My husband and I have been married 30 years, we are in our early 50's. For the last year now my husband has an E D problem, it starts strong and dies off fast, at first I thought it was me, maybe I just did not excited him any more, I tried everything sexy clothes and nities nothing worked, We now know the problem and he won't do anything about it, he is afraid to take Viagra or any thing else because of the side effects, I am going out of my mind I bought adult toys for myself to keep me happy but thats not helping I need the real thing, I want to be may love to so mad I wake up in the middle of the night because I can't sleep. What do I do?
2007-12-21 03:17:04 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are so many 'helpers' available these days, there's got to be a safe & effective one. Try asking his doctor or going to one of those on line ask a nurse sites. A general search will probably take you through too much porn.
2007-12-21 03:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by A * T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him everything you just put in this question. Let him know that this is something you need and for him to speak with a doctor to evaluate the side effects of all the current E.D. drugs on the market. Surely he can find one that is fine for him to try and see what the side effects may be. They have sample packs that he could take for free. If he is still unwilling to fulfill his side of the bedroom responsibilities then in my mind you may be justified to find a surrogate lover. Always start with your husband though and work with him to take care of his part. Good luck.
2007-12-21 03:21:42 · answer #2 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find a good chinese herbalist. They have things that can give your libido a kick and it just might have a physical effect. It did for me. And don't get sucked into some over the counter bottle of stuff. They have to mix a bunch of things together and you need to boil it up. No side effects except that the stuff tastes terrible.
2007-12-21 07:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm stunned at the number of people who suggest a guy on the side here - you *know* if a man posted and said his wife wasn't giving it up, ZERO people would condone a guy having sex with another woman.
This is an interesting double standard that I think warrants research. Without passing judgment at all, I would be *very* interested in hearing why people think it's okay for a woman to have a "backup", but not a man.
2007-12-21 03:37:09 · answer #4 · answered by filthy_crumb 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Am not sure if this really works, but I have heard that if you make a natural juice (ex. the blend of beets, carrots, celery (not too much), apples & oranges) and make a juice and drink it every day (it doesn't taste bad). It gives your body the vitamins you need and for men it give them a boost in bed. Remember all these veggies and fruits raw in the juicer at least one glass a day or more.
You can also try this website.... it's in spanish... but find the english version... I tried but can't
http://www.labombita.com/
2007-12-21 03:26:30 · answer #5 · answered by Gatita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The side effects are quite mild. The most common are a happy husband and wife. Viagra etc are actually quite safe and effective.
There are things you can do if he goes soft. Get him lickin'. PRESSURE is the #1 killer of erections. Don't apply any. If he goes soft immediately switch to kissing him, licking him, making him grab or pleasure you. Don't make his erections the focus of your sex life - the pressure will kill them.
2007-12-21 03:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is feeling over worked. Perhaps if you did more of the house work and clean up make he would not be so tired. You should also romance him. Buy him flowers and presents. Take him to a weekend get away.
You do need to respect his body and not push him into something he does not want to do.
2007-12-21 04:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.. you are in a dilema.
Do you think he's really scared of the side effects or is it he's afraid to talk to a dr about his problem? This problem simply kills a mans ego. Other than just coming out and telling him you're really dissatisfied (scare tactic there) it looks like you're gonna have to keep using your toys. Don't stray... that'll lead to a completely different set of problems.
2007-12-21 03:24:29 · answer #8 · answered by sunflowergal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the side effects of those pills arent really that bad , i use them and they are worth the slight side effects, they are three out there to choose from, viagra works the best, for me anyway
2007-12-21 03:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drag his butt to the doctor and find out what other types of medication that he can take. If he refuses, then tell him that your going to find someone to assist in getting the satisfaction that you need. He might even find that such a sexual turn on, you may not have to go out looking.
2007-12-21 03:22:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋