Marriage & Divorce - 23 December 2007

me and hubby agreed we would cook christmas eve dinner together...my mother in law came over earlier to drop of presents... and she asked if we wanted her to cook for us and i said no ... i went to the store to get some drinks and snacks..and when i came back she was cooking our meals ! i asked hubby what was going on and he said that when i left to go to the shops..she got upset and started saying that i hate her cooking thats why i didnt want her cooking and so on..and hubby felt sorry for her and told her she could do it.

i got upset at both of them ... and my hubby is saying im over reacting.

she isnt even having dinner with us..its just going to be me hubby and our son..and we're going to her house like 2 days after because she's wanted to spend it with her friends instead.

dont say it took the stress of me cooking..because i was looking forward to doing it..this would of been my first christmas eve dinner i would have cooked at our new house.
what do you think?

2007-12-23 13:34:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok i am married and i have been for 9 years and my husband is a control freak he dont spend any time with me hardly and he goes out all the time and im left here at home and i just wont you to tell me do u think its wrong for me to have someone like a man friend to just talk to on the phone do u think thats a bad thing for me to do and my husband have founded out about it and he is very mad at me so tell me what do you think about this just keep it real ! and my i add i have not cheated in any way i just feel the need of someone to talk to every now and then

2007-12-23 13:21:58 · 11 answers · asked by fe-fe 2

be a reason why my friend w/benefits said he isn't trying to look for a serious relationship right now? We've known each other a couple of months. BUT....my marriage was over long before it was finalized. He knows why we got divorced.(my ex was unfaithful) Anyway, could this be one of the reasons he said that?...or do you think it was more about him?

2007-12-23 13:12:36 · 12 answers · asked by love my life 2

My husband and i were recently married 7 months ago. About 4 months ago he told he that he had strong feelings for his daughter's 23 year old friend. She makes him feel young and alive. I feel so betrayed. I asked him why he married me if he felt this way. He says to me that he can't understand why I don't trust him. He says he won't hurt her feelings to appease mine and that he is being a father figure to her because she is his daughter's friend - but fathers' don't want to have sex with their daughters....i'm so confused and upset.
He refuses to apologize to me and refuses flatly to reassure me or to make me feel secure. I just want to be validated and heard..............

2007-12-23 13:11:43 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous

That happened to me a few days ago for the first time. Is this a common practice? I am 51 (I look younger) and he looked to be in his late 30s or early 40s.

2007-12-23 12:53:45 · 25 answers · asked by Praire Crone 7

I will retire in a year and move here permanent. My GF seems quite content and obviousuly I am pleases with the situation. She doesn't seem to notice the body and even conisders the extra weight as being a sign of health. I guess that means that I can eat well. The fact that I can't make it up a flight of stairs without getting winded seems to raise no concern.

Clearly my abiity to provide a far better lifestyle and future even after i am gone are big players here but there are some other probably lesser factors involved also.

This is not an uncommon occurance here in the Philippines. Basically a 63 YO guy with a 19 YO girlfriend draws no special interest. Possibly a look of uneasy humor from some of the local Pinoy (males).

I wonder what the long term result of such a relationsihp might be. Well - long term being within my life time.

2007-12-23 12:36:51 · 16 answers · asked by Moondog 7

I am 29 years old and i have two twin girls who are 2. My husband and i take care of them but he is a doctor and he lately he has been at work alot leaving me to take care of the twins. and he brought up the topic of more kids, i just said i cant talk about this now. what should i do? i dont know how to say it. no smart *** answers plz.

2007-12-23 12:35:58 · 18 answers · asked by Have you got it in you? 4

I work out of my living area and only can fly back once or twice a month. My wife is meeting new people, says she is working, but never has any money for bills. Maybe my imagination but she seems concerned when I tell her the dates I am flying back. Should I hire a PI to resolve my concerns?

2007-12-23 12:22:37 · 15 answers · asked by aqua_diente 5

because you knew they'd be happier without you, but THEY wouldn't leave YOU?

I guess what I'm getting at is I did that with my ex-husband...and if it's such a 'noble' thing to do...why does it hurt so bad? I actually almost wish HE had dumped ME first!

2007-12-23 11:38:04 · 17 answers · asked by LolaCorolla 7

20 years old and i got a dually and a 38 foot travel trailer to go to florida in the winters. and no, no one's help. I worked since i was 14 and sold everything i have ever bought to get the stuff to do it. i get laid off in the winter. find some side jobs. inspiration, do what you can. dont live to regret.

2007-12-23 11:34:44 · 5 answers · asked by dukes 2

2007-12-23 11:34:26 · 18 answers · asked by ? 7

2007-12-23 11:34:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband I were driving around and he saw a sign on the side of the road saying... "Caskets On Sale Now". After seeing it, he said to me....." Hey, Honey, let's buy a Casket and put it in our living room. It would be cool because Caskets are built really nice and fancy. They build those things like nice cars"

And then I asked him what is he going to do with it. He said.."Well, we can put in in our living room and maybe store stuff on it. Or maybe use it as coffee table. Those things are really nice and I bet if we have one one those in our leaving room, people would think it's really bizarre and that would be cool"

I was really disturbed by this comment and I told him how I felt. He said he was joking around. But the way he said it he sounded VERY serious and even if it was a joke, I didn't find it funny. A CASKET IN OUR LIVING ROOM? Is that funny?
My husband is a future lawyer, very smart and can sometimes have weird sense of humor. Is this something to be alarm and worried about

2007-12-23 11:33:42 · 21 answers · asked by Just a girl 1

....can your ex still take you to court and say you cant move. Especially after you have given him a 30 day written note? And if no does he have the right to state where the meeting place is at or is it always the half way mark nomatter the state?

2007-12-23 10:30:26 · 8 answers · asked by guest360 1

After 10 years of unhappy marriage, I want out.... but my husband won't leave or do anything. I can't stand it, I feel so trapped, it is really doing my head. I feel so angry, he has no repect for my feelings at all. There are 2 children at home (12 & 9) 1 is his, and all we do is argue and fight in front of them. He swears, and has in the past been violent to the property and has kicked and spat at me.We split for a year, but then I stupidly went back. Now I don't know where to turn. I don't want to leave my home, as this is my kids home and I have pets that I can't abandon, as he wouldn't look after them. I have nowhere to go...... I have asked him to leave but he won't.I just can't face going into another year with him, as I just can't live with him any longer.(we went to Marriage Guidance last year, and he didn't take it seriously)

2007-12-23 09:27:25 · 27 answers · asked by Sez 3

how many of you have cheated on your spouse? and do you regret it? those who haven't answer too!

2007-12-23 09:19:47 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am married. for thanksgiving my husband and his family came to my aunts house so i could spend thanksgiving with my family as well. my aunt lives 25 minutes away, as do my parents.. this holiday for christmas my husband wants to spend it with only his family even though my folks only live 25 minutes away and my cousins are coming.
Even tho i saw family at thanksgiving, i still would like to see them.

2007-12-23 09:17:37 · 14 answers · asked by Becca 2

has any father had to deal with an ex wife that refuses to pay child support despite that she makes more money than you and gained your business in divorce? did courts go after her for child support?

2007-12-23 09:14:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

He says that they are 'only friends' [barf] now, and that any romantic feelings he had for her he left in the past... The thing that bothers me is that their history together is still engraved in their memory, and I'm sure it crosses their mind, at least, on occasion. I have no problems with them considering themselves 'friends,' but I see no need for them to communicate at all. She is engaged, and he is remarried to me. She seems somewhat bubbly (flirty)--perhaps it is just her nature--but it bothers me. I don't get why two people previously involved in romantic relationships with no present connections (i.e., minor kids) have to stay in contact. I find it disrespectful. Am I being unreasonable to ask him to stop talking to her? Do any other women out there find this annoying?

2007-12-23 09:12:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am only 14 so this is really hard for me and especially because its around my favorite time of year, when it is supposed to be a happy time. AKA the holidays ;(

2007-12-23 09:04:58 · 20 answers · asked by Syd 1

Is he more immoral for cheating on his wife, or am I more immoral for abetting him? Or are we both equally in the wrong?

2007-12-23 08:59:52 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've never done it that way, but worth a try, right? You know the saying "don't knock it 'till you try it"! It's so nice of her to look out for me like this.

2007-12-23 08:57:54 · 13 answers · asked by progrockfan80 2

My husband and I try to split up all of our holidays between our families. For the past 3 years we've always gone to his side of the family for Christmas Eve/Morning as they usually plan big events, whereas my family is more laid back and intimate. This year his mother told every one to do what they wanted, when secretly she meant she wanted us to come to her mother's house to see her brother we've never met. I'm ok with that except for the fact that she did the typical woman thing and said one thing but really meant another, and then got mad when no one was able to read in between the lines. So now the decision has basically been made for us that we are going to be there. I haven't been able to share Christmas Eve/morning with my family in a few years and now feel aggravated that I won't be able to again this year. My parents have been through a lot of hell this year...and even a near divorce. They are doing much better and I'm feeling disgruntled that we aren't going to be there.

2007-12-23 08:49:39 · 4 answers · asked by High Fructose Corn Syrup 2

2007-12-23 08:45:00 · 60 answers · asked by Anonymous

yes this is the case

2007-12-23 08:39:51 · 10 answers · asked by fa q 3

he acts silly like he will promise me dinner and then spend our dinner money on crap, then he says woops afterwards. it also seems like whenever he goes to see his family and i ask him a question he blows up at me and then we are mad during the holidays? i dont get it? what is wrong with this man? how do i deal with this?

2007-12-23 08:31:45 · 10 answers · asked by Sunshyne 4

Make a long story short my husband and I got a divorce almost 4 years ago over money and family issues, I got married again he didn't. Back in June he came to me all teary eyed wanting me back ( he knew my new hubby and I were having issues). He went on and on about it being better this time and looking for rings etc. Well I came back and now he tells me he loves me daily but there is no more discussion about marriage or the future and the same issues with his family are still there. My mom is close to him and says he is just being cautious but I feel like he is using me to get out of childsupport and to have the kids here 24/7. He treats me good, is a great dad and we are happy for the most part but I need marriage and to feel like he is really committed to this. Am I wrong here or what it has been almost 7 months since I came back. He knows I need medical insurance which he can get at work but wont committ to anything. I have MS and the stress is getting to me. HELP

2007-12-23 08:28:42 · 9 answers · asked by semoangel70 5

And told me that he was going to be in the area at christmas to visit some friends and family. He asked if he could stop by on christmas to visit my daughter( shes 3)
I said fine, but I don't know if it would be best for her, I mean he raised her since she was a months old, but no him coming back into her life again I dont know if its the ideal situation.
what do you guys think.

2007-12-23 08:27:19 · 32 answers · asked by Lucia F 1

Or brain surgery. Or any of the other male dominated professions women haven't got a hope in hell of entering.

2007-12-23 08:10:07 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

do you and your hubby sleep in the same room/bed. I am hearing more and more often about couples that don't share the same room cause either the husband snores or one of them keeps the otherone awake. I am not saying that it has anything to do with the relationship, these are ppl that have a really good relationship but like sleeping alone cause they get better rest. My husband is a horrible snoring but we are a young new couple just wondering if others will think this is odd if we don't have the same room, like when my daughter is grown will she think we are freaks haha. Just wondering.

2007-12-23 08:08:14 · 19 answers · asked by girl 4