he acts silly like he will promise me dinner and then spend our dinner money on crap, then he says woops afterwards. it also seems like whenever he goes to see his family and i ask him a question he blows up at me and then we are mad during the holidays? i dont get it? what is wrong with this man? how do i deal with this?
2007-12-23 08:31:45 · 10 answers · asked by Sunshyne 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is a complexity here that will not be easy to sort out. The inference is that these conditions are seasonal only. If that's true then the previous writers who suggest that waiting until early spring to discuss them rationally (perhaps with a counselor as a referee) is the best approach. If he has mild ADD, the variety of gift possibilities could be over powering and driving some irrational behavior.
Separately, the family issue is more complex. Why aren't you accompanying him on these visits. Is there animosity between you and his family? Do they not approve of you or you of them? Is this behavior only demonstrated during December or is it year round? You two should really see someone for help on this because as his family ages, he may have more time devoted to their care.
2007-12-23 08:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by bardmere 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my hubby and son both hate Christmas - I asked them when it wasn't the holidays and they both said it's because they never know what to get anyone. Men just aren't into shopping like women are, I think. Maybe he's picking a fight in hopes that he won't have to worry about getting you a gift -or maybe he's just grouchy because he doesn't know what to get you. Make it easy on him and put out what you want on a paper or an ad. Not too extravagant either if he's strapped for cash. Good luck.
2007-12-23 08:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by Ann M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The holidays are very stressful for many people. There behavior changes, they get crabby and moody. We have so many expectations and reality usually can't measure up to what we want, so we start expecting things to go badly...we spend too much, have to think about so many responsibilities, or it is the only time during the year when we deal with all the relatives in one bunch...eek. Sometimes it gets on your very last nerve.
2007-12-23 08:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Chad....I think that perhaps something maybe happened around the Holidays in his past and is reminded of it each year when the Holidays come around.....Some people are very anniversary date oriented....and not even be conscientiously aware of it....Maybe you can wait til after New Years to discuss this with him....
2007-12-23 08:41:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He probably has some issue that happened years before during the holidays that scarred him emotionally. Try asking him in the spring when it's hopefully not so fresh in his mind. He may be more open to talking then.
2007-12-23 08:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by Chad 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Clearly there is something going on, that relates to some deep and hidden emotions that come from his family's relationships. My guess is that there is some really F***'d up stuff that went on in his childhood, and this is his reaction to it. Good grief, call him on it, sit down and get counseling? And don't you ever see his family? Might give you some insight on the dynamic.
2007-12-23 08:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by eldots53 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Maybe the holidays stress him out.
2007-12-23 08:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is a jerk. Leave and find a real man.
2007-12-23 08:35:24 · answer #8 · answered by Willie J 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think he is suffering from S.O.S.(Stuck on Stupid)
2007-12-23 08:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by Sunday's Best 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you need to kick his **** and get him to touch or exit.
2007-12-23 08:34:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋