I'm happily married and we get along great, very compatible. But I have been having these dreams and now keep fantasizing about Marilyn Manson. I have always like his music from the beginning of his career. My husband on the other hand thinks he is the devil. No I don't like worship him in any way. I just like him and yes I do think he is sexy. Strange I know. But I have these very vivid dream about having all kinds of dark sex with him. I am feeling guilty, like I have cheated on my husband. And I try not to think about him while my hubby and I are doing the deed, but can't help it and that brings on more guilt. What should I do, and should I tell my husband about this? Should I not listen to his music? This is serious, and please keep your answers serious.
2007-11-21 05:43:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do have a dark side, I have been a "closet" goth for 10 years now and before that I was out in the open, among other "dark traits". That's not what bothers me. My husband and I are always open with eachother, and he knows my lifestyle is different.( he is a hardcore cowboy christain) What a match. I'm just worried about how he will feel. I'm scared that this is someway t elling me or making me want to find what I dream about elsewhere. Does that make sense? I'll say something after the Thanksgiving.
2007-11-21 06:00:48 · update #1
Fantasies are personal and never hurt anyone - unless you act on them. Close your eyes and enjoy Marilyn.... it won't last forever. You'll move on and will still be happily married.
2007-11-21 05:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by tacka.... 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's probably a good idea to learn to enjoy sex with your husband without fantasizing about someone else. Perhaps you would find more ease in this if you were allowed to openly embrace your interest in the goth subculture. Marilyn Manson is a very intelligent, talented, and charismatic person. It is no wonder that you and many other women are attracted to him. I say enjoy your dreams, but try to learn to save your wakened sexual fantasies for solo masturbation time and not while you are with your husband. I mean, if he is into roleplay or something, then it might be okay, but doing it secretly and knowing he would dislike it, that's very disrespectful.
2007-11-21 14:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We cant control our dreams and they dont mean you are a bad person. I would say that marilyn manson makes you think of these acts and subconsciously your mind wanders and puts you in the dream as sort of a fantasy of yours. We all have fantasies and if you feel your marriage is good enough to reveal to your husband that youve had these crazy fantasy dreams but in no way have any idea why then go for it. Its natural and nothing to feel guilty about. We all look at celebrities especially with some kind of pedestal vision. No worries...you know how you feel about your husband and so does he!!
2007-11-21 13:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by jslorri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite oossible that you are having these dreams because you have this dark side to yourself that your husband is unaware of. Maybe it is time to disclose your little secrets to your hubby maybe he could help you realize those dreams. Your married and well experimenting in marriage is what can keep the fires burning if you know what I mean.
God Bless and Best Wishes and yes I think you strange for considering Marilyn Manson sexy to each his own I'm not one to judge.?
2007-11-21 13:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No do not tell your husband it will hurt his male ego. There is nothing wrong with a little fantasy it keeps the sex interesting . I can almost guarantee that your husband has fantasized more that once .......we all have.
2007-11-21 13:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by annita g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a funny coincidence. Your fantasy man is dating my fantasy girl: Evan Rachel Wood.
2007-11-21 14:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think MM is homosexual. Seriously. Or bi?
But sexual fantasies about others are normal. Just don't tell hubby you're thinking of other guys while doing it.
2007-11-21 13:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a grip of your self fantasize about your husband instead
2007-11-21 20:12:16 · answer #8 · answered by firecanjockey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
G.I. -G.O. honey...and it is serious...i could help you out, but, not here....Inquire of me.... "Peace!"
2007-11-21 15:13:04 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. "Diamond" 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋