone who is a terrible cook, has an average body and makes 30,000 a year but whom is also loving, romantic, down to earth, humorous, kind, caring, wild, sincere, generous, amazing in bed, fun, interesting, crazy, honest, creative, inspiring, humble, open, warm, wonderful. I have been with a**holes before, and I did not marry any of them.
Seriously you sound like you are already miserable, why spend the rest of your LIFE in a marriage like that? Get out now, she sounds like a real piece of work!
2007-12-23 07:53:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No don't marry her. When you get married it should be because you are truly in love with someone not because she has a lot of money and a "perfect 10 killer body" It seems to me that you are just in it for the money and that's not right at all. Why would you want to marry someone if you aren't happy with them? If you just leave this woman you can find someone a lot better and then you won't be married and miserable. Money can't buy you happiness. Don't marry this woman she's not right for you.
2007-12-23 07:53:07 · answer #3 · answered by broken</3 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What did you think was going to happen? You got a small dose of real life . Real life equals dirty dishes, laundry, cooking and shopping and picking up messes. Once you add in kids, there is even more of that. Did you think she was going to do all of that forever, without complaint and you could come home to a clean house with dinner on the table and her in a mood to have sex ? Adult life is about responsibility and commitment and you baled out when that reality hit you , She has to wonder after 8 years if you are ever going to figure out that all that doesn't happen magically. She was getting very little out of the relationship other than service to you! So, If you really have gotten a reality check, and you feel strongly that she is the one, ask her to be your wife, and tell her that she means everything to you and you need her more than she needs you, because that is probably the truth.
2016-05-26 01:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I am so sure she cooks great has a "perfect" 10 body and earns 135K (sneezes bullshit). First of all there are no "perfect" bodies, perfection is in the eye of the beholder, what YOU percieve to be perfection isn't always what other's percieve to be perfection. If ANY of the above were true you wouldn't be here bragging you would simply ask the question as it is. So that only leads me to beleive there is no "girlfriend" other than your right or left hand...go ahead and marry "her".
2007-12-23 09:55:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you absolutely should marry her she sounds like a real prize!
You two can go on to live a miserable life together. You know once you marry her and she pops out a couple kids that 10 body will well fill out especially since she is a great cook.
You are assuming there isn't anyone more compatible to you and that all single people are miserable. That is alot to assume.
2007-12-23 07:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel this way about her then you shouldnt marry her...words were harsh and I'm not sure you even like her. Do you love her? Can you look past her flaws? Everyone has flaws. Wait a little longer before you tie the knot, maybe theropy? She probably REALLY loves you but just doesnt know how to express it....I am the same way to a certian extent. Went through some things so it's hard for me to open up to people...and am more mean than nice. Just TALK and TELL her how you feel...
2007-12-23 07:52:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you love her
the answer to that is the answer to the ? u asked
that comment is wrong
its better than to be married poor and happy than to be married , rich and miserable.
if u marry her and u dont love her than it wont work out any way
if u marry her 4 da $ than ur a gold diggin cheap bast ard
the reason why she is mean, bitchy, negative, nasty, controlling, takes anti-depressants,
is because some man did he wrong and she was neglected. she is making sure u no she is not taking it any more give it time but dont do it cuz the money or pity if u love her
2007-12-23 07:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by ~Bruce~_~Bruce~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything that would make you unhappy! It is very sad that your girlfriend had such a broken childhood, and perhaps she needs to get some counseling. You can support her with that. However, you are not obligated to marry her! That's insane! If you love her, help her through her problems and when she is stable, make your choice. Do you plan to have children? How would that go? Think long-term.
There are tons of people with money, tons of people with nice bodies, and tons of people who can cook.
You need to find the person you are in love with. That's the number one criteria for marriage.
2007-12-23 07:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by breakfastissexy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you go for this one it might be fine. but just think you will have to live with a "mean, bitchy, negative, nasty, and controlling" woman. you should not marry a woman that would be hard to live with just because she has a " killer body" or she makes a crap load of cash. you should really think if you really love this woman. by asking this question it would suggest that you dint really want to. not to mention that you also got advice from friends and still proceeded to ask the question. the choice is ultimately yours. think though. the choice you make you will have to live with for the rest of your life.
there may be someone better suited for you else where.
think
2007-12-23 07:54:33 · answer #10 · answered by Kayla 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋