What is wrong?

Question

I don't understand what is wrong with men. Are there any good quality men out there. Men who earn a good living, want a devoted wife who is a good mother?
I mean, I would try to go above and beyond by doing little things that people don't normally think of. Like laying out the change of clothes. Give a nice backrub if he's had a long day at the office, down to wearing the favorite nighty. I mean, why must he look at other women? Why has he cheated so much. I honestly do not know what else I can do! I really think I am a good wife, and at this point I feel like I am not good enough. The other day when I told him about Jay-Z alledgelly cheating he said "He's stupid, he has beyonce at home" I mean, like what the f?!?! Am I not hot enough for him, regardless what I do? I mean, I don't know...why can't men have ONE awesome woman at home, who they love and spoil...why is that so hard when I have so much to give?!?!?

Answer 1

when you act like a doormat, you get treated like a doormat.........you teach people how to treat you.........but you have to love yourself first

Answer 2

Hi Jessica A,

Monogamy is a crazy concept. Having sex with other women does not make you a bad quality man. Why must he look at other women? Because there are fine women everywhere and we like them. Immature people (male or female) would expect their partner to never look at anybody every again.

You are probably a very good (smothering though) wife, but here is the answer to your question. No, one woman at home is not enough. If you have an Almond Joy and put it in a new package, it is still and Almond Joy! After a while no matter what you do to it you are going to get bored. Sorry if that offends people, but women always wan to know why. Well, that is why.

Also, on the Jay-Z issue. His stock goes up because he was with Beyonce. Somebody is going to want to give him a taste and after all this time he is going to be bored with her too. Halle Berry's husbands had sex with other people too. In the line from "The Best Man": "The only thing better than p**** is new p*****."

However, I don't believe infidelity has to be relationship ending. But, you and he need to deal with the topic openly and honestly. If it is a deal breaker for you, then get out. If remaining faithful is not going to work for him...get out.

Why do women want to be in monogamous relationships?

Answer 3

Hi I'm a man and Ihave been cheated on my wife did this to me and after awhile I ended the marriage, She wasn't going to change And I could see that, It hurt so much, But then it just turned into Hate, I'm a security gaurd However I at one time had Lots of money and no I don't (Cheating) Isn't just a man thing either It happens It's sad it also sickens me.
I would hope that you find a man that really loves you He wouldn't have to make much money unless that's a real big deal to you. I hope it isn't as I don't make much money either however I'm working (20) hours on christmas day I will be up for more than 25 hours,,,and I'm close to being 48 years old.
" Yes there are good loving honest men out here I'm one of them, I know that we all say that, I know I have faults, but cheating isn't one of them. I cook clean do laundry.I work But I don't have a wife or any children. So don't lose faith we are here......Some of us are just to tired to go out looking for a girlfriend. I try in my spare time but I don't look much.
You can't ever thing that you will change your husband it's not going to happen just like there's so many other things that you can't control.
you have some thinking to do and a choice that must be made start by hiding some money it's going to take some cash. Thanks for your question and take care Dear!

Answer 4

I'm very sad to hear that you're going thru all this.

I think you have done enough and is time that you have a nice chat with him. Don't loose your temple stay calm and let him know you know what he has done to you ( make sure you have proof first).

If he continues after your chat with him, you should decide what you want to do from then on. Talk to you close family members and close friends for second opinion, time to let it go just let go, though is very hard but the pain will go away one day, even if in the near future memories do make you sad but is only for a minute or so.

Don't continue to hurt yourself, you should starts pampering yourself now. Accept the fact that he cheated on you, and I believe surely one day he has regretted what he has missed out for being taking you for granted.

I hope you both sorted it out and starts loving each other like your courting times. God Blessed

Answer 5

I was just like u i understand u completely.I didnt mind if he did things other girls would flip,i didnt spy,i didnt nag whatever.Guess what he did everything talk meet my own friends,flirt,chat with strangers.Totally then turn around going off on me for something when i said if u dont commit im leaving for good abroad lol.I guess MEN are that way scratch surface underneath every man is that way good or bad they have it in them atleast some men do.I know if its other guy hell do same thing maybe subtly or without me knowing its just a male species nature.

Answer 6

Well lets see... you bend over backwards and then EXPECT to be spoiled in return... I'm sure he can sense this in his home... All I can say is that it is nice to be spoiled, but sounds to me like a brat talking here...

By the way... are you his Mother? I mean... laying out his clothes? Sounds like maybe he wants more of a wife and a woman than a Mother type... Just my opinion though...

Answer 7

Okay, you are obviously trying very hard to be a good wife. If that is not enough (and obviously it isn't) you need to talk to him about the discrepancies in your sexual needs and drives. Maybe he loves you but has a higher sex drive. THere are ways to adapt to this type of issue. Open marriage, swinging, that type of thing. But the only way to find out is to talk things over with him. Calmly and in a controlled manner.

Answer 8

There are good loving men out there. But if you have a man who has cheated before he'll always be a cheater.You can not change a person.

Answer 9

Okay, this is just me talking but here is my issue. If you sit there and baby a man all of the time it doesn't mean he is going to stay faithful to you. In fact, I believe it will push him to possibly do it because then he feels that no matter what he does you are there to stay. If a woman is stronger, more independent and doesn't baby her man then the man will know right off the bat that she could up and leave at any moment and will always think twice before piddlin' around. I am not saying that they still won't sleep around, but they will know if they do that there will be hell to pay.

Answer 10

Most men do have one awesome woman they love. Sorry you don't. Surely you saw signs of this before you married him. He's a loser. You my dear are an enabler. Why would you let him cheat over and over? Wasn't once really enough?

Answer 11

sounds like you are mostly his mother, then a wife. try being just a woman. you've got needs and wants, make them known. you probably made them known very well before you got married, well do it again, and do it often!

you are a woman foremost. do not forget that. get all girlie up, strut your stuff, and demand his attention as only a woman can.