Marriage & Divorce - 21 November 2007

I simply want the same effort that I give. Is that wrong?

2007-11-21 05:44:19 · 44 answers · asked by Xanadu 5

I'm happily married and we get along great, very compatible. But I have been having these dreams and now keep fantasizing about Marilyn Manson. I have always like his music from the beginning of his career. My husband on the other hand thinks he is the devil. No I don't like worship him in any way. I just like him and yes I do think he is sexy. Strange I know. But I have these very vivid dream about having all kinds of dark sex with him. I am feeling guilty, like I have cheated on my husband. And I try not to think about him while my hubby and I are doing the deed, but can't help it and that brings on more guilt. What should I do, and should I tell my husband about this? Should I not listen to his music? This is serious, and please keep your answers serious.

2007-11-21 05:43:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My hubby mom is visiting and staying with us and lastnight he went talk to her in his underware. Is this ok? He said thats my mom

2007-11-21 05:29:25 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

He and I have no plans to get married. Do I need to have proof of what is mine and his in case of his death in order to protect mysefl financially?

2007-11-21 05:23:17 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to know how to save a marriage when things start going wrong. The guide I found at http://www.helpsavemarriagenow.blogspot.com is good but I have not had a chance to read it yet. Has anyone in here come back from a broken marriage to make it whole again? Thanks

2007-11-21 05:22:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-21 05:21:12 · 9 answers · asked by Lynn 2

This morning he pushed me away, what should I do ?

2007-11-21 05:17:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband is the type of person that holds grudges for years. Yesterday, after 2 months of no physical contact whatsoever, I told him what is going on. He says he is not an animal that can just have sex. For him sex is a balance of the heart , emotions, blah blah blah. He says I have been bad to him and therefore no sex until I change. WTF! I am so sick of this. I am ready to throw in the towel. He refuses counseling. WHat would you do in my situation?

2007-11-21 05:07:24 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous

This happend to my friend he is 30 years old married has two kids and his parents just told him he was adopted. And Since then he has been like a physco. Would you be the same way if this happend to you?

2007-11-21 05:06:12 · 54 answers · asked by Jesus_Is_My_Faith 2

I went on craigs list to look for a job and all I did was look down, I saw that the w4m under "erotic" was clicked. I could tell it was clicked because it was a different color than the other links. I sat there going through every page until I saw what he clicked on, it was a female, with a pic, looking for fun. I called him at work to ask him, he said "It wasn't me." He even swore on our children, (they're babies). I knew it was him so he finally admitted it, he said he was just curious and clicked on it. I am disgusted, 1st that he lied to be and then that he did that in the first place. He says he was just on the internet and that's all it was. I told him I want out of this marriage, am I overreacting? I'm hurt and upset and hate him right now. I told him why don't we tell your family the story over thanksgiving dinner and see what they think. I feel like I'm going to throw up right now, I have to keep myself composed for the sake of my children, both still in diapears

2007-11-21 05:01:56 · 29 answers · asked by Yasmina 2

My wife and I have been married for 6 years. I wish she would wear sexy outfits when we go out but she's very shy. One day she told me that she would wear anything I wanted at home and that I was free to photograph her as long as I promised to keep the pictures between us. I agreed. She has a great body why is she afraid to wear sexy clothes out?

2007-11-21 05:01:31 · 15 answers · asked by stevel226 3

Why does it seem to take longer to poop when you become a teenager, especially guys? Why does it seem like you poop more times a day? Say you only went once a day -- then, when become a teen guy, it's more like three to four times a day. Why? What is it that makes my son do this?

2007-11-21 04:59:01 · 13 answers · asked by jenniferjohnson4697 1

my boyfriend snores bad!!!!!! his ex wife even got him a snoring ernie. Last night, i finally could not take it anymore and started to get the spare bed out of the garage where i just stored it last week so i could get some sleep instead of sleeping on the uncomfortable sofa. He got so mad and said (**** this) I am leaving and he stayed out all night...he slept on a customer's boat..he came back this morning to take a shower, he came and kissed me and left..what is up with that? and was i in the worng? I have 2 kids to take care of..a 9 yr old and a 21 month old and i need my sleep and 4 out of the 7 days i lsoe sleep with his snoring.

2007-11-21 04:56:57 · 13 answers · asked by ♥Sexy Mama of 2 cuties♥ 7

I’ve been having an affair for the past 2 plus years. Just the other day my lover said she wanted to try having sex with me and 3 of my friends. She said she always fantasized about multiple men at once and she wants to try it before she dies. I want to grant her wish but I am afraid I will lose her or our close relationship will not be the same. If any of you have experience in this please tell me what happens with the relationship after?

2007-11-21 04:54:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

He says that since it was meant for me only, I should not have shared it with my co-worker. He told me that by doing so, I was very disrespectful to him and considered it a "slap across the face". He will never buy me another one. Is he being unfair, or was my sharing really as rude as he says?

2007-11-21 04:44:22 · 40 answers · asked by Kathy H 1

My life is extremely boarign and I need to spice it up a little anyone out there that can give me some advise on it

2007-11-21 04:43:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My girlfriend started on the Orthro-Lo about 3 months ago after a missed period scare. Now that she has been taking it, she says that she is lot more moody and gets heated up easily. She had also gained a few pounds, but she still looks great.

She wants to stop taking the pill because its making her fat, and gets her moody. We have spoken about this, and I had told her that she needs to let the doctor know so we can find other BC options, but she just wants to get off of it.

We are in a committed relationship and dont want to be selfish, but I like riding bare

Are there any other options? Am I being selfish for wanting her not to get pregnanct?

2007-11-21 04:37:08 · 41 answers · asked by Tung 2

Do a quick y!search on "expectations of a husband" and you'll find such phrases like "shouldn't expect" and "I expect too much"

Do a quick y!search on "expectations of a wife" and you'll find such phrases like "learn what a GOOD wife does" and "perfection to his expectations"

What gives...husbands...pressure...come on now, you're joking right? Being a husband has got to be the simplist thing on the planet, not even an infant has it so good! (even single men have it harder!).

2007-11-21 04:36:28 · 33 answers · asked by Xanadu 5

I am exhausted by my kids. They are 1 & 4 and I never imagined being a single mom. I am working my *** off and barley making it....in fact currently we dont have running water cause I couldnt make the bill. When my ex left he left alot of debt. Its hard and I have family help but bottom line is...I dont think I am a good mom. I cant even provide for them. I dont have much joy or tolerance for them. I put on a great front for them but really inside I hate being a mom. I didnt always feel this way. Im not trying to be selfish but seriously I work so hard and nothing seems to add up. They deserve better than me. I love them but I suck. Everyday I think of running away or giving them to my family. I no I am horriable but does anyone understand?

2007-11-21 04:26:58 · 20 answers · asked by liyah's mommy 2

I just got married about two months ago. Now that the holidays are around the corner, i have no idea what to get my new mother in law, my sister in law and her husband. Ideas are more than welcome

2007-11-21 04:26:27 · 20 answers · asked by urshyness2b 1

I'm a wedding photographer, so I of all people shouldn't have this opinion, but I feel large, fancy, expensive weddings cheapen marriage.

In my line of work, I have seen weddings that cost well over 100k dollars, and a couple times, by the time I had the pictures ready to be picked up, the couple was already on the outs.

I'm all for marriage- happily married myself- but I don't understand the need people have for a huge wedding. My husband and I had a very small ceremony and only invited our immediate families.

It has somehow become the bride's big day to have a party for herself and has very little to do w/ love. I understand celebrating your love. I don't understand the need for several thousand dollars worth of flowers, a ten foot tall cake, a 10 thousand dollar dress, etc. Save that money- buy a house- do something to give yourselves a head start as a family- don't start out your marriage fighting about money.

If you're in love, get married.. If you want a parade, have a parad

2007-11-21 04:26:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Anytime I talk to my husband about an issue, he'll turn the TV on, or start doing other things. He won't look at me nor make any eye contact. He just sits there and pays attention to whatever else is around him. Then he says I never stop talking and all I do is nag. I try to communicate with him calmly but he just doesn't listen. I've turned the tv off, found "better" times to talk, but it almost seems impossible. He seems like he doesn't care that it upsets me. I am 3 months pregnant and I want to make this work, but it's making me crazy. Why won't he talk or listen?? What can we do to gain better communication?

2007-11-21 04:16:50 · 26 answers · asked by *~Cam's Mommy ~* 4

I am just curious, because I've been living with my boyfriend for almost 7 years and we have 2 biological kids together (I have one from a previous relationship), and we are happy, but everyone (family and friends) keeps saying we are "shacking up" and living together without the "benefits of marriage". Someone please explain to me what these benefits are because I would hate to miss out on something.
We pay fewer taxes being unmarried.( no marrige penalty)
We are extended more credit to buy properties etc. because our FICOs are taken into account seperately.
If we were to split up we will not be held accountable for the other person's debts.
When we get older we will get more money from social security.(no ss marriage penalty)

Frankly it seems to me that marriage is a bad financial move. I know that it isn't just about that, but why can't people love each other and be together without being married?

2007-11-21 04:13:10 · 15 answers · asked by Roni 5

I am the president of an independent rap music label that I founded less than a year ago known as Super King Records. To help promote the lable I legally changed my name to Super King and my 16 year old son, who is going to be the star rapper for my label legally changed his name from Ralph Finkelstein to Cash-Money God. When I first founded my label, my wife agreed that she and our daughter who is 14 would be back-up dancers when we shot our videos. We were all set to shoot our first video yesterday when my wife informed me that neither she nor our daughter would be dancing on the video! This left me in a bind because I need back up dancers to shoot a rap video. I went to the local high school to try to recruit some other dancers but I was told by the principal that this was illegal. I don't know where to turn now! How could my wife have so blatently betrayed me like this after she gave me her word! I think our marriage might be in jeopardy over this! What should I do!? Please help.

2007-11-21 04:09:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is the first time we have been away in a LONG time! Grandma and Grandpa are taking the kids and we have 4 days all to ourselves. What should I bring along to surprise hubby with?

2007-11-21 04:09:03 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have not been married long but feel i dont love my husband any more. He is a good person but i feel he wants a house keeper rather than a wife. He does nothing in the house, is totally oblivious to anything and i am really starting to resent him. He makes excuses and lies about working late so that he can avoid coming home first and starting tea. He walks in while i am making tea, doing washing, feeding dog and hoovering to ask if there is anything needing doing. why cant he see for himself what needs doing. i feel like his mother rather than equal partner. He is 45 but cant use a washing machine! He has never washed the bath, fridge, dusted, washed floor etc etc. i feel he is so lazy and i am loosing all respect for him. trying to talk to him is pointless and i have given up trying - he just withdraws and goes in a huff and wont talk for days on end. we never argue there is just no communication. He wont try to resolve things it is always down to me. what do i do?

2007-11-21 04:08:58 · 25 answers · asked by cottontail 5

I can't stand this drama situation... every guy I have ever engage myself with just causes heartache. Just drama... you can't put your penis in your pants!!!

2007-11-21 04:07:40 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, this is more like a poll ... there are two scenarios, you have to say whether or not you would have enjoyed it with your partner.

1 - Wife snuggles up to husband who is watching TV. Husband playfully lightly tickles wife at first. Finds out she is severely ticklish. So in a very playul mood, he starts tickle her. She laughs her head off. Both of them have a good. Somewhere in the middle they both get excited and it eventually leads to good old romance.

2 - Wife and husband both are playing football together (as in soccer). Or any other physically demanding sport.

What do you think? Crappy? Sentimental? Sweet?

2007-11-21 04:06:37 · 11 answers · asked by ryan.rookwood 1

I have been thinking about sex before marriage and different beliefs on why or why not.

One of my close friends strongly believes in living with someone before marriage and shall we say, "test driving before buying?" What happens if you get married without test driving your "vehicle" and it totally sucks? Then you are stuck with this person forever...however, if you "test drive" it, you know exactly how the sex will be and you know what you are in for...

Is this person wrong in their beliefs? I think its a valid concern...I wouldn't want to be with someone forever who sucked in bed.... would you?

2007-11-21 04:03:53 · 26 answers · asked by jenluvslife 3

he got a girl pregnant he wants nothing to do with her or the chiild at all i should have said this before(sorry)she just had the baby we need to get a dna test also because she is one of those girls you can n ot trust she is obsesed with my husband and it trying to distroy our lives and we are not going to let that happen

2007-11-21 04:03:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous