This happend to my friend he is 30 years old married has two kids and his parents just told him he was adopted. And Since then he has been like a physco. Would you be the same way if this happend to you?
2007-11-21 05:06:12 · 54 answers · asked by Jesus_Is_My_Faith 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What if his real parents were what he thought were his relatives
2007-11-21 05:18:05 · update #1
oh yes it would freak me out. advise you friend to seek councelling through the adoption services. to find out your whole life is based on a lie is major.
2007-11-21 05:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by minerva 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a man is 30 and have 2 kids, hence is very close to his wife passed 5 to 6 years.Further he must be loving his 2 kids also. In this case he should not think for anyone except his wife and kids. If someone has informed about his real parents, he should go them and clarify truth. If gets his real parents it is haven on earth for him, as he gets them after 30 years.I personally advise him to take care of adopted and real parents. It is told that adopted parents are grater than real parents. Lord Krishna also came to know that Yashodama Nandbaba were not his real parents. So i suggest to advise your friend that the matter is really true in this case he should accept both the parents
2007-11-21 05:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by P M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but that's because I was adopted. I was told at the ripe old age of 7 though, so I can understand why it would be an outrageous shock to your friend! He probably feels like his whole identity up until this point has been a lie, but really, it hasn't. The parents that raised him ARE his parents---there are no others! Once he can understand that, he will be fine, but it is going to take a while to adjust. I frown on his parents a little for waiting so long to tell him the truth about his heritage.
2007-11-21 05:10:11 · answer #3 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who can say how they would react to news like that. Your friend has had parents for thirty years now. To have a new light shine on those most important to you has to have a bothersome effect on some. He hasn't changed any, but his mind has gone into overload with all the questions a surprise like that brings. Prayerfully, all your friend needs is some time to calm down and deal with his feelings in a more positive way.
2007-11-21 05:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by prissytwin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your friend is pretty hurt and has every right to feel angry that it took his parents this long to tell him. Especially now that he has kids. One of the kids could possibly have medical problems and it's always good to know your family history if you are able to. His parents should've at least told him when he was 18 or early 20's if you ask me....I would tell them as soon as they are old enough to undertand what adoption is. Every child is hurt when the secret is kept from them for so long.
2007-11-21 05:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by just bored 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably would floor me. However, I'm not sure what being married and having two kids has to do with it.
You're still their child and you're still a husband and father. The only difference is the bloodlines are cut.
Life throws curve balls at you. In this case you just found out your life was different from what you thought it was.
Otherwise, you are who you are so keep on keepin' on.
2007-11-21 05:10:00 · answer #6 · answered by Avatar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it matter? What difference does it make? If my parents told me I'm adopted, I would say "so?" It would not change the way I feel about them. My parents are not perfect but they love me and I know what they did for me. I do not have a desire to see my birth parents. I only know one mum and one dad.
2007-11-21 05:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he acting so immature? Were his adoptive parents abusive? I think it is a little too late to tell him, but he should have known earlier also for medical reasons.
If he had a good, loving family upbringing he should be thankful that 2 loving people raised him as their own, and provided him with a home, food, shelter...
2007-11-21 05:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by Cassandra C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No this is hard I mean think about it this way you see your parents everyday for you life and you call them mom and dad know you have you your kids and they call them grandma and gradpa and they love you parents how the hell are you just going to simulate hey I am not your real mom and I am not your real dad this is very hard and you need to know that things like this do happen my best advice is that you be with him and help him and that is all I can say you can do.
2007-11-21 05:16:55 · answer #9 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why could you call it a lie? Your mum and dad raised you, they enjoyed you,they gave you each and every thing mum and dad might desire to...and much greater so that they did it with out you even being a organic and organic offspring...which shows much greater love because of the fact they took you whilst your actual mum and dad did no longer choose to or could no longer look when you. Does it cause them to much less of your mum and dad merely because of the fact your mom did no longer provide beginning to you? Your lifestyles isn't a lie. greater advantageous than probable that's 1000 situations greater advantageous than it could have been in case you have been raised via your actual mum and dad. as we communicate, adoption is an extremely open and correctly understood & common subject, 21 years in the past, it wasn't...your mum and dad chosen to do you the choose of no longer putting you in the time of the turmoil of being taunted orteased as a results of being observed. delight in what your lifestyles has given you...
2016-11-12 07:59:56 · answer #10 · answered by slayden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be shocked, hurt and furious. That isn't information you keep hidden from children. They should be told right away that they are adopted. He probably wonders what other truths they have kept from him. They should be ashamed of themselves for doing this to him.
I would then start looking for the real parents.
2007-11-21 05:24:55 · answer #11 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋