I am a 32 year old woman who is happily married to a 46 year old man. The problem is I am always wanting sex! I swear I could do it 4 or 5 times aday if I had the chance. I don't want another guy or anything but I am always wanting "IT". I noticed that I became like this shortly after I turned 31 but I have been too embarassed to talk to any of my friends about this. My husband loves sex too but not this much. I just look at him it seems and want "IT". What is wrong with me? Is there something I can do to calm myself down? Please no jokes. I feel like a pervert or something. HELP!!
2007-12-21 11:50:59 · 25 answers · asked by JACQUELINE T 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go with it and enjoy. you and your husband make each other happy
2007-12-21 18:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your questions:
There is nothing wrong with you. To see your husband and want to have sex is a pretty darn good thing! I would say it is your way of wanting to express your love to him through the intimacy of love making.
Yes, there is something you can do to help yourself calm down. If your desire for sex is interfering with your daily routine/life then you need to seek professional assistance because we are then talking about "addictions".
However, if you are just "horny" when hubby is around or you have the urge every now and then this is a different matter. You can try using a dildo or your hand to "relieve" your tension you are feeling. Our partners are not able to nor should they be able to meet EVERY desire we have. Masturbation is very common and will help you. However, once again, if you find yourself masturbating all the time then this becomes more of an addiction and professional help should be sought.
There's no need to feel like a pervert. Obviously your upbringing has brought you to be shameful of yourself. Well, your mom and dad are not in your bedroom or your house nad they do not know what you are doing or thinking unless you tell them.
I hope this helps.
Oh, and all this hoopla about men achieving sexual peak at 19 and women at 30 is fiction. The reality is is that the sperm for men is most fertile at 19 and declines thereafter and the eggs are most fertile at 30 for women.
This has NOTHING to do with a person's sex drive as most people believe. These are totally two different animals.
Enjoy your man, enjoy your body, enjoy the pleasures. Life is too short to stop the pleasures or kicking yourself by thinking you're a perv - you're not.
2007-12-21 21:01:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very normal. I thought I was not normal too myself as I also would love to have sex 2 to 4 times a day,when I wake up, when I get home, before going to sleep and sometimes even when I wake up in the middle of the night, ready! At least your husband has sex with you. My wife only does after a month of trying and she feels like I'm starting to get ticked off about not getting any, then she lets me have sex with her, but she doesn't seem to be interested at all, so I get soft quick! Sometimes she won't even stop watching tv while I try to make love to her!
So men can also have great sex drive and women suck at it! Goes both ways. But in all I think that people who don't want to have sex with their lovers, those are the ones who have problems to resolve, otherwise they might lose their lover, as I feel like doing sometimes, but am trying to make the best of it. Good luck!
2007-12-21 20:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by Camelot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously .. go talk to a doctor about it. Don't be too bashful, nor too embarrassed, to talk to a doctor because they see all kinds of things daily. Really - a medical person told me that people would be surprised at things which doctors contend to daily.
This could be something to do with your hormones. I don't know what the problem is .. but maybe you have too many hormones, or something.
A good doctor could help you, and give you answers.
If you are embarrassed - then consider going to a doctor in a different town from which you live in - for this one problem.
Just don't be embarrassed -- many women wish they could have the desire.
2007-12-21 22:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope you are not a perv, that is quite normal. If you got it 4 or 5 times a day, eventually you would be satisfied with less. I have had the same problem with my husband. When I found out it was our sex drives that were different, and my husband's health isn't the best, things got a lot better. I thought he wasn't attracted to me anymore. He is, I just had to realized what his body can handle.
2007-12-21 20:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by Katlynnelore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're perfectly normal. Women hit their sexual peak somewhere in their 30's-40's. I am the same way with my husband. And I'm 36.
Honestly, just relax and enjoy it - you're not a pervert, or a freak. Sex between a husband and wife is special, enjoy it with him every chance you get.
2007-12-21 20:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Ariana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you husband considers himself a very lucky man. Most married men complain their wives do not want to and they have to beg... You go girl. I would not call you a pervert. However, I have the same issues. I am 44 and have been this way my entire life. I think we simply have a great deal of hormones overflowing. I call it lucky... God bless****
2007-12-21 20:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a co-worker who went through the same thing with his wife. He couldn't keep up with her. Its a stage for women. I don't know the medical term for it, but there is no cure. Every woman goes through it whether they know it or not. Its just something you have to deal with. It is good of you not to cheat on your husband and use this as an excuse. Everything will be alright.
2007-12-21 20:01:06 · answer #8 · answered by Chuck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
women go through their sexual peak at about mid thirties to late thirties. Men go through at about 18. So you like sex! Theres nothing wrong with that. Instead of doing IT maybe you and your husband can try other things to satisfy you and him at the same time. Experiment and it may make him want it more too.HOpe that helps!!!
2007-12-22 00:53:53 · answer #9 · answered by KARI Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you a pervert? Is your hubby making you feel this way?
You are a normal red-blooded female who 'wants' her husband! how many men can say that about their wives? If he doesn't appreciate you, it's his loss. Go to your nearest 'Ann Summers' or personal shop and buy him some tools to drive him insane.
How nice to hear someone that wants to ravis their husband. xx
2007-12-21 20:12:51 · answer #10 · answered by shaunie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of interesting, because that is the reason why older women go for younger men that are peaking while women are peaking in their sexuality.
What you can do, and this is seriously, get him in the mood, try getting him horny, he needs to be interested.
There is nothing wrong with you. He's just getting old and tierd.
Trust me, I am in your shoes, and it sucks sometimes, but I get him horney and interested.
2007-12-21 20:07:44 · answer #11 · answered by Bullmastiff_Boxer_lover 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋