I will retire in a year and move here permanent. My GF seems quite content and obviousuly I am pleases with the situation. She doesn't seem to notice the body and even conisders the extra weight as being a sign of health. I guess that means that I can eat well. The fact that I can't make it up a flight of stairs without getting winded seems to raise no concern.
Clearly my abiity to provide a far better lifestyle and future even after i am gone are big players here but there are some other probably lesser factors involved also.
This is not an uncommon occurance here in the Philippines. Basically a 63 YO guy with a 19 YO girlfriend draws no special interest. Possibly a look of uneasy humor from some of the local Pinoy (males).
I wonder what the long term result of such a relationsihp might be. Well - long term being within my life time.
2007-12-23 12:36:51 · 16 answers · asked by Moondog 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is interesting to observe some of the responses. One of the most fasinating was "Sure you do - Old man." I can't imagine what reason I would have for posting this in that circumstance.
Another I found funny was 'I't can't last'. Well - duh - of course it can't last a long time. After all I am 44 years older than my GF. Clearly she will be pretty young when I drop over.
As far as her finding another guy here - possible of course but very unlikely. Sure she could have a fling with a young Filipino but as for changing horses - very unlikely. There just aren't that many foreigners with money waling around looking for girls who are already tied up with someone. Why should they? There are LOTS of beautiful young girls here looking to hook up with a man of means who can offer them a better life and future.
Of course I know why. The question "it makes you wonder the basis" makes no sense. I don't wonder about the basis. I full well know what it is.
2007-12-23 18:16:20 · update #1
One last thing. Regardless of the reason - why should I not go after what I want - as long as it is not immoral (by general standards) or illegal. Some may consider the 63 - 19 immoral but that is an artifical judgement and is well within the legal limits that most modern societies have established.
I don't feel that anyone should judge this action - but certainly everyone has their right to their beliefs.
2007-12-23 18:19:39 · update #2
You and her will be fine, I'm 50 with a 20 YO wife and live here in the Philippines I have two Philippine Attorney friends that have the same type age gap with their wife/GF so its not just the foreigners its the locals too. Don't let some of the posters here bother you, most wish they had the same as we do and just don't want to admit it. Enjoy your new life together.
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2007-12-27 10:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by Bill O 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 46 and married to a 19 year old Filipino woman. We plan on raising a family here in the US. These types of relationships are frowned upon in the US, but in the Philippines, they are highly saught after and encouraged by everybody including the girl's family. I have met many foreigners with Filipino brides that have children and they make very nice families. I have even recently set up a free online dating site to help Filipina girls meet foreigners...
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2007-12-25 13:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by baa912 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You already know the answer to that. Right now you are thinking forever, meaning the rest of your life. For her, though, forever probably means 5, 10 years from now. Her financial situation is most likely on her mind now, but what happens when she starts feeling more comfortable financial and dissatisfied with the status quo? Are you willing to get your heart broken down the road, maybe when you most need her support? If you are then go for it. But do it with eyes wide open.
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2007-12-23 20:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by truestrength 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I work with a couple of men who went to Philippines to meet the wives. They seem happy to me with their results. But it makes you wonder what their relationship is based on. Because they only spend a couple of days getting to really know someone and deciding to marry the person and bringing them to the U.S. seems to me that the ladies only want to get out of their country. but then again you really cant blame them. to me though if you have to buy your wife from another country there must be something wrong! to each their own! by the way the wieght thing is they see you as a wealthy person by being hefty. they see $$$$$
2007-12-23 21:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a good 10-15 years left in your tank. Make the best of it. Happy holidays.
2007-12-23 20:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Basically, you are going to leave her a widow at a very young age so if that is your big accomplishment out of this relationship then go right ahead and marry her.
2007-12-23 21:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by New Running Shoes 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are mature enough to know the answer but if you need it spelled out than....Things will get worst for her because you will get older unable to supply the type of satisfaction for a person of her youth.
2007-12-23 20:50:12 · answer #7 · answered by Flowers 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as you're both comfortable with it, it's fine.
Before I got married and I was in my early twenties, I always dated older men. I found them wildly attractive in so many ways. I remember one of my best relationships was when I was 21 and the guy was 36. We were unbelievably compatible and got along great.
Best of luck to you - enjoy!
2007-12-23 20:42:42 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Must be nice, but that is totally sick. She is just a child and has little experience in life. SHAME ON YOU!
2007-12-23 21:07:44 · answer #9 · answered by Bride2Be 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your 2nd paragraph says it all
Don't marry her if you have children
She will get it all
The kids will have to fight her for anything
Please be careful
Just enjoy the companionship
If you have no children do what you want
If you have children please think this out carefully
2007-12-23 20:45:32 · answer #10 · answered by mw 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋