Marriage & Divorce - 21 December 2007

please only give me serious and helpful answers. dont try to change my mind as i have made the decision to stay with my husband and try to forgive him. heres what happened - he had a 4 month long affair with a coworker who thought we were divorced. he acted like all was fine with the two of us. he would tell me he was working late some nights. and then he would say he was out of town for work and actually live with her in her apartment! he did not come clean to me, nor did he break things off with her. what happened was, her roommate's friend used to work with me a while ago. when the friend (my ex-coworker) called my boss to chit chat she mentioned, "how is danielle doing since her divorce?" and my boss answered "danielle did not get divorced." when i found out i confronted my husband in front of his girlfriend and forced him to choose. that's how it happened. all i want to know is how can i stop picturing them together? how can i forgive him? how can i regain my confidence in myself?

2007-12-21 12:45:46 · 26 answers · asked by Danielle R 3

...If, YOU, were going Blind...
...I would LOVE to SEE: my wife's smile for the last time...

2007-12-21 12:33:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

And what are the things that make you say no to?

2007-12-21 12:22:59 · 7 answers · asked by ♥GinaBeena♥™ 4

2007-12-21 12:12:03 · 12 answers · asked by Laura D 1

I found out my husband was having an affair 3 weeks before our baby was born and continues to do so but denies it is still going on (I left as soon I found out and am currently filing for divorce). Anyway, his whole life is spectacularly falling apart around his ears and the last piece in the puzzle will be when his tart dumps him as he is now totally broke! I have heard that he actually believes that I have got someone to place a curse on him (even though he never believed in anything like that before). This really made me laugh as I have simply stepped back and let him destroy his own life, such a compliment though that he actually thinks I have enough power to affect his whole life and future in such a way. I simply believe karma is at work, as they say what goes around comes around. What do you think and have you any personal examples?

2007-12-21 11:51:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

we're married for 11 years, when we first got married, he did want to have children. But as time moved on, we were so busy at work and the mortgages had drained us so much that we didn't want to have another burden.

Our relationship has not been very good either I sometimes feel lonely and helpless. Recently we had a big row, and we had a serious discussion on what should be the next step. We agreed to go for counselling. I kept thinking he will not be a good father, or maybe I'm judging it from my experience as a wife, some men will become more 'manly' after having a child (?)

I know it's a bit late for my age and for him to have a baby, but sometimes I still want to be a mother. However, by the time the child left the college, he will be 68 and I will be the only one to support the family. I feel tired already all the years after the mortgage payment, is it worth to have a child now and start from zero?

just serious answers please. Thanks.

2007-12-21 11:51:22 · 29 answers · asked by uno_yy 2

I am a 32 year old woman who is happily married to a 46 year old man. The problem is I am always wanting sex! I swear I could do it 4 or 5 times aday if I had the chance. I don't want another guy or anything but I am always wanting "IT". I noticed that I became like this shortly after I turned 31 but I have been too embarassed to talk to any of my friends about this. My husband loves sex too but not this much. I just look at him it seems and want "IT". What is wrong with me? Is there something I can do to calm myself down? Please no jokes. I feel like a pervert or something. HELP!!

2007-12-21 11:50:59 · 25 answers · asked by JACQUELINE T 6

mostly for couples with kids involved. im working late tonight but when i come home. i want my woman *** naked waiting for me. what can i say in a text to almost make sure this happens? need something smooth that will make her want me to come home quick.

2007-12-21 11:46:45 · 8 answers · asked by dgmotley 2

2007-12-21 11:45:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

He keeps making excuses for not having sex with me. and I don't get it. I've heard of this happening with women like the joke about why the bride is smiling. I don't understand...

2007-12-21 11:44:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

husband and wife goes different church because one can,t be around siners

2007-12-21 11:41:39 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

haven't gotten laid..

2007-12-21 11:23:27 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok this is going to be kind of long, but thanks for checking
my mom has been married to my stepdad for over 15 years, always there for him, when he had cancer, heartattack, and recently he just collapsed and my mom was always there for him taking care of him

he is a highly irresposnible person, who's never taken care of any of his kids, extremely messy and very selfish.

he has a brother who is recently divorced b/c he cheated on his wife of 20+ years, paid a big settlement and now lives in an apt and eats microwavable food.

so this brother is influencing my stepdad, telling him how myself and my mom aren't taking good care of him, and my step dad has been refinancing the house (which the money my mom never got, he spend on useless things such as a collection of light hosues, a collection of lionel trains), but he refuses to pay for utility when he is the one demanding to have heater on 24/7, he refuses to help out

he wants my mom to take care of him allt he time, but he wont

2007-12-21 11:22:56 · 5 answers · asked by Clueless 5

i always thaught that if a rich person stress you you can take their money and go shopping but if a poor person stress you you are stuck in a rat hole am i wrong for feeling and thinking this way

2007-12-21 10:22:50 · 17 answers · asked by MEETOO 2

Would you say kissing (not on the lips) someone else while your married is cheating?

2007-12-21 09:54:36 · 27 answers · asked by Sassy 2

My husband and i are two very different people who fell in love.
We have been married for 2.5 years and have a 7 month old little boy. For the last two years i have put up with aLOT of verbal abuse, anger outbursts, him threatening to leave me, telling me that im lucky i have our little boy or he would have been gone a long time ago. he has done what i consider to be cheating with women online on about 6 occassions, each time appologizing and saying it wont happen again. but we will have a couple good days and then we have blowouts. I tend to keep my mouth shut and just deal with it but the things he says to me iv never heard another person tell to their wife and it hurts so bad. I kept telling him if it kept up I would want to leave at some point and now its gotten so bad i just want to move on with my life. one day he is all for it, tells me to get out so he wont wast anymore of his life with me, then when i got the papers he got PISSED and started guilting me into counciling.

2007-12-21 09:51:33 · 22 answers · asked by Jenn 1

Im planning on leaving my husband. If I took the baby and leave one day while he's at work, and he reports his daughter miss or anything to the law about me taking his daughter, would I be in trouble? i live in Ontario, canada.. anyone.. please help...

2007-12-21 09:37:12 · 7 answers · asked by Sassy 2

if you are divorced, what things would you have changed in hindsight. i am about to get married, i would like al lthe advice i can get.

2007-12-21 09:29:27 · 25 answers · asked by lefemmeviolent 2

Would you sleep with your wife for a million dollars?
My wife already owes me so much I should be set for life, but she keeps spending it.

2007-12-21 09:24:03 · 7 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

I betrayed my wife by cheating on her last year. She recently found evidence of it on my computer. She wants a divorce and wants to take our two kids far away. She cheated on me multiple times when we were first married and young... I should have known better to do the same to her. I am having a very hard time dealing with this and am trying to show her in every way possible that we can/should work this out. Communicate more and make this strengthen our relationship. I know it takes years to forgive this betrayal and I was able to do it. Should I let go? Should I fight for her and my kids? I am soooo lost. I never thought in a million years I would have done this to her.

2007-12-21 09:18:46 · 68 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I need custody of his children. They are 8 and 10. They are bright, intelligent kids and we have the means to further their learning. We also have a more stable home environment than the mother. She is a diabetic that only stays in the bed when she's home. They have called us crying at 2:00 in the afternoon because they haven't had anything to eat, she starts fights with us in the children's presence and she lets them stay at a babysitter's house that has gone to prison for meth manufacturing. Several people have told us that her boyfriend (who is constantly around the kids) is a meth addict. As far as we know, she does not do any drugs, but it could be possible (birds of a feather flock together). We have not seen the kids in 2 1/2 months because she wants more child support. We are not behind on child support and we have hired a lawyer. She has been served with contempt papers and still won't let us see the children. Help!! Does it sound like we have a custody case?

2007-12-21 09:11:39 · 9 answers · asked by jazzygirl110381 2

my wife had an affair. i'm sure of it. everything points to it. thing is she got pregnant (after wanting a baby sooooo badly) and immediately decided she wanted an abortion. on the way back from after the abortion i think she was feeling guilty about everything and kept saying to me "please don't ever leave me" which i told her i wouldn't. after the abortion, she freaked out emotionally and just went nuts on me and my son from a previous marriage. then she packed all her stuff and left. do you think she left me because she just couldn't deal with what she had done and i reminded her of it. nothing makes sense. then she filed some real nasty crazy stuff about me in divorce court. it is just so weird that the woman that said "please never leave me" two months later left me, freaked out, and filed nasty stuff against me. can anyone explain this? all she would have to do is say she was sorry to me for doing what she did and i would have forgiven her. i loved her that much. now what? I’m leaving her alone but I still love her. if she would just tell me the truth about what happened, I’d forgive her but now I have to fight her in court and fighting isn’t going to bring back those feelings between the two of us. I think it’s a lost cause but man I still love her even though she betrayed me.

2007-12-21 09:10:15 · 31 answers · asked by survivor 1

My parents have been together for 10 years and my dad had a previous marriage before her.And my dad who is usually nice but the other day he came home drunk and yelled and started a fight with my mom about bills and things. And I have been looking at what he has been googling and he has been googling porn and dating websites....

I dont want to tell my mom but I think that is it neccasary. But first I want to tell my sister. My family hasnt been very happy lightly if you know what I mean.. Please help. I know I know why was I looking at his stuff but it hurts me that he would do that.


Can you help me here are my 2 questions.

How Do I tell my sister??
How do I handle this!?

2007-12-21 09:05:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was over at my aunts house and I was playing with her dog, and she was throwing his big bone around for the dog to fetch, and i was laying on the ground spread out and she threw the bone and it hit me right in the balls! OUCHHH, she knew where it hit me,yet she was telling me not to make a big deal about it, and to stop actinglike ababy, now everything is really weird. what should i do, and why did she act like this?

2007-12-21 09:03:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiance and I live together. When I first come home from work, all I want to do is give him a big kiss and hug. When he first comes home from work I am usually so happy to see him that I run up to him and give him a hug and kiss. He gets angry and said 'can't you give me five or ten minutes to myself, I just got home. Don't you have anything better to do than to stand around here staring at me?' Ouch -that hurt. Is this normal, ok, or is something else going on? He did say he tired at first n I started telling him about my day and that my jerk boss gave me a compliment and said I am doing good and to look forward to a busy year next year. This is when he said 'don't you have anything better toi do than stand around here staring at me and can't I have ten minutes to myself when I first come home?' Is it bc I started talking about myself or what? Actually, even when I don't talk about myself and all I want to do is give him a welocme hug I get the same response -leave me alone.

2007-12-21 09:01:21 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to only get married once and have sex with only one lady in my life and be kind to her and make her happy but my friend says that if your penis is under 7 inches they will leave you for something better. mine is about 6 inches more or less. Will I end up unhappy. Im not obese and im fit and handsome.

2007-12-21 08:55:46 · 24 answers · asked by dude 1

I read these questions and I get so upset that some women come in here to write stories that are deaminig to our gender. Is like if we can't live without guys approval. As a women, married at that, I tell you, I love my husband, but he is not the boss of me. I'm my own person. I value myself. I will never come here to be crying about my wrong decisions. Some ladies here need to grow up and face their own actions. I do not center my life around any men, not even my husband. Why? Because he can fail me...look at this forum for confirmation that men and women will fail. I wish some of you will stop nagging about:
pornography, I'm fat, my husband left and I'm dying, he does this, she does that,,,Give me a break! Life is too short to be wasting it,,get up your fat butt and do something about it! You can actually live without a men you know!

2007-12-21 08:50:33 · 10 answers · asked by Nena77 1

2007-12-21 08:39:17 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been seperated for almost a year now.He has already found a girlfriend and they are having a baby in a month.He doesn't pay me anything for our kids(I don't have a court order yet)Anyway,to make a long story short,I really can't stand him because of what he has done to me and the kids.He thinks calling them a couple times a week and seeing them when it is best for him makes him father of the year.I got my daughters ear pierced yesterday as one of her Christmas presents and my husband is having a fit about it.He is telling me to take them out of her ears and I was wrong for doing it.She is 10 and she wanted them.I really don't see what the big deal is.He said he didn't want her to have them until she was 14.What do you think?Can he hold that against me when we go through the divorce?

2007-12-21 08:34:27 · 27 answers · asked by lvbrdy4vr 1

I'd probably dump them cus thats nasty

2007-12-21 08:27:29 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous