i am married. for thanksgiving my husband and his family came to my aunts house so i could spend thanksgiving with my family as well. my aunt lives 25 minutes away, as do my parents.. this holiday for christmas my husband wants to spend it with only his family even though my folks only live 25 minutes away and my cousins are coming.
Even tho i saw family at thanksgiving, i still would like to see them.
2007-12-23 09:17:37 · 14 answers · asked by Becca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
okay, I am confused.....
do people not read what i post?? I said that thanksgiving was with my family and my husband brought his family with too so they could be together at thanksgiving,. so yes my husband spend thanksgiving with them.....
2007-12-23 11:25:26 · update #1
don't be selfish...in marraige, it is not all about u and what is convenient for u
2007-12-23 09:25:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Christmas is spent traditionally in 3 days....Christmas Eve, Christmas Day and European tradition - Boxing Day....can you go see your family on one of those other two days vice THE DAY?
The other question is where does his folks live in comparison? Do you have to go out of state?
Then as a last resort....how about a sober in-law picking you up and taking you to your families celebration and bringing you back home?
Then you can thank your MAN for what he did for you last month....and feel his muscles and ask him if he could TREAT his WOMAN to additional attention this SPECIAL month also?
I am saying let Christmas day be with his folks and you be your best hostess on that day. Go see everyone on your side of the family on another day....if that is not possible...even a night time visit...then call them on that day.
2007-12-23 19:12:38 · answer #2 · answered by Philip T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point, you should really just take an hour or two to go see your family by yourself. I know you would much rather him go also, but the point is, you want to see your family...so find a good time that you could drive over to see your family and visit with them for a little while, then return to your husbands family. I think it gets harder year after year as familys grow and stuff to make sure everyone gets to see and spend time with everyone. We all have to make sacrifices this time of year. Good Luck!
2007-12-23 17:23:16 · answer #3 · answered by dizzymissy1985 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
why not have christmas at your house and let both of your families come. Christmas was supposed to be about being with loved ones. No need to argue about it.
Your husband shouldn't be so concerned about his family he should be concerned about everyones needs especially yours, you are his wife! Hope everything works out between you guys and have a good holiday.
2007-12-23 17:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
See one family on Christmas eve and the other on Christmas day!
2007-12-23 18:04:48 · answer #5 · answered by that judi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife & I do a kind of tour on Christmas day. Her family likes to do Christmas dinner in the middle of the afternoon, so we stop off there 1st & have a Christmas lunch.
Soon after, we depart for my side of the family wherever they are gathering, & join them for Christmas dinner.
It turns out to be a rather busy day for us, but it seems to keep everybody happy that we got to join them for Christmas Day.
2007-12-23 17:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That comes under the category of internal family (house) politics, so there's no outside opinion that's going to matter one way or another on this issue. It sounds like you and your husband have some things to discuss and/or negotiate. Good luck to you, and Happy Holidays.
(By the way, your avatar is seriously hot...)
2007-12-23 17:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your being selfish if he did not see his on thanksgiving then you need to see his on christmas?
If you seen both yours on thanksgiving then you both need to see them on christmas.
I have a son who is a teenager I sacrificed my life for him and all my children if when he grows up his wife does not want to visit me I would be so devasted!
You must both learn to share eqaul time with both families.
In my culture christmas last for days.
Why not spend eve at his or day at yours.
Share with both families.
I get really irrated with this subject my aunt died and before her death all she wanted was her son around his his BBBBB wife did not allow it.
Cause she was so insecure she wanted him to her self and he was coward enough to let her.
Well 5 years later he is divorced and screwed up in the head cause he was not there for his mom.
Remember if your a mother how would you want to be treated
2007-12-23 17:24:34 · answer #8 · answered by lisalisa 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it seems only fair to me, to take turns visiting your family and then his. i'm sure he wants to visit with his own family just as much as you want to visit yours. my brother and sister-in-law live in NJ, her family is in NJ but his family is all in VA. even though her family is about 20 minutes away, they keep it fair by alternating holidays, driving down to VA for every other major holiday.
2007-12-23 17:22:40 · answer #9 · answered by Melanie T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You guys should compromise and go to both families! That's what my fiance and I do!
2007-12-23 17:32:05 · answer #10 · answered by mrskeller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you should!Try to work out a schedule whereby you can go to both families houses!Thats what we do!
2007-12-23 17:20:58 · answer #11 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋