He says that since it was meant for me only, I should not have shared it with my co-worker. He told me that by doing so, I was very disrespectful to him and considered it a "slap across the face". He will never buy me another one. Is he being unfair, or was my sharing really as rude as he says?
2007-11-21 04:44:22 · 40 answers · asked by Kathy H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How old is your husband ?? Sounds to me like he needs some growing up to do...
2007-11-21 04:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he is over-reacting! I see nothing wrong with sharing a coffee drink with your co-worker even if it was meant just for you.
Is the co-worker a man? If so, he might be feeling jealous of the guy...and is not really angry about the fact that you shared your drink.
Does he frequently get angry over small stuff like this? If so, then I would say he has anger problems, and needs therapy fast.
I might be able to understand his anger if you shared something that was really expensive or that he had picked out especially for you...but not just a coffee drink.
2007-11-21 04:52:36 · answer #2 · answered by Nonny0928 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question is it this particular cup coffee or every cup of coffee has a deep significant meaning attached to it? If he bought you a cup a coffee when you first met on this day or something like this, I could see the temperament. I guess, you need to talk with him about why it is so important that you don't share your coffee with a co-worker. It maybe as simple as he is wacko or jealous of the co-worker. God bless.
2007-11-21 05:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be really worried about you sharing "other things", with other people -- around your office.
If it was a woman that you shared your coffee with.. then, your husband just has money issues, or feels you are (or, he is) subsidizing someone else's mornings. He probably resents having to do anything for you, in the first place -- and that it's a Grand Gesture of his, for you. He thinks you appreciate it less?
PS - It's amazing what people have issues over, isn't it? and how coffee, on Yahoo, can become a subject of interesting drama.
2007-11-21 04:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Is your co-worker a male or female?
Female, not a big deal. So what?
Male, we have a problem.
Did you give it to him, then drank more after he put his mouth on the cup?
Sounds strange, but that's an indirect kiss. Sharing personal items that you've put your mouth on, demonstrates a level of trust and how close you are.
I can do that with one of my really close guy friends. But not with any females.
If you gave the rest to someone else, then I don't see that as a problem.
2007-11-21 04:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are just jealous, whether you shared it with a prefect stranger or your best friend, they feel sorta unworthy sometimes and little things upset them, but come on.. is he really gonna take it as a slap in the face? i mean how much was the coffee drink, like $5? does it really matter if it was shared or not. hes your husband, he should buy you these things anyway, whether you want it all to yourself or if you feel like sharing. how did he find out you shared it anyway>
2007-11-21 04:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG Didn't you know that the offering of coffee from one person to another is something very sacred and spiritual in his culture? You might as well have stripped off all your clothes and ran down the street naked screaming "I'm a dirty little whore!"
Okay, maybe not.
He's being a baby. Tell him you will try to be more considerate of his gifts in the future, but he does need to get over it.
2007-11-21 04:53:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure we all fight for dumb and littlest things like that but this is the first time I've heard someone fighting for something as lame as sharing a cup of coffee. Don't stress about it, just tell him that if that is soo important for him you will never do it again.
2007-11-21 04:50:49 · answer #8 · answered by fun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I really don't see the connection there, but obviously he has some issue with it. Has he ever given you money that you didn't spend on yourself? I mean, unless you seductively fed another person this coffee drink and made it sexual I don't see where he is coming from.
2007-11-21 04:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a controlling idiot. Like a 'slap across the face' for giving someone a sip of your coffee?!? He sounds incredibly insecure.
2007-11-21 04:50:43 · answer #10 · answered by tacka.... 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's not really rude, but if it was a guy you shared it with, then perhaps this issue isn't really all about "just the coffee"...
otherwise... perhaps a bit childish, but if i were you i wouldn't argue about it. he probably just tried to do something nice for you by buying you a drink. perhaps he thought you didn't appreciate it as much because you let someone else drink from it too...
just my thoughts
2007-11-21 04:50:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋