He and I have no plans to get married. Do I need to have proof of what is mine and his in case of his death in order to protect mysefl financially?
2007-11-21 05:23:17 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you need to insist he divorce her or else she can take everything. why would u put yourself in such a financial mess?
2007-11-21 05:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You must protect yourself. Make a list, gather receipts and take digital photos of everything you have purchased since you are with him or that belonged to you when you entered into the relationship. His wife can legally take his belongings and all of his assets. You have no legal rights in the eyes of the law. What he should do is take out an insurance policy and make you beneficiary, or open a bank account with you as the beneficiary. The way the law is set up unless you are with him more than seven years then you have no right to anything in his estate. His wife gets everything that is his including stocks, bonds, jewelry, real estate, money, unless he indicates you as beneficiary on a bank account that you have control of.
2007-11-21 19:39:14 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be on the safe side and keep proof of what is yours. I am also wondering why he is still married to her is he is living with you. You don't need to marry him beu he needs to divorce her. He also needs to write a will that specifies what he wants you to have if anything.
I know a woman who lived with a man for several years. he was actually divorced but had not updated his will, He was seriously ill for a couple of years before his death. She took care of him until then end. When it was over his former wife got everything that had been his, and she was left with the medical bills from his estate with nine of his assets to offset the expenses.
2007-11-21 13:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO she cannot take your stuff, but it's wise to protect yourself since you don't plan on marrying this man. Since they are separated the law (at least here) considers the two parties have agreed on the separation of martial items. The burden of proof would be on her if she is really after something you two have together... but most people don't want stuff their ex and newbie have together. The only thing she can take is money... so protect yourself that way. Unless they are already admist a divorce. Then anything HE opens with you AFTER the separation agreement she cannot touch. GOOD LUCK.
2007-11-21 13:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by lexing1010 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might also consider having him redo his will, or make one if he doesn't already have it. He can leave anything he wants to someone else. It could still be a mess if she goes to court, but at least you have a legal document. If they own a house, he could potentially leave his share to you. In which case she would need to sell to settle the estate, or pay you off. It's a mess if he doesn't divorce and change his will. Not sure he's worth your effort. If he's willing to cheat on her, you know the odds. You and your partner might want to contact a lawyer to learn all the legalities. If he can't afford a divorce, tell him to check with legal services for reduced fees. I fail to understand why any person who is not divorced would intentionally involve someone else in their lives before they are settled emotionally and have broken the apron strings from their spouse.
2007-11-21 13:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by Darke Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why are you with a still married man?? Does he not have any respect for you? Does he still love her?? Not a good situation to start with. How would she know what items are yours. She only knows of what he may have taken from their joint belongings when he left. Id say you should be pushing him to divorce her or leave. Why do you want someone elses husband?
2007-11-21 13:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by jslorri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to ask why isn't he getting a divorce. If he is not willing to marry you make him sign a living will leaving every thing to you. Make sure that all the accounts are joint and have you as the beneficiary. I know that as far as Social Security is concern the first wife is entitle to his but I am not sure about coming in YOUR house and claiming your possessions.
2007-11-21 13:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by annita g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get legally separated if for some reason he doesn't want to get divorced. She would be entitled to half of what they accumulated during the marriage, and since they're still married, she's entitled to half of whatever he's currently accumulating - even if he's actually accumulating it with you. I'd make sure that everything that's yours is in your name alone.
2007-11-21 13:28:21 · answer #8 · answered by tacka.... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can get whatever belongs to their conjugal funds meaning everyting your partner has brought into your "partnership"
As for your belongings, nope she can't take it.
As for the capital gains (meaning interest on the property or business) she can get half.
To better protect yourself, get a lawyer.
2007-11-21 13:29:31 · answer #9 · answered by mirage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is the wife and she is entitled to anything and everything he owns. She is even entitled to is life insurance policy if he has one. This whole situation is a mess. He will never get a divorce because he don't have to and he don't want to.
2007-11-21 16:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by KSR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you allowed for this situation to happen. If she wants to be ugly she can make you present proof what is yours is indeed yours. If you can't get him to get a divorce then make him write a living-will regarding what you is yours and what is his. Make sure you put it in a safe place.
2007-11-21 13:35:08 · answer #11 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋