Marriage & Divorce - 21 November 2007

Neither one of us want to go back. My ex is being really nice to my husband and invites him in when we drop our child off at his house, I know him well enough to know this is to show me what a nice guy he is (he has told me he is in love with me again). His ex wife tries to break us up with court dates claiming things that are lies and other stuff. We both have kids from previous marriages.....so no contact is out of the question. It works on both of us from time to time to know that these people are trying to get with the other. It is really a strange situation and one that I never dreamed that I would be involved in....however can a marriage take all of this interferance....we try to only have contact via email and voice mail with them but there are those times when more communication is required. We try to stick to the topic of the kids...however they always try to worm their ways in. We are being hit from both sides and it causes tention. What to do?

2007-11-21 03:55:42 · 13 answers · asked by Rein 5

Today my friend told me that his wife was having an affair. He had been faithful for 9 years since they had been married. She wants to keep the kids (two kids) and her family has money. He is a good guy. A few years back, he was cleaning a pool (he cleans and builds pools) and some women wanted to sleep with him knowing he was married. He refused because he was married. His wife is pregnant and he can't be the father because he had an operation so he can't have any more. She is a manager at a Old Navy store. It seems so unfair. I think it was better in the old days when people stoned these people to death. Nowdays, only the lawyers make money from something like this at the expense of the emotions of the kids. It just seems so unfair. Shouldn't there be more consequences for acts like this. A federal law saying if someone commits adultry, they lose custody of the kids automatically and lose most of the property.

2007-11-21 03:11:14 · 31 answers · asked by Neil 7

My guy tells me he doesn't want to have sex anymore and that he wants to have something more than that..The issue is this..I don't get to see him often but maybe once every 3-4 months and so and you would think he would want to have sex wouldn't you? I know he is not getting it anywhere else and he cares and loves me very much..but why would he not want to have sex? He told me that he also wanted to be able to enjoy someone's company without it leading to sex..but ugh!! Does anyone else find this odd???
Well he says with school and work he hardly has time for anything else and then he says to be honest i dont even care about sex...back in april he kinda cheated even though we were on a break and this woman was a lot older and lets just say he was very drunk...anyhow she ended up preg. but it turned out not his due to dates ect..then i had a miscarriage by him after all that he didn't care about sex that much..could that have done something?I know there more than sex.but could he be gay

2007-11-21 02:48:24 · 18 answers · asked by AMANDA 1

I've done something stupid. I've cheated on my fiance with another woman. I'd hate for her to find out about it on her own, and I know if I tell her I did that it's really going to hurt her. If someone cheated on you, would you want to know or not?

2007-11-21 02:44:13 · 28 answers · asked by Greg 1

I'm from chennai.One girl love me.Then i also love her.But she refuse me for her parents.She is three month pregnant.But her friends are give her wrong advice that abort baby and marry your parents choice.She also accept their advice.Her uncle is police,so that he threatened me.He said that he will kill me.But i dont know whether her uncle know that she is pregnant or not.Both are major.she said if one girl thing means she can do anything.But u cant do like that.I will keep contact with anyone then leave him and marry someone.If one boy cheat any girl means law will punish him severely but for girl? I'm ready to leave her but she will spoil more person life in this society.For that wat we can do? Her uncle is in police means she can do anything? wat is the solution for this? shall i take any legal action? any possibility is there? Her uncle is in police
so give me a good solution.

2007-11-21 02:13:52 · 5 answers · asked by anbu a 1

Is it ok to let my neighbour flirt with my wife?
My neighbour continually hits on my wife. When we are together he continuously stares at her. At first she didn't notice anything, I told her about it and she said she would watch to see if he was doing it. After a month or so went by with this going on, I have noticed that she has started to flirt back with him. At first it was pretty innocent, like giving each other hello and goodbye kisses. Now she allows him to make comments that are somewhat sexual in nature. I find that they are somewhat leading comments. My wife's comments are not leading but somewhat of a flirting nature. I have expressed my concern that I'm not comfortable with this! She allows him to talk about what a MILF she is and say other crude things, but she thinks its funny and not a big deal. My wife has no interest in him, she says. I am sure she finds it flattering, but it is drives me crazy. She feels that I'm overreacting and that it's harmless. I tell her it is not appropriate for him to talk to a married woman like that, she says I am way to jealous about this and it is my own problem. I totally trust her but I feel he has other motives! I don't know how to get that across to my wife without getting her mad at me.

2007-11-21 02:12:57 · 62 answers · asked by Rick 1

we have been married for 8 years, together as high school sweethearts, he chose alcohol over me and our 2 children. Became verbally and emotionally abusive and after a few times of physical abuse , There was an order of protection put into place, that he continued to violate, so he has been incarcerated for 8 months. Throughout this time, i have filed for divorce and he has been served his papers, he has continued to write to me, stating how much he loves me and wants me and that he will not accept our divorce. i have given him our home and moved out. He will be realeased from jail next week and im just scared to see how desperate he is and what he will do. can anyone give me advise please........anyone dealt with this before

2007-11-21 01:53:08 · 42 answers · asked by virginia 1

2007-11-21 01:35:54 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

after watching a few of his services, and reading up a little about him, I'm convinced he's more of a counseling people advocate than a 'preacher'.... his message is upbeat, and psychologically great for people to hear, since it's more about you getting yourself what you need than 'god' handing it to you for good works.... he's really got it down to a science, that of telling folks what makes them feel good about themselves.... even going so far as telling women to shop at Victoria's Secret to help their marriages be happier!....
he's different..... is he the next BillyG?

2007-11-21 01:34:23 · 7 answers · asked by meanolmaw 7

I have been maried 20 years We have 2 children 17 and 12.
My husband was diagnosed bi-polar 2 years ago and has been on meds that work pretty good for him for about 1 year.
This has been the hardest time for me. He has been verbally
abusive since he has been diagnosed and has had times of violence throwing stuff and breaking furniture. His meds seem to have his violence under control finally. I am no spring chicken and hate the idea of starting over. I am concerned about financial security also It's scarey! But I wake up every other night with bad dreams of selfish and verbal bad behavior from my husband. He is just not the same guy I married. I said until death do us part in sickness and health. But I am miserable. What should I do?

2007-11-21 01:09:08 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband's mate has been trying to contact me and asking me out. He says he really likes me and doesnot want more than a friendship. What shall I do?
He is one of those guys who saw me fully naked while i was getting out of the pool when my hubby and his mates came frm work, and i was not expecting there visit.
Since then, me and my husband are not together the way we were, although its getting better now.

I personally think he doesnt want just a friendship, But i think i am muture enough to handle myself. He seems nice as a person and im thinking of giving him a go. I am mostly alone at home, dont have friends in this town. Sometimes i really feel alone.
I need second opinion.... (You can see my other questions to know the whole background)

2007-11-21 01:06:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married on last june and we got seperated within a week. Tell me when can i apply for divorce & when i will get divorce? Wther i should wait for atleast 1 year or not?
Please suggest?

2007-11-21 01:06:03 · 12 answers · asked by Rebecca 1

My ex-girlfriend keeps calling me and crap. Last night she calls twice in a 5 minute period leaves a voice-mail because I refused to pick up that said " Hey ummmm......... I guess if you want to call me back you can I'll ttyl"

Then 15 minutes after that texts me saying " I really hope you're not planning on ignoring me :( "

Then first thing this morning she called me again on her way to work and I didnt pick up still.

This pisses me off, she tells me its over were never getting back together, but as soon as I back away some she pulls this bs. What the hell is her problem? I don't believe her when she says no never again because she WON'T GO AWAY.

2007-11-21 01:05:39 · 14 answers · asked by Advice 4

I am 5'2, dark skin, and have brown eyes, my boyfriend is 5'3, dark skin, with hazel brown eyes, so what would our baby look like?

2007-11-21 01:05:24 · 10 answers · asked by Lala A 1

2007-11-21 01:04:30 · 23 answers · asked by MJ 6

recently I've been tempted to look threw my hubby's text messages but I've refrained because i felt like if i did that,that would mean i didn't trust him.Lately somethings just didn't feel right so i looked & found that he was still talking to his "supposedly" one night stand flame.I mean should i stay quiet because what you don;t know doesn't hurt & i wouldn't have found out if i didn't look right?? i dont know what should i do??

2007-11-21 01:03:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-21 00:58:52 · 20 answers · asked by dina S 1

My guy tells me he doesn't want to have sex anymore and that he wants to have something more than that..The issue is this..I don't get to see him often but maybe once every 3-4 months and so and you would think he would want to have sex wouldn't you? I know he is not getting it anywhere else and he cares and loves me very much..but why would he not want to have sex? He told me that he also wanted to be able to enjoy someone's company without it leading to sex..but ugh!! Does anyone else find this odd???

2007-11-21 00:53:20 · 16 answers · asked by AMANDA 1

because they overworked him and he had no time to be with his family. Now he's working for half the money and our insurance is not very good plus we barely break even. He also walked away from 20,000 in comission. We need a new roof because we have leaks ...we stress everytime our daughter gets sick because we have to pay 100% until our deductable is met. We had agreed that I would stay at home until our daughter started public school which isnt until next year (because we didn't want to have to put her in daycare)...now I've had to take a part time job working weekend evenings and holidays...I have little to no skills for a better job. We also have medical bills because I had to have surgery this summer. I know whats been done cant be undone but I dont understand why he couldn't continue to find a better paying job with better benefits. His job now is so unerwhelming that he calls me 6 times a day because he's bored...and he says he wants to retire from this job.

2007-11-21 00:50:25 · 22 answers · asked by robbierob 3

Here's the thing. My hubby and i have been together for 8 years. he's always thought i was gorgeous,and always let me know it.(I'm a former swimsuit model)even when we broke up once years ago,he left the person he was dating to get back with me.The thing is,i had our daughter a few months ago,and the pregnancy weight did NOT come off.(About 30 pounds over)He tells me i still look gorgeous and that he loves me just the way i am,but i am starting to feel insecure,because his ex girlfriend has just started to work where he works,and im afraid that now that i've lost my figure,he might regret having left her and now thinks that SHE'S better looking than me.I try to get him to tell me the truth but he just goes on and on about how i'm paranoid and how he loves only me and how he isn't attracted to her anymore but i've seen her,compared to what i look like now,she looks pretty good.I went from a 10 to a 5 and i don't know if i should believe him or if he just doesnt want to hurt me.

2007-11-21 00:50:06 · 15 answers · asked by bittersweet84 2

It seems like am always nowadays having nagging desires. Thought they should reduce with age but it seems the case is the opposite. Am married and well cattered for, if i may say it atleast once or twice per night. Is this normal for one in early 50s?

2007-11-21 00:47:35 · 10 answers · asked by Kings R 1

Has anyone ever gotten married at a winery in California? Any recommendations? Thanks.

2007-11-21 00:42:01 · 2 answers · asked by Cooking Engineer (CE) 3

he always takes bus to work but most of the time when he misses the bus I have to drop him off. This morning he woke up and took shower. He takes 15-20 mins in shower. I knocked on a door and said to him to not to be late( because it happened so many times when he takes morning shower he always gets late). I made him tea and lunch. then he was looking for a sweater. I said wear the clean one which is hanging he started staring at it. I said fine wear whatever you want. Then he got all mad and started saying that ' you are disrespectful and now don't talk to me like that. Don't tell me what to do?"
My question is have I said anything wrong here. He tells me what to do or what not to do. I never took offense. He loves his work so there is no problem at work. My B-day is this Sunday and this is my first after marriage. But I feel that it is not going to be great.
Back to point Did I said anything disrespectful. I told what happened this morning. He didn;t even kiss me. It has never....

2007-11-21 00:36:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why are we slammed by being overly-emotional when that is what we heard our Moms beg our Dads to be? Now we are expected to have a great job, get you an SUV, send kids to private school, and still have time to fix and talk, etc.
Ive become glib, unemotional everywhere else but here. Pathetic I know. But this just reaffirms my theories. Why have I become so bitter? And are all men becoming bitter?

2007-11-21 00:30:44 · 15 answers · asked by csiders30 4

This is all because of my exwife. She insists on DNA before claiming the baby even though they were married at the time and at no time did anyone say my DIL cheated. My wife and I sent a newborn gift (she lives out of state) and are planning on sending Christmas gifts. My wife & I say that unless proven wrong, this is our grandchild and we will send gifts & call to check on him. But because of my Ex, my son now wants a DNA test & doesn't want us to send any gift until the results are back. My ex did the same thing with his daughter but he told me then that if I waited until DNA tests came back then I was a worthless father & couldn't see my granddaughter. He wasn't married to his daughter's mom but IS still married to his son's mom. I don't like making my son mad but this is stupid. I told him that he need to keep his pants zipped since this makes the 2nd child that he is doing DNA on - but he wants to cut me out of his life if I send gifts before tests are back. What would you do?

2007-11-21 00:17:30 · 11 answers · asked by Love_to_Fish 1

Hes 60 years of age and lives with a 55 year old women.They have lived together for 5 years.His name is on the mortgage , hers isnt.They have no kids, and arent married.How would he stand if the women left him? Would she have rights over half of the house? And would the situation be any different if he married her and they got divorced and the same thing happened?

2007-11-21 00:06:20 · 15 answers · asked by cheekyleopard10 1

should he be able to get it?she says no,he says yes.

2007-11-21 00:00:35 · 24 answers · asked by jesse m_violated for nothing 3