my wifes a big fat ***** how do i tell her without hurting her feelings to shed the weight?

Answer 1

well, thats not a nice way to put it!

Try encouraging her to eat healthy by YOU eating healthy with her!

Answer 2

buy a membership to a health club, call ahead and see if there are any specials for two, then ask her to join you for a tour so that you can both go together. Tell her you would like to share a longer life with her and you would love to share the time with her at the gym. It could start with walks and work up to a health club membership if that is in your budget, it not just ask her to walk with you. start doing toe touches at home and work into more. Make sure there are no health issues such as diabetes or Thyroid problems causing the weight problem. You should both get a physical and and if her weight is so much that she need weight loss surgury, perhaps the dr will be able to talk to you both at the same time about that possibility. Ask the Dr ahead of time to Talk to her about the weight.or ask her to go with you to the baratric talk (intro to weight loss surgury). it will hurt no matter you try Get some help from her friends. Rememeber you took her for better or worse. Be Sure its not a problem on your end. If she is exhausted after work, that is not a good time for her to go. If you have child care issues, you may need to help work that out before hand. Maybe if you help with the house work some so she has the time to go (Kids bed time is another bad time if they like her to tuck them in.) Make sure all excuses can be taken care of before- hand.

Answer 3

What exactly made her a big fat *****?
Was she like that when you met her?
If not and she got like that because of your children or because she had the feeling that you don't realy care then maybe you should suggest salsa classes, take her clubbing, go for walks, any kind of activity similar to these claiming that you are in your mid-life crisis and want to do something with yourself.
And remember one thing: THERE IS NO WAY TO TELL YOUR WIFE WITHOUT HURTING HER FEELING THAT SHE IS A BIG FAT ***** AND THAT SHE SHOULD LOOSE WEIGHT!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

You can't. I have tried it and it doesn't work. But I tried far more subtely than you are suggesting. We can no longer talk about her weight without major unease, it has become a taboo subject. I am more worried about her health than her looks. Arthritis, diabetes etc are all common in her parents and grandparents, and looks always fade with age anyway - even Madonna should not wear miniskirts at her age.

I just wish I had tried things from the health angle and got her to join me at the gym.

There are plenty of other things that make her special.

Answer 5

Try the "I am worried about your health line", but it probably won't work unless she feels a need to cut her food intake. You could also start asking her to go for long walks (indicate you want company and a private time with her), or join a health club together. A joint membership might be a good Christmas gift.
You can tell her you are worried about YOUR health, cardiac disease etc...and buy some cookbooks with low fat/cal recipes, then help her with the shopping and the cooking. It could become a pleasurable pastime. Most people just want to nag someone about their weight and that never works, try making changes from another angle.

Answer 6

Wow, dude you're getting lots of abuse from all the women on here for some reason. If my wife turned into a fatass after I married her I'd be pissed off as well. Just say that you should both go to the gym to get fit, because it's good for you're health. If she's touchy about being called fat, just stick with the healthy thing.

Answer 7

How can you talk about your wife like she 's carring disease or something? You are nasty. When people ove each other if the other gets fat up to the max level, there is no reason to be afraid to advise her if you love her. If you start to write about her here that's means you are no more in love with her.

I picked wieght after my son's birth and my husband always helps me to do advises, together we are lookig for the solution so that I get back my slim body...

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Answer 8

You can't - it will hurt. However, you can incorporate some fun activities that will burn calories such as walking the dog, playing on a Wii, walking around the mall, etc. And slowly add healthier food choices into your diet. Say that you want to do this for yourself so you can be healthier for her.

I used to look really good. Now I am 46, hormonal, quit smoking and have gained weight. I wish I could lose 40 pounds so badly, but my husband would never say anything about it. He also need to lose about 40 pounds, but carries it better than I do.

Do it to help yourself, and she will follow your lead. She knows...you don't have to tell her she needs to lose weight.

Answer 9

Be careful,don't put it too her in a harsh way!You may tell her that your starting something and you would like her to help you out.Have her try to do a few things with you.You never know,she may like some of the workouts.And it's a known fact that working out increases sex drives(wink).

Answer 10

If you are concerned about her health and well being. Suggest your whole family get into a healthy living habbit. Join the gym and eat healthier. Help her through the hard times. Do not call her names, that isn't nice.

Answer 11

I think that you do not tell her. You think she hasn't noticed? Your job as a husband is to get up every day and think how you will make her day better. Let her worry about her weight. If you can't deal with it, then don't, but any attempts at fixing your wife will backfire. You control what you do and she controls what she does. Make yourself happy in the things you have control over and be a source of love and joy to your wife.