I am completely and utterly shocked this could happen this fast. I feel as if thier is hope. I may just be fooling myself. We had a great relationship, everyone else saw the same. Our friends were jealous of how happy we seemed. And how the hell can she do this during Christmas? So here's what issues she says I have, that way you just dont see my side. She feels i dont listen to her stories well, I dont rub her feet enough, I dont scratch her back enough, I dont kiss her deeply enough anymore. I dont do enough housework. I dont coddle her when we fight and she cries. I dont woo her enough before sex. The sex has become routine. I dont give her enough romance. etc... I mean she can just keep going or reiterate the same. I have tried everything to tell her that i will fix all that. She seems disinterested. Why not ask to go to counceling earlier??? And in all honesty, I could tell she was happy before I approached her about this cop. She said that brought out the neg..
2007-12-21 04:14:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She lives in fantasy land. Love & Marriage change, like the wind, time, life...
She is not committed to your relationship if she is not willing to do whatever it takes to fix it.
2007-12-21 04:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I repeat again, these are not issues that cause someone to become a cheating skank. Maybe she would like for you to wipe her butt too!
I am sorry dear, but I managed to stick out a marriage from hell for 13 years, replete with physical and emotional abuse and this witch is complaining about not getting her feet rubbed! What is she doing for you? Is dinner on the table every night when you get home? Is your laundry done, folded and ironed? I know her puss is gold-plated and that is all that is needed, right?
If I could crawl through the internet I would smack her upside the head for being such a pitiful excuse of a woman! There are some wonderful, loving, GIVING, females out there. Get divorced and go find one.
Oh BTW, abuse works two ways in a marriage, and she is abusing you. The humiliation and fault finding are a way of breaking down your confidence. Don't give into it.
2007-12-21 12:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is wrong with showing her attention once in a while? Are you sure she is having an affair? Do you have concrete prove? Or are you jumping to conclusions?
Is she supporting you? Do you work? If not then you should be helping out around the house. When she comes home are you are sitting around playing video games while the house is a mes? Do you shovel for her?
Is it your house together or her house?
HAs she been suggesting counseling and you never agreed? Tell the truth, not just your side...She supports you, it is her house. You do not do manly things...like shovel, mow the lawn...SHe supports you and takes care of the house too!!! Be a man grow a s*c and maybe she will stay with you... She is the breadwinner, you should be doing stuff around the house!
2007-12-21 14:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by orkin54 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dam! Sounds like she wants a divorce. I think if she is willing maybe you guys need to get some counseling and see if there is a chance of you working things out.
I mean son;t just give up if you truly do love her and if she loves you the same, she should be willing to get some help to save your relationship. Good Luck!
2007-12-21 12:20:04 · answer #4 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you trying to say? is she messing around with a cop? Oh i went and read your other ? one thing i wouldn't be doing is having unprotected sex with her until you know for sure if she's been sleeping with the cop because every cop i know personally sleep around a lot, in other words don't put your life in her hands she may be carrying something there is no cure for.. Keep your chin up and good luck..
2007-12-21 12:19:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuses, excuses, excuses. She is just looking for excuses. As soon as the cop is done with her, she will be running back. I hope you smarten up - she is not a very nice person. She wants a doormat and that won't even be good enough for her. Marriage is a 2 way street.
2007-12-21 12:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by Babycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For a marriage to work BOTH parties involved need to WANT to make it work! If she doesn't want to make it work, then it can tear you down and exhaust you.
For her to say something brought out the negative, tell her to take some responsibility for her actions! Be a woman and admit what she is doing. She sounds like a coward.
2007-12-21 12:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jazz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So basically she is saying you aren't showing her how you feel about her or that you care about her. Women often feel that way when we are feeling guilty about something we are doing. It is far easier to blame the person who we are hurting. Try what I reccommended. Try showing her and telling her what you want from her....try making it a point to let her know that you love and need her. Men forget from time to time to show us not just tell us. My husband does!!!
Momma_Bear
2007-12-21 13:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by the_morris_bears 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her to tell all that **** to the cop and hope like hell he doesn't take out his gun and just shoot her.
2007-12-21 12:19:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't tell her show her, she feels you don't give her enough attention and try new things with the sex, new places, add some fun & excitement to the bedroom. If you don't show her belive me she'll find it else where.
2007-12-21 12:20:40 · answer #10 · answered by puffy2step 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋