My husband told me I could get another house dog after my dog I had before we were married died. Now I have had this dog for 2 months and he wants me to get rid of her. She is a great dog but he can't stand her because he has issues with having to be super clean all the time. We already have our share of problems besides this and he is unwilling to ever compromise for me if there is something I don't like so I don't know why I should. What would you do???
2007-12-21 05:36:27 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The dog isn't allowed in the bedroom at any time. She sleeps in a kennel. She gets baths twice a week. And she is completely house trained. I pick up after her constantly to try to keep him happy but it just isn't good enough. And here is the underlying problem...he is a control freak!! And I am a very independent person. One combo where opposites don't attract.
2007-12-21 06:00:14 · update #1
I don't feel he should make you choose. A pet is a committment much like a child. Just because a kid gets on your nerves you don't give it away, why would you do that with your pet?
2007-12-21 05:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is unfair to expect your husband to agree to living in an unclean environment. There is no kind of compromise that will not disrupt his personal living space.
Have you ever watched that show called The Dog Whisperer? He teaches people how to manage their dogs in a way where the dogs no longer present problems for the owners. Perhaps you could try a few techniques to get your dog until control. If it's chewing up shoes or something, you will need to put an end to that right quick. If it's slobbering all over the place perhaps you need to keep it outside. If it's shedding fur, you might want to bathe and brush it very frequently. If you cannot do your fair share to keep the home the way he wants it with your dog inside, you do need to get rid of it. No one should be expected to sacrifice the happiness of their private living space for the sake of a lesser being (the pet -not you).
2007-12-21 05:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
The dog issue sounds like a focus for more underlying problems.
1. Try to address the real problems first - possibly with professional help.
2. Regardless of whether you follow point 1. above, don't use the dog as your emotional punching bag: If you love the dog more than the husband, then dump the husband.
2007-12-21 05:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I'd keep the dog and get rid of the power freak.
Dogs are the only animals that love you more than themselves.
At least with a dog it might get in your bed, if it brings a bone into your bed you can toss the bone outside.
The dog wont expect you to share it with him.
The power freak will always have a bone to pick with you.
The key wording was HE TOLD YOU - what he actually permitted you to have a dog shaft this POWER freak he
rules your life and is jealous of the attention the dog gets.
2007-12-21 05:53:12 · answer #4 · answered by thistle 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Your marriage will have a shorter life than your dog if the two of you don't figure out how to do things for each other. After all, didn't you try to think of things to do for/with him before you married? If one or both of you is trying to keep things "fair", you're in for a rude awakening. If both of you feel like you "do more, give more" etc, then you are both normal. It really sounds like the issue that you feel he never compromises is coming to a head and must be dealt with. I suggest you two head for a counselor to help you discuss and pull out your issues and resolve them. Sometimes having a neutral (not friend or family) party there can help you discuss things that you are too close to, to see. (Ever hear the "can't see the forest for all the trees"?) If you both love each other, then you need to see how you can fix this, because this will get worse before it could get better.
2007-12-21 05:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by Gorgeous 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Try to come up with a compromise...maybe he'll be more apt to let you keep her if you make a deal to wash her 2 times a week or if she's an outside dog (part of the time...i dont think any dog should have to stay outside all the time). If you can't come to terms with your husband you may just have to decide if this pet is worth the problems its causing your relationship. I hope it works out for you soon.
2007-12-21 05:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by Lil Bit 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Keep the DOG! I have dogs too. Dogs are always happy to see you when you come home, it sounds like your husband never is!
Dogs are loyal is you man?
Dogs don't nag.
Dogs always love you and expect very little in return!
Get rid of the husband! You will find a very nice man who loves dogs and have a happy life!
2007-12-21 07:15:38 · answer #7 · answered by mikey_fiveoh 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe try and let it go by. My husband didn't like my dog at all at first and always wanted to get of her. Now he always wants her to sleep with him and tells her she is the best dog ever. It took about a year and he would always get mad and we would fight about it but now I know he can not get rid of her. I hope it helps.
2007-12-21 05:41:40 · answer #8 · answered by Baby Girl Rylin 5/3/08 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
a pet is a commitment. not quite as serious as having a child, but not to be taken lightly. the dog is part of the family now. keep it clean, keep it off the furniture, maybe make the bedroom off-limits so that your husband's most personal space is free of dog stuff. if there are other problems, the dog is probably being used as a scapegoat for the real issues at hand.
2007-12-21 05:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by Melanie T 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Well, since he has issues with hygiene..
You could take your dog outside and train her or something.
Stuff like this can break a marriage.
But, if I was in your shoes, I would keep the dog lol but still keep it clean all-the time and stuff.
But, noone's REALLY clean!
2007-12-21 05:42:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Tell your husband the dog house is available for HIS occupancy and he's getting there real fast...
Your husbands clean freak issues is a huge
REDFLAG!!!
Find a marriage counselor or clergy to help you thru this before it becomes a major bone of contention....
2007-12-21 05:43:36 · answer #11 · answered by Dog Rescuer 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋