This morning he pushed me away, what should I do ?
2007-11-21 05:17:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's just natural to want to touch and be around the person that you love. Keep in mind that they, however, (even though they love you just as much) may need some space. I am not a morning person, and neither is my husband. I find it soothing and it helps to ease my mornings to cuddle when we first wake up. He would rather get up and hurry to the restroom. Does that mean he doesn't love me? No. It means he has a routine.
Let your husband have his routine. Don't call too much while he is away. Let him call you. If you need to ask him something important, call him and let him know you just called to ask. Let him continue the conversation afterwards if he chooses. Kiss him when he gets home, but don't attach yourself to him. Continue what you were doing.
Make sure that time is set aside for the two of you, but don't make it too much time. Two hours of spending good quality time together is better than 6 hours of you begging to be held and him pushing you away. It sounds like you're a newlywed. Things will settle in eventually. Just let him have his routine, especially in the morning.
You can also do other things to let him know you love him. Instead of being clingy, make him breakfast or pack him a lunch. Most guys prefer that you do something for him rather than clinging to him to show that you love him.
Good luck. Everything will work out. Just give it time.
2007-11-21 05:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by Been here before 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never want to appear needy or clingy that turn's most guys off. Most guy's like a girl who can be independent but can still show emotion and affection but not overboard. If it was a good morning honey time to get up for work he has issues if you do it all the time then you are smothering the guy and well it may make him run give him space and lower the affection by lets say 50%.
2007-11-21 05:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's my opinion that if he's in love with you then he wouldn't consider your affection smothering. I am very physically affectionate with my hubby and I have never been pushed away---not ever! And, if I were to get pushed away I would take it as a sign that something was seriously wrong!
Ok, but let's pretend the guy is really in love with you but he is one of those guys that "needs his space". Pull back, don't give him any affection and let him make all the moves. I hate to suggest you be anyway other than your true self, but I guess you'll have to resort to game playing to get what you need if you can't talk to him about it.
2007-11-21 05:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by Marina 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Loving someone does not mean smothering them, in fact what this indicates is an insecurity on your part cause you behave this way for constant validation of his love for you. Stop doing this or you will end up losing his respect and love for you. A woman should not lose herself to any relationship or she becomes uninteresting and no challenge to her man. You must have had interests of your own before you married him. Get back into what you enjoy doing and continue being a good wife but one that gives the silent message by her behaviour as "I will not die if I have to live without you, but I choose not to".
2007-11-21 05:34:44 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off. Your vows should mean something. It says for better or worse. And right now she's tryin to push you away just because of the distance. If you love her like it sounds like you do. Be patient and wait it out. As long as you think she's being faitful to you and yal's relationship then just work with her. Maybe she feels helpless since your not there with her to help her raise your son at the moment. Long distant relationships are hard to maintain, but if you work at it and actually sit down and talk things out. It'll go by alot smoother. by the way. I think you should set your foot down and tell her to stop hoppin on a plane and running away from the situation. If she wanted the single like "go and do as you wanna" then she souldn't of made the commitment to you and yals son. hope this helps. & im sorry your in this situation
2016-03-18 02:34:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would honestly play hard to get, i would give him some space, because maybe right now he feels a little smothered by you. Give it time, and don't igniated anything untill he starts it.
2007-11-21 05:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start doing a hobby that you enjoy to do. Look as though you are not so needy. The more needy you look the more turned off he will get. Get a life besides smothering your husband. Keep loving him though.
2007-11-21 05:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to exam all the ways that you are smothering him. Be honest with yourself .. and recognize what they are.
First .. give him private & personal time all alone by himself .. and lots of it. He probably needs it .. and he will appreciate it.
Then .. for a long while .. stop making the FIRST moves on him. Let HIM make all the moves on you first. This will be a good indicator that he wants you .. with whatever he is doing.
Just back-off from him for awhile ... and let him catch his breath.
Don't cling to him. Get yourself occupied with something else that you are interested in. If you are not interested in anything else .. then get interested in something.
Don't over-talk to him. Allow him to have quiet time. If he wants to talk .. he will talk.
I know this may be difficult for you .. and he may not react as you want him to at first .. but it will eventually dawn on him that you are giving him "his space".
There is a real pschological factor that I could show you .. instead of telling you .. but I will attept to tell you about it.
Stand up .. then imagine another person standing in front of you .. talking to you. There is a certain amount of space between you and that person. Each person has a distance with they prefer that person to be away from them .. or close to them. This circle in front of you, is considered "your space" .. and if a person stands within your space - it is not liked by most people. Other people, like to stand close up, next to the person .. however- the person may not can stand the person to stand close by. For my space .. I prefer someone to stand a little more than arm's length. Usually - a person who is clingy - like to be real close-up to the person that are with ... and this can drive the other person crazy if they are feeling like their space is being invaded. The other person usually does not have a clue.
Simply .. leave him "be" ,, to his own doings .. for awhile. Don't be mad .. don't act mad ... just honor his private space and alone times. He will appreciate you for it .. and things will probably get better.
2007-11-21 05:42:38 · answer #8 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love him by being there for him. Love does not mean suffocation. That's not love, that's being controlling. Respect his alone time and space. Don't tell him what to do. Let him make the decisions that only affects him. Don't judge his friends and family. Give the relationship air to breath.
2007-11-21 05:24:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could say the same for my husband. I say give him some space. Pretend you don't want him.. Ignore him a little, he'll miss you, maybe.
2007-11-21 05:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋