MY BOYFRIEND'S EX GOT PREGNANT WITH ANOTHER MANS BABY AND LEAD HIM TO BELIEVE IT WAS HIS UNTIL SHE WAS 8 MONTHS OLD..... HE AGREED TO ACCEPT AND RAISE HER AS HIS BECAUSE HE WAS ALREADY IN LOVE W/ THE CHILD.... THEY HAVE SPLIT CUSTODY OF HER. ALLL THE MONEY THAT THE EX SPENDS ON THE CHILD HE PAYS HALF.... SHE MAKES SURE HER DAUGHTER HAS THE BEST OF EVERYTHING. WHEN QUESTIONED WHY SOMETHING COST SO MUCH SHE THREATENS TO MAKE HIM PAY CHILD SUPPORT... THAT HE WOULD HAVE TO PAY ALOT MORE THEN. MY QUESTION IS ( IS THAT POSSIBLE?) IF YOU HAVE SPLIT CUSTODY DON'T YOU SPLIT EVERYTHING? WHAT WOULD THE LAW BE ON THIS MATTER???? HE IS SCARED TO STAND UP TO HER THINKING THAT SHE WILL PUT ANOTHER BILL ON HIM... HE SUPPLIES INSURANCE AND ALL......
2007-12-23 07:59:28 · 13 answers · asked by TAMTAM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i read your other question too and man if i were you i would be stressed. Thinking about this like every other minute. Personally i couldn't be with a man like this because it would drive me crazy. he is supporting a kid that is not his esp when we are trying to build a better, stronger and trustworthy relationship. the only way he will have to pay child support is
1. if the judge orders a dna test and it is really his.
2. Ifhis name is on the birth certificate.
sweety no man will treat you better than you treat yourself. but there are men who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
2007-12-23 10:15:42 · answer #1 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there a court order that specifies custody and child support payments? That is what you have to go by.
If their agreement is verbal, then it is not legally binding and she can deny him access to the child. And he can refuse to make any payments to her.
Is his name on the birth certificate? If it is and he's acted as the father in spite of knowing that he isn't, there is a possibility that a judge would agree that he continue acting as the father and pay child support and be granted visitation. The older the child gets, the more likely it will be that the judge will rule that he is the father even though he is not biodad.
If he is no longer interested in being in this child's life and he really isn't the father, then he should make the break now while the child is young and doesn't really know who he is.
If he wants to continue acting as the child's father, then he should go to court to establish his parental rights,the custody arrangements and the child support payments so that he can not be blackmailed by her--emotionally or financially.
2007-12-23 08:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend was not married to this woman at any point, he may not now have to pay any support at all if it isn't his child. Your boyfriend needs to get a good lawyer. If he can prove the child is not biologically his (blood tests), AND that she lied to him and mislead him, then he might be off the hook. Tell him to get a lawyer. Of course, you also realize, that if he doesn't have to pay support, he also is not entitled to visitation with the other man's child, so the bond between them will be broken. As to your question as to split custody. The child would live part time with each "parent" and the parent who earns the most would pay the other some child support.
2007-12-23 08:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends since he has agreed to support this child as his own there is a chance that the judge would make him continue supporting her. The amount he would have to pay depends on how much he makes and how much she makes. So there is a chance he could be made to pay more. However there is also a chance that he would have to pay less or not at all. I suggest he contacts a lawyer for a consult. Just make him understand if he wants to say that he isn't this child's father and therefor shouldn't pay then he will have no visitation rights as well.
2007-12-23 08:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If HE recognizes the child and his name is on the birth certificate as being her father then YES she can make him pay child support. If he doesn't want that to happen then he has to go to court, deny paternity, subpoena a DNA test, have name removed from the birth certificate and cease supplying ANY form of financial support for the child as WELL as giving up any form of custody/visitation. Either he recognizes this as his child and pays according to the law or he doesn't recognize this child as his and walks away.
2007-12-23 09:45:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is his name on the birth certificate as the father? If it is, then he will most likely have to pay child support. Did he sign anything promising to take care of the child, pay child support, or pay half of the child's living expenses? If he did, then he will most likely have to pay child support. If the answer to the above questions is "no" then he will not have to pay child support. He will, however, need to take a DNA test to prove in a court of law that he is not the biological father.
His ex is really taking advantage of your boyfriend's kind heart.
Good luck.
2007-12-23 08:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by afreeman20035252 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.Is his name on the brith certifacte 2.he can ask for a DNA test 3.yes if they have split custody lets say he paid for a 100 dr. vist she would have to pay hime back 50 dollars 4.if supplies the insurance they if she does take him for child support he has a good chance to get his lil baby girl granted it may not be his but he is being a man and standing up i give him a lot of credit for that but if he does stand up and tells her off he should take her to court and her DNA test done and make her pay back half of everything he did for her!! hope everything turns out and have wondreful holiday!
2007-12-23 08:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is NOT his child and he is raising this child as his own, that woman should be grateful and shut her mouth! Not many men would stick around if they found out the child wasn't theirs. He sounds like a wonderful person and I wouldn't worry about her. He needs to stand his ground with her. I can understand the fear that she might not let him see the child, but if it isn't his, she could do it as a form of blackmail. Seeing he loves this child so much. I commend him for being a real man! Best of luck to you.
2007-12-23 08:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he takes DNA and the child is not his....she can not make him pay a dime.......he's stupid for raising another man's baby and he's not even with the gurl either.......it may be a different story if he was still with her..but he's not.......he needs to stop being a coward and stand up to her or she will him in deep sh!t
2007-12-23 08:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by americangurl_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's put his name on the birth certiicate, he's screwed. Many states will accept that as he's the baby's father.
2007-12-23 08:02:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋