Marriage & Divorce - 21 December 2007

long story short....married 8 years. wife has had two affairs with co-workers. one sexual the other "emotional." Recently I have been involved with someone that wants me to leave my wife and two kids. I love my kids and can't imagine not being with them all the time. I don't know what to do?

2007-12-21 05:45:56 · 37 answers · asked by typershark 1

im engaged but now ithink my relationship with her is breaking apart.we used to do everything together always laughing and in the perfect moment... we had our fights and arguments like evreyone else but lately its been getting sooo bad. im class A weight lifter at my high school and im crying like a punk.i cant hold it im feeling feelings for other girls everyone tells me i look different im always down now.theres soo much pain in sorrow in me, but i do love her i love her soo much and i dont want her to go, but im only 18 and i feel as if im fourty.im crying right now writting this letter im desprit please someone help before i give everything up...please

2007-12-21 05:39:17 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I went to bed like usual and awoke this morning with her cuddling me. My god! She didn't even ask me. She cuddled me while I was a sleep and defenseless. If feel so used. I'm thinking about putting up an eletric fense down the middle of the bed. How many of you have had to put up with unwanted cuddling?

2007-12-21 05:38:32 · 36 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

my name back to my maiden name. I have 2 kids from my ex and kept it because of them and because it's so much easier than changing it. But my boyfriend keeps asking me. He hasn't giving me an ultimatum, but I know it bothers him. I really don't mind changing back but want to know your thoughts.

2007-12-21 05:37:53 · 22 answers · asked by Lily 3

My husband told me I could get another house dog after my dog I had before we were married died. Now I have had this dog for 2 months and he wants me to get rid of her. She is a great dog but he can't stand her because he has issues with having to be super clean all the time. We already have our share of problems besides this and he is unwilling to ever compromise for me if there is something I don't like so I don't know why I should. What would you do???

2007-12-21 05:36:27 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous

See this question - actually, the ANSWERS to it are more revealing....

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=As.7QvFBWLMWgQDykLrauYTB7BR.;_ylv=3?qid=20071221095607AA99he2

This woman was dating a man, starting dating another one, HID the first guy from the new one, only ditching him after her new guy found out she was with the other guy.

About 2/3 of the answers do not call that cheating.

I find this most disturbing. And it makes me wonder about how many people consider themselves never having cheated, because they were mad at their husband, or he said he didn't care, or he doesn't pay enough attention, or she was drunk.

Isn't dating two people, even in "not so serious" mode, and hiding them from each other, cheating??

And yes the guy in the question was cheating too - but nobody argued about him.

2007-12-21 05:29:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

delete their questions after you've spent time answering it just b/c they don't like your answer. there was a moron in marriage and divorce yesterday who aborted her husband's baby w/o his knowledge or consent and then told him a/b it later and then couldn't figure out why he wanted a divorce. a reason for doing this was b/c she wanted finish school. although they could afford to hire help. she got lots of negative comments including one from me. i mean are you kidding me. did she really think she'd have anyone on her side. but i just hate it when they remove the question. if you don't want to hear the truth then don't ask for help. i think most people come here to really help people through things they've been through themselves but come on if you most something so ridiculous what do you exspect the response will be.

2007-12-21 04:43:38 · 11 answers · asked by freedom fighter 7

2007-12-21 04:34:41 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why are their wives getting so upset I just wanted to wish them a Merry xxxmas?

2007-12-21 04:33:39 · 63 answers · asked by Anonymous

i want to go and visit my gf living up in london bt i dno what to tell my parents because im going on my own and they dont know i have a gf..

2007-12-21 04:26:11 · 9 answers · asked by confused0102 2

This guy & ive got history as family friends who met online after his folks threw him out(reason unknown).We are friends in love 4yrs.2 sides to this guy.With pals a player,motor mouth,temper,says im after in love with him,shows cards given for bday,tells gang friend to tell me off who calls names,wont meet,knows family secrets,tells bro to tell my mum etc.But with me hes great,shares everything,hobby,online,phone been with me ops,through everything.I had enough.
1 issue rarely it happens but his temper though hes motor mouth.I dont react let him blow off steam.I called his office as no cell digits as he cant commit i tell him i go abroad if we dont meet.Temper flares motor mouth calls names,tells bro with him to tell my mum,he knows our fly secrets,tells his friend in gang to tell me off as hes told his pals im after in love with him both are on speaker phone in between he asks me where i am out of love & concern.His friends shocked haha lol.If i keep quiet let it blow his temper motor mouth off it blows up on my face.Now hes online,call i dont go online,call.Whats with him do u think?

2007-12-21 04:24:29 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't understand what is wrong with men. Are there any good quality men out there. Men who earn a good living, want a devoted wife who is a good mother?
I mean, I would try to go above and beyond by doing little things that people don't normally think of. Like laying out the change of clothes. Give a nice backrub if he's had a long day at the office, down to wearing the favorite nighty. I mean, why must he look at other women? Why has he cheated so much. I honestly do not know what else I can do! I really think I am a good wife, and at this point I feel like I am not good enough. The other day when I told him about Jay-Z alledgelly cheating he said "He's stupid, he has beyonce at home" I mean, like what the f?!?! Am I not hot enough for him, regardless what I do? I mean, I don't know...why can't men have ONE awesome woman at home, who they love and spoil...why is that so hard when I have so much to give?!?!?

2007-12-21 04:18:43 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am completely and utterly shocked this could happen this fast. I feel as if thier is hope. I may just be fooling myself. We had a great relationship, everyone else saw the same. Our friends were jealous of how happy we seemed. And how the hell can she do this during Christmas? So here's what issues she says I have, that way you just dont see my side. She feels i dont listen to her stories well, I dont rub her feet enough, I dont scratch her back enough, I dont kiss her deeply enough anymore. I dont do enough housework. I dont coddle her when we fight and she cries. I dont woo her enough before sex. The sex has become routine. I dont give her enough romance. etc... I mean she can just keep going or reiterate the same. I have tried everything to tell her that i will fix all that. She seems disinterested. Why not ask to go to counceling earlier??? And in all honesty, I could tell she was happy before I approached her about this cop. She said that brought out the neg..

2007-12-21 04:14:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Our home that we had resided in for 18 years is in his name only, do I have any right to that home? The house in Tennessee is in both of our names, but I do not wish to live here, and can not afford to live in the NH house. I have been blindsided and do not know what to do. Please help

2007-12-21 04:07:30 · 37 answers · asked by Nancy W nurse 2 b 1

I am married to a marine, he is in Iraq. Things have been rocky between us, but I recently met a wonderful guy in a class I'm taking. I think I'm falling for him. What do I do? Part of me feels bad, but there is a part of me that wants this. Serious answers only need apply. Thanks. Anyone else in this predicament?

2007-12-21 03:47:30 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

and hows your relationship any advice?

2007-12-21 03:41:54 · 17 answers · asked by Michelle 3

i don't think i will (but i have a while lol), but i was wondering what other people would do? if you have a reason why or why not i would love to hear them.

2007-12-21 03:39:42 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Your lied to and hurt your significant other so badly that they dumped you...

Now... you have to see them all the time. What is worse for you?

If they were nice and civil and acted the same way they were when you initially fell in love with him/her - and now you cant do a thing about it, and you have to watch them live their lives happily... without you.

OR

If they just completely ignored you entirely and never talked to you ever again.... he/she is now entirely and completely out of your life forever


You regret it all and you miss him/her. Which scenario is worse for you?

2007-12-21 03:37:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

We got married on 07/07/07. Just 5 1/2 months ago. Two weeks ago Monday she told me she was going to go shopping with a single cop she is co-workers with. I told her that I wouldn't be real comfortable with that, as I was already mad that she was going back and forth on myspace with him. Like a light switch, she has completely changed since then. Now I am controlling who her friends are and whom she is allowed to go out with. She now has brought up every negative thing about me and says I don't listen to her needs. She has been going out every night, staying out till 3:00 am or staying the night at friends. She has changed her myspace status from married to swinger. I saw on her phone bill hundreds of text messages to this cop. We have a house together and everything was normal just two weeks ago. She doesnt want to go to counseling. She is completely afraid of confrontation, so she can't even have a civil conversation about it. Im ready to quit, but I love her. ????

2007-12-21 03:36:00 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

The question came up between my husband and myself the other night. We joked and said "all the time" but if you had to pick one what would it be.

Morning (haven't even been out of bed yet)
Noon (at home)
Night (after you have had time to relax)

2007-12-21 03:34:26 · 46 answers · asked by queenbee 4

my baby daddy and i are back together we broke up about a week ago and just got back together this week hes going out of town with his mother and im thinkin about going i really think he ready 4 me to have his child he ask me all the time when are u having it i want it to be a boy so he can look just like me i really want this child thats why every time we have sex he do what it does to have it if u put a lot of sperm inside will that make it more children if u are going to be negative please dont even give me any complaments.thank u

2007-12-21 03:32:49 · 4 answers · asked by carlisha w 1

I do ?

2007-12-21 03:26:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

No Sis, No Bros, Friends will not always be there and finding the right girl is hard....I'm 20 years old man, sex opportunities come but I don't like to sleep with anyone just like that with all these diseases out there.

2007-12-21 03:25:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been in a relationship with a married man for almost 8 years. Before my relationship with him, my marriage was over - just not on paper. He tells me that the only reason he is still in his marriage is because of his children - he couldn't bare the thought of not seeing them every day. I have been divorced now for over a year and my children and I are very happy. It was the right decision for all of us and it was not because of the man I have been seeing - it would have happened regardless. The man I am seeing is positively my very best friend. I, however, find myself questioning the reason that he hasn't left since my situation improved - even for my children - when my ex-husband and I divorced. He has told me that his marriage was failing before I came along as well. There are times, however, that things just don't seem as he says. Do you think that I am waiting for nothing? Will I end up alone? Or, is there a chance he is 100% honest with me.

2007-12-21 03:23:09 · 11 answers · asked by kdcas10 1

I dated this guy over 4 years ago. I knew of his wife but didn't actually know her. They seperated and from my understanding at the time were in divorce proceedings. Over 4 years later, I met his wife through a mutual friend. We've become really close and I like her. I feel like I'm betraying her because I've dated him and don't know what to do. They're having marital problems now because of his infidelity...another woman. She asks me for advise all the time. Should I tell her about us or not? What would you do?

2007-12-21 03:20:50 · 10 answers · asked by QuEEn B 4

My husband and I have been married 30 years, we are in our early 50's. For the last year now my husband has an E D problem, it starts strong and dies off fast, at first I thought it was me, maybe I just did not excited him any more, I tried everything sexy clothes and nities nothing worked, We now know the problem and he won't do anything about it, he is afraid to take Viagra or any thing else because of the side effects, I am going out of my mind I bought adult toys for myself to keep me happy but thats not helping I need the real thing, I want to be may love to so mad I wake up in the middle of the night because I can't sleep. What do I do?

2007-12-21 03:17:04 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-21 03:13:39 · 26 answers · asked by gomer 1

2007-12-21 02:47:49 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-21 02:35:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

(a) love
(b) lust
(c) weak mind
(4) all of the above

:)

2007-12-21 01:51:17 · 16 answers · asked by moonstone 1