i don't think i will (but i have a while lol), but i was wondering what other people would do? if you have a reason why or why not i would love to hear them.
2007-12-21 03:39:42 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did, after lots of thought. We wanted a family after we married, so we knew we had to have ONE family surname. Just because you don't have your maiden name doesn't make you lose your identity. I have two degrees and a great career before I got married at 28, and a good family background, but knew I was starting a new life with the man I loved, and love, so decided to take his name. Mind you, he DID offer to take my surname!
Lots of women these days use their maiden name as a middle name, so that's a great compromise.
2007-12-21 04:01:32 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did not change my name for a few reasons. 1. This is not the 1950's. Changing your name affects a ton of legal documents. When my Dad divorced my mom, she had an IMPOSSIBLE time trying to get her maiden name back. It was on the mortgage and such, and the bank didn't want to change it for her. She's still stuck going by his last name in some instances. I'm not saying I'm planning for when we get divorced, because as far as I can tell we are going to be married forever. But, I'll be damned if I'm gonna get stuck with someone's name if they decided to up and leave.
2. I did a little research, checked into it, and it turns out I already HAVE a last name. Is there a little women's lib in me, sure. I don't believe you become "one" when you get married. I'm sorry, but that's such a cliche` lame statement. I believe we are a "couple", meaning "two." We are a set for sure, but even sets can have differences. And, I hate it when people imply they love their husband more just because they took his last name. It's insulting, and untruthful. You tell my husband I don't love him because I didn't take his last name and he'll give you an earful himself.
3. Lastly, (but not really so important), I don't like my husband's last name. It's weird, no one can pronounce it correctly, and my last name goes really well with the rest of my name. I have spent 21 years with this name, and I see no reason to mess with it now. My husband didn't see a reason either. He doesn't care one bit that I didn't change my name. He thinks changing names is silly too. One of the reasons I love him:)
2007-12-21 12:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by Dolyn 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some do change thier names others don't. I did and I don't have to worry about ever going back to my maiden name even if I divorce. I don't have to change my name back and see no reason to do so beyond shear vindictiveness. I have children with my husband and to avoid confusing them I will always have the same last name as my children do!
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2007-12-21 11:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by the_morris_bears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didnt change it the first two times I got married, this last time I did and it really isnt worth the pain in the butt.
Now, I have to jump through all these hoops to try to change my name back to what it was when I should have left it that way to begin with.
2007-12-21 11:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by mizryLayne 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont really want to but I think it will be akward that all the people in the house have the same last name and im the odd man out.
2007-12-21 11:44:07 · answer #5 · answered by JC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Spanish and Hispanics have this all figured out...add the husband's name TO the wife's...and the children take both. I changed my name when I married...never gave it a thought...but that was forty years ago. Times change. Today...I'd just pick what WORKED best! (His was MUCH easier to spell!) Merry Christmas!
2007-12-21 11:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by Gina C 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I changed my name...it's just traditional to do so. That way, when you have kids, mom doesn't have a different last name than dad. But alot of women keep their name because if they change it, their family name will "die" with them. It's a personal choice, I just prefer being the Mrs. with his name!
2007-12-21 11:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I certainly would change my name. I think it would honor my husband and I'm probably old fashion. But I have a cousin who when she got married, she and her husband legally changed both their names to combine her maiden name and his last time.
2007-12-21 11:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by nonameblonde 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would change my name because my child has his last name. Why not were are married as one.
2007-12-21 11:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by LOVELY25 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't. My now ex never complained and I don't have a particular reason. I'm glad I didn't now that we're no longer together.
However, if I ever get married again I hope to marry my sole mate and carry his name with pride.
I'm not rushing it though.
2007-12-21 11:59:49 · answer #10 · answered by QuEEn B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋