i just found out from one of my cousins that shes getting a divorce after 7 years of marriage . my parents say she would call me if she wanted to talk to me but we havnt hung out in so long because she was busy or i was busy. Im her younger cousin being that im 21 and shes 29 she tried being there for me alot i should be there for her right
2007-12-23 03:25:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't call her. Calling her could make her feel pushed into talking and your parents are right: She would call you if she wanted to talk with you about it.
I know that when we hear about family going through divorces or separations we want to provide comfort and support. Divorce is one of the hardest experiences an individual can go through -- but it doesn't mean that the person having the divorce wants to involve other people in his/her family during the divorce.
Mailing her a nice card ("Sorry to hear you're having a rough time right now. If you need to vent, etc..." type) would probably be best. Your cousin is already receiving all kinds of feedback from her immediate family, friends, his family, etc. Having another phone call from a more distant family member who is younger, unmarried, and (although with good intentions) trying to get involved is not likely to be welcome.
You are thoughtful and a caring cousin to want to talk with her during this time. Make your offer to be available to talk in a non-threatening or intrusive way, and if your cousin is ready to talk to you about her life and the changes she's going through, she will respond. If she doesn't -- don't take it personally. She has a lot on her mind and she may not be able to think about others very much right now.
2007-12-23 03:41:00 · answer #1 · answered by CarinaPapa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right.
You don't need to offer a therapy session or anything, just a simple "hey, just wanted to say hi" can be very comforting. Divorce sucks, and its lovely to know that you've got people out there thinking about you.
2007-12-23 11:30:29 · answer #2 · answered by Puzzle Box 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, please call her. I went through a rough divorce and my family was not supportive at all. I only had about one or two people in my life that even talked to me about it. The most that she needs from you is someone to listen.
2007-12-23 11:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may need a friend thru this so just call her or send her a note stating that youre there for her if she needs someone andlet it go til she contacts you. Happy Holidays
2007-12-23 11:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes call her she is family and needs you
2007-12-23 11:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a call.
2007-12-23 11:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by BelieverinGod 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not?
2007-12-23 11:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋