This is only a question, I am not marries, but I know many women who are and have been cheated on by their husbands. I was having a conversation with someone a long time ago and they said "Sometimes, it takes strength to stay".
I've been through alot in my life and I agreed with the above statement to an extent. I've been cheated on by a boyfriend, which hurt like hell, but I don't think it would hurt any MORE if he had been my husband, because I feel regardless, the person you are with is supposed to love you right? Husband, fiance, boyfriend. Whatever title they have, betrayal is betrayal right?
I just don't like the idea of MY man sleeping with another woman, then coming home and smiling in my face, like he's happy with me and I would imagine that it would be hard for me to sleep with him and look at him the same way. Not only that, but I hate coming in 2nd place and feeling like a side dish to someone that I am giving my all to. Would you stay and try again, or leave? Honestly.
2007-12-23 05:46:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're close.... It takes strength to hold on to what you want in a marriage.
Some people find it easy just to fall back into the same routines. Some people find it easy just to walk away. Some people find it easy to ignore. Others just fight.
It takes strength to keep pursuing that which will make you happy. Especially, when it involves other people (which all relationships do).
Just remember, most people are cheating long before the physical encounter. So why are they straying from the marriage in the first place?
To answer your question, I would stay if BOTH of us were willing to do anything to make up the break in trust.
2007-12-23 05:55:37 · answer #1 · answered by Vitiran 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm married and I agree with you that it would hurt the same even if he was a boyfriend. But honestly I would say perhaps say that I would be more mad if my husband did it rather than a boyfriend as it would be a larger disrespect for the oaths of committment, the difference between being in love and being in love and marriage is the oath and holiness, u know?
I would definitely leave ... I can never look at him again, never share a bed with them and never stop imagining him with her, or questioning how he feels... I'd be suspicious of him for the rest of my life... I would hate and loathe a person who cheats on me.. and no matter how much I love my husband i would NOT stay...
I know so many people in my family, and lots of friends who have stayed... some have worked it out.. but some seem to have their husbands' affairs and apologies rubbed in their face constantly! So I guess maybe the best thing to do is to take time off and see whether its really worth staying or not..? :)
2007-12-23 13:59:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me it would depend on the circumstances. Unfortunately in this world today, there is so much promiscuity that is just an accepted part of life that people get de-sensitized in their relationships with their partners. The important thing is that you need to have a bond of trust between you, and if the infidelity is such that you can't regain that trust, I think it would take more strength to be able to admit that you have to leave. If, however, you have a relationship that is worth saving to both of you, I think it would take more strength to stay. Anything worth fighting for takes a lot of strength.
2007-12-23 14:14:04 · answer #3 · answered by Bonbon29 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are right on the part about whatever they are to you that you should love them the same but i also believe that it will never be the same after you have been cheated on. i personally could never trust that person again. even if they were honest and admitted it to me - i just can't see myself staying with them. it would hurt too bad.
2007-12-23 14:08:32 · answer #4 · answered by allofthat7464 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why some people make a big deal about cheating, when this does not bother me at all. I could careless if my wifes cheats on me or not. I told her its was total okay with me, but I don't want to hear about it and make sure its far, far away from home. What she does not hear or what I don't hear will not kill me.
2007-12-23 14:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by Pain_of_Unhappiness2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not married then leave once a cheater always a cheater you don't want to marry a cheater .....if your married and have kids you should stay and that would take a lot of strength...
2007-12-23 13:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by just bored 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him.
My self-esteem is high, therefore I will not allow anyone to see me as a doormat and a convenient lay when he isn't with the other woman.
2007-12-23 14:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes strenght to put up with that kind of $hit for the sake of the kids or even the marriage, but it takes more strenght, courage, and determination to get out of that, i feel more respect for a person that gets out than the one that stays,
2007-12-23 13:55:36 · answer #8 · answered by suehellen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I give it 1 chance if not its over if person is cheater
2007-12-23 13:50:30 · answer #9 · answered by aarohap 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Betrayal is betrayal and no I wouldn't stay.
2007-12-23 14:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anna 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋