He keeps making excuses for not having sex with me. and I don't get it. I've heard of this happening with women like the joke about why the bride is smiling. I don't understand...
2007-12-21 11:44:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We did it all the time before we were married..
2007-12-21 11:46:22 · update #1
it's not just men, women do it too.
they feel secure now that you are married, it's the "why keep dangling your lure in the water when you have a boat full of fish?" mentality
2007-12-21 11:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by jacks_insanity 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think the idea of marriage is to get married so things can stay relatively the same. If you have a good relationship, you want to keep it going, right? I'm assuming you had a good relationship before you got married....
Now, a few things come to mind, immediately, when a man no longer finds interest in regular sex.
1 -- he could have someone on the side.
2 -- he could be depressed or have some other mental thing going on
Either way, if you're still the same person you were when you got married (which, from your question, doesn't sound like it happened too long ago.. so how much you could have changed since then is possibly negligible)... none of this is likely to be your fault.
2007-12-21 19:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by GSConsulting 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I suggest that you continue to make him feel like he's disappointing you. Yeah, we men LOVE that. Oh, I know. Tell him how everyone you know has more sex than the two of you. That should make him want you. A complaining woman and humiliation together. I have an erection just imagining life in your house! If nothing else works, try telling a man at work how unsatisfied you are at home. What am I saying?? You've already covered that. But it was just innocent conversation, I know.
2007-12-21 20:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by noshaymatall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all men stop doing fun things.., I'm 38 yrs old and been married 16 yrs ..and we make love 2-3 times a week..I work 40 hrs a week...fed the kids in the evening and take care of them..help run my wifes dog business...while she's at work...I got plenty of energy...either he is cheating or he is just plain weird.
2007-12-21 22:00:00 · answer #4 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the opposite problem. It's a big problem for me. I don't understand it either. People say they are tired or don't have time for stuff like that. Or even going out dancing like we used to. Or hiking or just taking time to do stuff we enjoy. It's always "I have to do this this weekend" or "I need to weed the garden" or "I need to clean house" or "there's too much to do".
Yeah, all that needs to be done, but every once in a while you need to toss the "to-do" list and just have some FUN, for crissake. I even did more than my share of the stuff around the house just so she wouldn't have that kind of stuff as an excuse. But unfortunately there is ALWAYS stuff you can find to do around your house, so unless you put it aside once in a while, you'll NEVER find the time and energy to do fun stuff.
This is a major problem to me. But then again I enjoy life too much to spend every moment of it cleaning or whatever.
2007-12-21 19:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by tallcowboy0614 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Most guys have your problem so we can empathize! It's a comfortable thing, he feels more comfortable/take for granted type thing, he isn't trying as hard to please you now that your married. Happens a lot and if you don't put your foot down, it will get worse over time!
2007-12-21 20:10:58 · answer #6 · answered by Lv Dr. 4U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have gotten the exact same thing with my wife! So it goes both ways! Why did it happen I have no Idea! It was always great before the wedding and many time twice a day! Then it was 3 times a week and after a couple of years, just a couple of times a month! Now after 15 years, she barely let's me touch her, she says it's anoying! And she ties to tell me that she still loves me!
Hope you don't get that far, cause it suc$!!!
2007-12-21 19:49:56 · answer #7 · answered by Camelot 1 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Wow what a disappointment-I hope you can work this out with him-most men want a wife who likes sex-I feel bad for you and I don't understand either
2007-12-21 19:48:56 · answer #8 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Cause after u guys get married he knows hes gunna be stuck with u forever..
men don't get women..
u should surprise him one night go to Victoria secrets and get yourself sum new lingerie and give him the best pussy hes ever gonna get..
u guys should go out places fun let him know Ur exciting
2007-12-21 19:49:57 · answer #9 · answered by JaAfNy 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
that's just your answer. you did all the time before you got married. sex is second nature now. You already gave it to him so why would it be fun and exciting after you married?
2007-12-21 19:52:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋