be a reason why my friend w/benefits said he isn't trying to look for a serious relationship right now? We've known each other a couple of months. BUT....my marriage was over long before it was finalized. He knows why we got divorced.(my ex was unfaithful) Anyway, could this be one of the reasons he said that?...or do you think it was more about him?
2007-12-23 13:12:36 · 12 answers · asked by love my life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I didn't even meet him until after my divorce was final.
2007-12-23 13:16:41 · update #1
I wouldn't try to blame yourself for his actions. Just go with the flow and when you're ready to move on, I'm sure you'll find a new guy to have a real realtionship with. In the meantime, if it feels good, keep up the good work! lol
2007-12-23 13:27:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's more about him than it is about you. He just may not feel emotionally ready to commit to anyone at this point, regardless of whether they were or were not involved in a divorce. He said he's not looking for a serious relationship ... so, if that's what you want ... you may have to look elsewhere to find it.
2007-12-23 13:26:18 · answer #2 · answered by sherylgrhm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend with benefits does not want to be serious with you because you can't be serious with a friend with benefits, they are just there for sex~thats it. why would he want a committment when you gave it up for this? guys are smart! you will have to find someone else and not be the friends with benefits status if you ever want it serious, i only know this cuz I asked my manager who had a friend with benefits for three years if he would ever committ to her and he laughed saying no! thats just understood you can never go past the uncommittment. So you kinda screwed yourself with this guy.. maybe ur guy is different but I bet you could sit him down and ask him if he will ever want anything more~ then you know you can walk away before you get too attached... hopefully he does not lead you on tho and say yes and keep you waiting years. Guys like to lead girls on but he is getting the best thing..sex and no committment.
2007-12-23 13:20:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, the reason your friend with benefits isn't looking for a serious relationship with you right now is because YOU are allowing him to use you as a receptacle for his bodily fluids without him getting involved so there is no reason for him to get into a serious relationship with you. All he wants to do is phuck you, to use you as a whore and you are allowing him to do just that.
2007-12-23 14:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No I am sure he is serious because men normally don't just say things like that. But his main reason for being with you is the fact that you were married.
2007-12-23 13:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree with Fred Said....you need to change the arrangement then see what happens.
2007-12-23 13:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I honestly think it was him. If your relationship with him has always been casual then he might just want it to be that way and nothing else.
2007-12-23 13:17:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's about him. He was more comfortable when you were in a marriage and now that your divorced. . . it's a scary situation.
2007-12-23 13:15:57 · answer #8 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nobody wants to be the rebound guy. i think he is trying to avoid hurt
2007-12-23 13:16:06 · answer #9 · answered by Neescousin 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to buy the cow. The milk is free.
2007-12-23 13:15:04 · answer #10 · answered by Fred Said...クリスティー 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋