My guy tells me he doesn't want to have sex anymore and that he wants to have something more than that..The issue is this..I don't get to see him often but maybe once every 3-4 months and so and you would think he would want to have sex wouldn't you? I know he is not getting it anywhere else and he cares and loves me very much..but why would he not want to have sex? He told me that he also wanted to be able to enjoy someone's company without it leading to sex..but ugh!! Does anyone else find this odd???
Well he says with school and work he hardly has time for anything else and then he says to be honest i dont even care about sex...back in april he kinda cheated even though we were on a break and this woman was a lot older and lets just say he was very drunk...anyhow she ended up preg. but it turned out not his due to dates ect..then i had a miscarriage by him after all that he didn't care about sex that much..could that have done something?I know there more than sex.but could he be gay
2007-11-21 02:48:24 · 18 answers · asked by AMANDA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree that the pregnancy scares could have been it. OR, maybe he got an STD from cheating and doesn't want to tell you and doesn't want to give it to you.
2007-11-21 02:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by ME 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about gay but it's not going anywhere good if you're not having sex when you see each other after 3-4 months. Also, if he "kinda cheated" before he could "kinda cheat" again which is a possibility. If he's afraid of pregnancy use a condom and use birth control...that should put it at ease. Ideally, sex is not the most important thing in a relationship but not having ANY is going to take it's toll. Something needs to give here..
2007-11-21 03:07:41 · answer #2 · answered by laura1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask him and get it over with because if he is gay then you need to get out of this relationship it is not good for you do you really want to be with someone like this is this what you want he cheated on you and you forgave him this is not good either I do not care if you where on a break if he really cared aboyut you he would never have cheated on you that does show that he is not gay maybe he does not want to have sex with you becuase he might haqve an infection for having sex with alot of girls have you thhought about that I think you need to think about the situation you are in and you ask him to tell you the truth. I think you should find someone that you will be in a better relationship with and forget about this guy because to me he is not good for you.
2007-11-21 02:57:52 · answer #3 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt seriously he's gay - but he has had a lot of stuff handed to him - a possible pregnancy with a one-night-stand; your miscarriage, distance, school, work, etc. etc. etc.
The preg-scare - and your miscarriage have probably sobered him up quite a bit too.
Give him a break why don't you. Quit pressuring him and let him get his head and his heart back on straight.
OH and how about improving your own intellectual capabilities? That way you two might find something to actually TALK about - and maybe spend time together sharing something other than your libidos?
2007-11-21 02:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You see him once every 3-4 months? Thats incredibly odd. That's not any sort of relationship. Call it a day and find someone decent you can hang out with, have fun, and have sex, with as often as you want.
2007-11-21 03:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by Paul M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't sound gay. Sounds like he has had too many pregnancy scares and wants to avoid it happening again. He needs time. You have to ask if he is worth the patience on your part. He obviously isn't interested in a relationship at this point. It's probably time for you to move on and find someone that wants to be committed to you.
2007-11-21 02:58:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it doesn't mean he is gay, it just probably means that he values your relationship with him and wants to be intimite with you in different ways. Sex isn't everything, yes it's great when you have it but just because he's not having sex with you doesn't mean he doesn't want to....you said it yourself, one girl he slept with when he was drink, got pregnant, turned out to be someone elses,..God only knows what went on through his mind after hearing that a drunken one night stand may be in his life forever and a little boy/girl calling him daddy when he's not ready for it escpecially with someone he doesn't love,...and then came you, someone that he loves and admires and shares his time with...had a miscarriage, from the scariness to the excitement of hearing of the pregnancy..then to the downfall of the baby not pulling through..devastating for you and him. He's scared, and there's nothing wrong with that, he's every right to be. Give it time...if you truly love him you will respect his wishes and try to understand them....
2007-11-21 03:02:51 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He could be gay.....How does someone "kinda cheat"...I would say that he definitely did cheat if there was a possibility that he got another woman pregnant....I think you would be better off without this guy...He is weird!! I would think "your guy" would want to jump your bones if he only saw you every 3 or 4 months....If he isn't gay..then he is probably cheating again....
2007-11-21 02:56:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not gay, cheating. Nobody "knows" 100% that their spouse or boyfriend/gf is not "getting it anywhere else" NOBODY!!! If you only see him 3-4 times a month, trust me he's cheating. Most men who cheat do care for and love someone else, they cheat for sex.
2007-11-21 02:55:12 · answer #9 · answered by Maria 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no that don't mean he is gay it just means he is getting from someone else you must of did something you need to find out what you did and work on it.Maybe you need to go see him and don't tell him you are coming and see whats really up.
2007-11-21 02:56:18 · answer #10 · answered by sarakay3124 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋