he always takes bus to work but most of the time when he misses the bus I have to drop him off. This morning he woke up and took shower. He takes 15-20 mins in shower. I knocked on a door and said to him to not to be late( because it happened so many times when he takes morning shower he always gets late). I made him tea and lunch. then he was looking for a sweater. I said wear the clean one which is hanging he started staring at it. I said fine wear whatever you want. Then he got all mad and started saying that ' you are disrespectful and now don't talk to me like that. Don't tell me what to do?"
My question is have I said anything wrong here. He tells me what to do or what not to do. I never took offense. He loves his work so there is no problem at work. My B-day is this Sunday and this is my first after marriage. But I feel that it is not going to be great.
Back to point Did I said anything disrespectful. I told what happened this morning. He didn;t even kiss me. It has never....
2007-11-21 00:36:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
happened. He even forgot his cell phone. I wasn't pushing him. When I took bus to work he always say things to me like that. Now what.
2007-11-21 00:37:48 · update #1
He was just stressed. You two need to stop acting like parents. He can get places on time, dress himself and manage without you acting like his mom. Stop that. Let him worry about whether he is on time or not. It is not your job. Ask him what you can do for him and leave it at that. No one wants to be parented by the one they love. Neither of you needs to be telling the other what to do. Negotiate who does what (making tea, laundry, etc.) and talk to each other like the best friends you are. Do not control each other. Worry about your own responsibilities and happiness and let him worry about his. Don't sweat the small stuff. You can talk later about this morning and let him know he hurt your feelings and ask what he would rather you do in the future. No big deal.
2007-11-21 00:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry he's being a freak about this. With the money disappearing so quickly and the payments not being made, I can't help but wonder if he's into drugs more than just weed. Your credit can be affected by his lack of paying things. If you work, you might want to consider opening a seperate bank account to put YOUR money into. If you don't work, you might need to have an intervention or something. If he is strung out, he could take it out on you or your 6 yr old. Or he could just up and leave and you'll be left swimming in debt. Try to find out what he's really doing with the money and go from there.
2016-05-24 21:17:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband had something on his mind or woke up on the wrong side of the bed. In the future, back off and be quiet. Everyone is entitled to be crabby once in a while, you just have to give them some space.
2007-11-21 00:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh! Very interesting, you see, pertaining to your man, he always act aggresively, but just keep on calming him. because. he loves you, but, due to this aggresiveness, he always get angry all the time. Anyway, you are with him now and you shall be with him till the end of liufe,
Hes your detined husband, hes okay, that proof that he is a real man. Becareful.
Pertaining to what you said, you didnt say anything wrong in what you said, just that hes angry, i like the way you talk, that means that you dont want his problem, still, he raise it.
2007-11-22 03:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by Temidayo O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop treating this man like he's a child. It is his responsibility to get himself ready for work in time to catch his bus. He also doesn't need your permission to wear what he wants to wear! When it's time for you to leave for work, leave and let him worry about how he's going to get there. He's a grown man. Understand that!
Concerning your birthday, you are not a little girl anymore. If you want to do something special on this day, let your husband know this. Otherwise, don't expect him to read your mind. If it doesn't turn out to be a great day, it will be your fault, not his.
If you continue to treat this man like a child, he'll find a woman who will treat him like he's a man. You'd better start acting like you're his wife--not his mommy.
2007-11-21 01:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie, it's your first birthday AFTER marriage? Your in your first year of marriage? Welcome to marriage.. The first year is SO hard... You have done nothing wrong, it's just hard.. I lived with my husband for 2 years before we married and our first year well lets say divorce was thrown around like there was no tomorrow. We are on year 3, but your not doing anything wrong your just in the first year. Year two is much much better.
Not to mention men are stupid, they are cry babies, and take everything personal... :) Especially married ones..
I want to edit as well, he was having a day.. we all have days.. I'm just trying to cheer you up.. I hope you have a fantastic day... It's so hard to type what you want to say, I'm just trying to reassure you it will be fine... Seriously, it's hard but it will be okay.. You did nothing wrong... Ahh... we should have like YA voice something!!!! So I can explain better...
Good luck!!! and Happy Birthday!
2007-11-21 00:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by Can't stand this 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he's just having an off day.
he'll apologise once he's replayed it in his head.
and if he doesn't apologise, make him replay the scene and point out what you did that offended him... THEN he'll realise that he overreacted because he was feeling a bit off and a bit cranky.
Next time let him make his own tea and lunch, wash his own clothes and walk to work. Maybe then he'll appreciate that you love him and do things for him that help him.
2007-11-21 00:43:23 · answer #7 · answered by chilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop acting like his mother let him get ready on his own wear eat do what he wants and just get to work on his own without hearing anything he just got up he has to get to work you say something ofcourse hell snap.Forget it trust me ive had a mother and partner the same way and it just gets on nerves.Hope this helps! dont say anything much on what to do or what not to do,give space.
2007-11-21 00:50:48 · answer #8 · answered by aangelhasbrowneyez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey You are wonderful, dont be dipressed you didnt say any thing wrong, If his attitude presists then reconsider your relation as you'l be having kids too and this man will ruin you and the family. You may mail me direct at my I so to discuss at length its:
guyc70@yahoo.com
mail me there instead of YA so we can chat or mail on day to day issues.
You are in no way disrespectful rather you are doing more than an ordinary girl does.
2007-11-21 00:49:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You sound more like his mother than his wife. He's a big boy and you should'nt be telling him he'll be late or what to wear. If he's late, thats HIS problem, if he dresses stupid, thats HIS problem. Don't be his doormat either.
2007-11-21 00:53:21 · answer #10 · answered by cooter726 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋