My girlfriend wants to stop taking Birth Control,?

Question

My girlfriend started on the Orthro-Lo about 3 months ago after a missed period scare. Now that she has been taking it, she says that she is lot more moody and gets heated up easily. She had also gained a few pounds, but she still looks great.

She wants to stop taking the pill because its making her fat, and gets her moody. We have spoken about this, and I had told her that she needs to let the doctor know so we can find other BC options, but she just wants to get off of it.

We are in a committed relationship and dont want to be selfish, but I like riding bare

Are there any other options? Am I being selfish for wanting her not to get pregnanct?

Answer 1

and a baby doesnt make you fat? dude wear a condom before this girl takes you for all your money

Answer 2

There are a million other options. There's a thing called a nuva ring (or something like that). She inserts it into her vagina once a month, and it acts as a birth control. At the end of the month, she can remove it and replace it with a new one. I think some of the side effects are lower with this one. There are also birth control shots that she can take and they will stop her period altogether. I don't know what the side effects are.

If drugs are out of the question, there are always spermicide foams that you can use if you really don't like to wear a condom. (My fiance doesn't either). She could also use a diaphragm. I linked to a website below to show you how those work. As a matter of fact, go to that website. It shows pretty much all the different methods you can use. Good luck.

One more note: The side effects usually ease up after the first three months or so. I don't know if you (or your gf) knew that or not. If she's only been on it 3 months, things might get easier if she waits a while. When I first went on the pill I had killer cramps the first couple of months, but they eased up, and now I don't cramp at all.

Answer 3

You are not being selfish for not wanting to get her pregnant! You are being responsible...especially since you already had a scare!

I have taken the Pill since I was 17 years old (I'm 36 now). At first I did gain weight and was moody. Those symptoms, among others, are all normal side effects that usually fade after a few months. If the side effects remain or are bothersome, then your girlfriend can switch her brand of pills, or choose another birth control option. She needs to talk to her gyno about the options open to her. It's possible she needs a non-hormonal method of birth control.

Just keep in mind that the Pill is among the most effective when taken correctly, and that other methods might have a lower rate of effectiveness. No method other than abstinence or sterilization is 100% effective. While you may not like using condoms, they are a good back-up method.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Wrap it up buddy if you woman is moody and well feels like she is fat then let her do this. Birth control also increases the risk of serious health problems, blood clots, heart attacks, and many other issues if you do not believe me do a little research it will blow your mind. Try the thin condoms you can still get tons of pleasure and your both protected. She can also use foam, spermicidal jellies, get fitted for a diaphragm and other BC really just have her talk to her Dr. or tell her to reasearch it and maybe she will find something that would work better for both of you. One last thing Birth control pills or patches or even a shot is not 100% still using a condom is recommended to protect yourself from becoming parents.

Or keep it zipped until you marry her!

Answer 5

None that are very effective. She has a legitimate quandary, I was on the pill for some time, I gained a lot of weight and have had a VERY hard time losing it, I also had the moodiness, it's very disconcerting as you know you don't want to feel this way, but you can't control yourself as you would normally. She's already on a low dosage, there aren't many that are lower, but she should talk to her dr before stopping, there are a few other pills that may help her, low estra.. not sure of spelling, but it has been shown to help in situations like this. I wish you both luck. But I have to say, stopping birth control pills and using other methods is how I got my son!

Answer 6

You are being selfish.
All the reasons she gave are GOOD reasons for getting off the pill. Why doesn't she throw in reduced libido as well.
What good is bareback if you don't get it?

If you took a step back and did some research you would find that diaphragms make a very nice alternative to condoms and the pill. For those that suggest IUD's I would suppose they have never been poked with the end of the string while in the act.

Check out some alternate methods to medication and IUD's there are more barrier methods than condoms.
Most effective as well as most benign.

Answer 7

There are quite a few other options honey, there's patches, nuva rings, shots, there are devices called IUD's that are implanted in a woman so she doesn't get pregnant, they have a 5 year one and a 10 year one. You should have her do some research to see the other options out there and then have her discuss which option is right for her with her doctor. This is 2000's honey there is way more than just the pill. Don't let this stop you from reaching the ultimate pleasure!

Answer 8

If nobody's using any birth control, then you need to stop what you're doing. If you don't want a baby with her, then think about giving up 1/3 of your paycheck every month for the next 22 years, plus visitation and fighting with her over it and her bringing in a new man to be the dad you couldn't, oh yes, and medical bills. Wow, that sure puts a guy in the mood, doesn't it? If she stops taking it, then it's time to leave. Or you can be a big boy and use protection yourself.

Answer 9

No, you're selfish for refusing to do your fair share in preventing pregnancy. You refuse to slip on a condom during the few minutes you have sex, yet you expect her to feel moody and uncomfortable 24/7 from taking pills?

Remember, neither method is 100% safe, so you really ought to use both to prevent any accidents. Make a deal with your girlfriend - she switches to a different kind of bc pill, and you wear a condom every time - that way you are BOTH making an effort, and NEITHER of you spends the next few years changing diapers.

Answer 10

IUD- I had the same problems with b/c and got the copper IUD, which contains no hormones so I do not have weight gain or moodiness and I don't have to worry about taking a pill everyday. It takes about 5 min. for the doctor to insert it and it lasts 10 years, although if you decide to have a baby it can easily be removed and you can conceive immediately.

Answer 11

If you think it's the pills, by all means, stop them. I know I would. Have you read all the side effects that could happen from taking those things? A lot of them are really bad, like blood clots and heart attack. If you don't want kids though be careful.