Marriage & Divorce - 18 November 2007

2007-11-18 10:20:19 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-18 10:16:48 · 8 answers · asked by ~Katie~ 2

2007-11-18 10:11:24 · 15 answers · asked by Sidereality 3

You see I've been divorced for 8 years now not one decent Christian bloke in my home town cos I'm divorced & got kids they run a mile!

2007-11-18 10:04:49 · 9 answers · asked by mandy r 3

my mom and dad divorcing. In a fantasy world, you would dream that 51, (mom) and 58, (dad) are happily living togetther. My mom and dad aren't. My dad goes golfing and he leaves the house and comes back just for dinner and goes back to a motel. My mom dates this freaky guy Joel whos wife died 44 years ago. I own the house and both of my mom and dad are not home for dinner. SOmetimes they just boss me around saying to make me cook. I am an adult. What do I do to make them have their own lives and not depend on me??? What do I do to keep them togethter? What do I do if Joel Gets married with mom. Ugh... I can't imagine that.

2007-11-18 10:02:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Does this sound like there is a bit of truth to this situation.

I have always known that drinking was a problem for me. I just choose to ignore the problems that go along with it. I was a completely functional drinker and thought I knew what I was doing.

I waited to get married until I was 32, mostly because I could not find anyone that would put up with my secret.

Then I met my wife, a great better half for me, so I thought. I finally found someone I could get drunk with all the time.

Then about five years into the marriage, I was having major health problems because of my drinking, yet this did not stop me from drinking. I was at the point where I did not care about anyone or anything.

One thing that always got me in a lot of arguments with my wife was that she continued to drink and pop prescription meds while I was in a state of jepeoardy.

She still claims to be a ALANON member because of her second husband and that it is OK to drink in front of me. I strongly disagreed with her.

This led us to start filing for a divorce.

While this was happening, something clicked inside of me and I quit drinking.

She has always stated that she wishes that I would quit drinking.

after about 6 months of bieng sober, I could finally see through the fog that I have been living in and I decided to reconcile with my wife and try to make things right.

When I moved back in, I really thought that the absense of my drinking would curtail her drinking. WRONG!!!

She has asked me if drinking in front of me bothers me.. My answer is a sincere no it does not bother me the smell, physical presence, etc..

I told her what does bother me is the Dual personalities that come out when you are drinking.

One big thing I have noticed in this progressive disease is denial and anger.


Well All said here,

We are seperated

This is what I think I have learned about all this:

1. Two drunks meet each other
2. Two drunks get married
3. One drunks tells other drunks that he drinks too much
4. The other drunk becomes sober
5. Now the sober drunk and active drunk have nothing in common


I will continue on a sober road 600+ Days


Does anyone have a similar experience ???

2007-11-18 10:01:37 · 6 answers · asked by vmaxrubicon 1

GOD told him to.

I had to forgive him..Who am I to judge Gods decisions.

2007-11-18 09:54:38 · 34 answers · asked by mrsjenjensen 2

I am trying to get a divorce. I am going through legal aid. Neother my Ex or My self have legal custody of my children. He has made threats to take my kids and disapear with them. Legal Aid told me to have no contact with him until I have custody and then only if I felt safe. (he can be violent) My children have some problems due to abuse and viewing his abuse but since not being around them they are doing better. He has emailed me saying that he will pay for the divorce but he wants unsupervised visitation. I am pregnant by my fiance. (I've been seperated for 2 years) Somehow the EX found out and is trying to use it against me to get what he wants in the divorce.
I don't know if I should just stall the divorce until after I have the baby(not what I want) and then he has no cards. Just stick to Legal aid and file and hope they don't find out or give in to the crazy so and so and keep my kids counsilers on the alert.

In advance thank you all for your help.

2007-11-18 09:50:58 · 5 answers · asked by ? 6

This is my predicament. I have known Sophie (my mates wife) for maybe 6 years. I always found her attractive and as I got to know her she became more and more beautiful to me. She was going out with an aquaintence but that aquaintence is now a good friend of mine too. 3 years ago when they were on a break (and the aquaintence was still an aquaintence), we started a relationship. I fell deeply in love with her and she said she loved me but I knew that she still loved Bob and I was going through alcohol addiction problems and was not ready for commitment. She got back with Rob when I said to her that I couldn't commit which was inevitable. A year after that, they got married. I went to the wedding because me and Sophie had still remained the greatest of mates and Bob was becoming closer too.
2 months ago, the marriage ended and me and Sophie are the best of mates but I love her and want to be with her but I am scared of telling her incase we ruin our friendship. What should I do?

2007-11-18 09:46:04 · 3 answers · asked by Dan G 1

they wont watch with us but they want us to watch there shows

2007-11-18 09:45:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Wife and i have been together for 3 years. I have cheated (im not proud of this) and she has behind my back talked with her ex husband. Shes very religous and i am not. Her depression has honestly worn me out. I have to do everything around the house while working 60 hour weeks.
We get along pretty well...and rarely fight. But at what point are you kidding yourself that it will work out?
Our personalities have become so different since we met....im just not sure how we can make it....but we get along. Hope that makes sense.

2007-11-18 09:44:26 · 8 answers · asked by Matt C 1

2007-11-18 09:40:08 · 22 answers · asked by mrpoet03 4

I've known this guy a few weeks now....he wants to be fwb & hopefully build up to something more but he knows we have to be careful so neither one of us will end up hurt. I am divorced from a cheater. We hooked up once last week & since then we've talked every day & he's told me that he misses me. He said he doesn't want to scare me or fall for me too fast but that he thinks of me all the time. He wants to meet up again tomorrow at a hotel(like last time)..we live about 45 minutes to an hour away from each other. I wasn't really nervous the first time but I kind of am now. I guess I'm kind of afraid he won't like me as well the second time & also that he just wants to sleep w/me & that there really won't be any building up to something more. He's more experienced than I am...he's only the second person I've slept with. If you have a fwb is it normal to feel nervous like this? I'm thinking all this stuff like what if he doesn't like the way I look, that he's just using me, etc

2007-11-18 09:39:52 · 10 answers · asked by love my life 2

we have been married for 8 years, and went to vegas last week, now were not big drinkers, but i did lots of gamboling and drank lots of jack daniels and coke, and blue hawaii's, very drunk, well my husband wanted to buy me a lap dance, and we did, then we went to the room and he bought a girl to the room out of a book, i was so drunk i could hardly hold up my head, i was at the point of alcohol poison, he said i participated some, but i remember looking up and he was having sex with her, i dont remember him paying attention to me at all. Now he's sorry, and i can't get that picture oput of my mind?? What can i do?? He did wear protection, but things can still happen all around that! I'm having a hard time right now

2007-11-18 09:32:53 · 15 answers · asked by kkeelstylist 2

..
The Password!


A woman was helping her husband set up his new computer, and at the
appropriate time in the process, told him he would now need to enter a
password - something he would use to log-on. Her husband was in a rather
amorous mood and figured he would try for the shock effect to bring this
to his wife's attention. So, when the computer asked him to enter his
password, he made it plainly obvious to his wife that he was keying in:

P...

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N...

I...

S...

His wife fell out of her chair laughing when the computer replied...





PASSWORD INVALID...........NOT LONG ENOUGH

2007-11-18 04:04:45 · 11 answers · asked by chris w. 7

I don't agree with it because i want to love someone i am with, all i want from him it that he appreciate that i love him and that i will do anything for him but don't he mess with me because i love him.
Someone who loves me back and know that it's might be a little annoying when i am in love with him but he knows that and respect that and won't take advantage of it.
that's what i feel that's best.

2007-11-18 03:58:34 · 5 answers · asked by frenchi 6

Last night me and some friends went fishing and one of our friends brought his 3 y/o child with him. after we were done and on our way to drop our friends off some guy started antagonizing my boyfriend at the stoplight and my boyfriend with his need for speed went ahead raced him...hitting speeds of 70 on this busy road. At the next stoplight after I told him "Hey! We have a baby in the truck!" He raced again anyway. I'm very upset even today. He is 26 and thought it would be more mature than that! He knows that I get scared when he does his street racing because of my previous car accident, but it's so much worse now because he did it with a baby in the vehicle. Am I overreacting?

2007-11-18 03:38:45 · 29 answers · asked by Steph 1

We have 1 child and one on the way its been a constant emotional rollercoaster. We act as if we are room mates he had not been intimate for so long now I feel I turned into this non sexual being. I lost who I was. Im worried now everywhere I turn I feel he is secretly searching because he had cheated before. Im lost it takes everything to smile arround him. He has a female friend I have never met, or talked to. This friend is his ex's best friend he still talks to her when I am not arround, he emails her and sends pics of himself and our son to her none of us and our family we have started. What is happening? All of his encounters are in secret and I feel our intamate moments that happen every 2 months is not enough for a young man its sad but true. What is going on and is my relationship over.

2007-11-18 02:24:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Its not me who wants to wait a very long time to marry again. He has been in a few BAD marriages and is quite fed up, though our love is deep enough for marriage, it isnt going to happen anytime too soon....So here is my answer to all of you. When you were in high school, you were committed by wearing his class ring, didnt mean marriage, it meant you were serouse with one boy- If I wear a diamond on my left hand for 1 year or 20 years, it still means Im committed to one man. So for the record....engaged means more than just dating , it means a serouse committment. And if I do continue to get hit on by other idiots who cant tell Im not interested from the get-go, then i will deal with that idot. Most men will respect a committed relationship....

2007-11-18 02:23:04 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

After you both know you love eachother, doesn't the tension just dwindle down and the sex become boring and predictable?

2007-11-18 02:16:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been dating a married woman for 9months, both of us love each other, and want to be with each other, i am feeling that she has all the security with him , 2 kids, and she want's to move out and get her own place so she can be with me, thinking she loves him to, should i wait around, really care about her, just a big secrect and everyone is catching on, don't know what to do,

2007-11-18 02:15:58 · 22 answers · asked by 5885 1

my father in law do not trust me .earlier he never trust his wife ,daughter,son.now i'm the target.he use to follow me where i'm going .everytime he ask me so many question which iriitates me what wud i do

2007-11-18 02:05:11 · 11 answers · asked by runa 1

I have a close girlfriend who was married about 5 months ago. She is 25. Her husband is 55. About a year ago, she ended a 2-year long relationship with a married guy who is about 35 years older than her. She hasn't stopped talking to him since they broke up and she still tells him she loves him. I've talked to her about this and can't seem to get an answer that makes any sense. That's why I'm posting this question to see what others think. The guy she is married to has tons of money, which he spends on her lavishly, they live in an expensive house, and he treats her well. Quite honestly, I think the fact he is well off played into her decision to marry him because she is very insecure and wanted someone to take care of her. Her ex-boyfriend, although he was in a bad marriage, wouldn't leave his wife to commit to my friend. I think she is playing with fire maintaining strong feelings for the ex. What do others think is going through her mind? I can't figure it out.

2007-11-18 01:59:39 · 17 answers · asked by Tiger 1

I am a former wife of a law enforcement officer. We dated during the police academy and married right after he was hired by a police department. It was during his second year as a cop that I noticed a change in his attitude and behavior at home. I can remember at one point telling him to stop treating me like I was a criminal. When I filed for a divorce, I was worried about what he would try to do to me and our daughter. I received primary custody and out of fear, declined seeking child support. Over the last two years, I have grown stronger and smarter. My question is this, male or female, what is your story when you divorced your significant other whom happened to be a law enforcement officer? Did his or her career make a divorce harder (knowing the judge who signed your divorce paper, tight with all the attorneys in town, et al). Thanks!

2007-11-18 01:58:53 · 8 answers · asked by Amber B 2

my usband and i had been together for 4 years, but her mother and sister still find it hard to accept me in their family, we've moved out of the house just to get away from them but still they haunts me and still is trying to ruin me... they've said bad things about me to their relatives and some of them had confronted me already... i cant seem to understand why especially my sister in law hates me... she do bad things and blames it on me.. and still she becames the victim not me... honestly i dont want revenge on her and haven't tried coz i still believe in karma. i've confronted them already on not to blame things on me instead they took it the wrong way... help me,,, i'm thinking of leaving my husband just to get away from them, my husband helps me with my problem but he ends up in trouble, i dont want to get him hurt again or to turn him against his family...what shall i do to end up this tormentation made by conceited people...

2007-11-18 01:56:33 · 6 answers · asked by zoe 1

For those people who always takes their ex back after divorcing? If they have a better life after divorcing, will they still take their ex back? Or, because they are unable to find new love and settle their life for less. How many of you really forgive your ex when you said so, and not blame on them forever? And, does your relationship work after you take your ex back?

2007-11-18 01:51:10 · 11 answers · asked by Kim J 1

falling out early in our marriage,we seperated for 7years and got back together,its been 10 years that passed now.we threw all bad memerios away and only remember the the good ones,it took some time to forgive him, he did gain back my trust.in the past 6months ive been getting these weary feelings as if my husband may have cheated on me recently,Why a sudden change of feelings all of a sudden ???

2007-11-18 01:47:15 · 5 answers · asked by dohsey 1

Our first three years have been pretty difficult... ok NO, they've been downright hellish!
But now (to my delight and joy) we are finally on the right track.

If your marriage has endured the fires of hell

What did you and your companion do to end your "occupancy in hell"?
and
What are your secrets for keeping that happiness in your marriage?

2007-11-18 01:42:10 · 15 answers · asked by Midnight Lilly 5

This is gonna take some explaining so please read and answer, I really need opinions...

Recently I posted a question, "She asked Me"

To try and make it short, this was about a girl who is now dating a man I dated several years ago... About a year ago, we moved here... In January, we moved here... I didn't know until the spring that my neighbor four houses down was someone I once dated .....
About two weeks ago or so, I was walking my puppy and his girlfriend who has made it obvious to me everytime I come and go from my home, she knows we dated... When I was on my walk, she stopped me and asked me about "the puppy" OK, what ever... I am a nice person, I answered her and before I knew it she was letting me know, she knew I had once been involved with her now boyfriend, she asked me if we have ever talked.
I let her know I didn't even know who he was until I saw his mom checking the mail in the spring... I honestly just thought he was a neighborly neighbor..... And no,

2007-11-18 01:39:59 · 16 answers · asked by My Hubby's Be Be`♥ 3

separated for 4 years...still in the house but needs renovating...?

2007-11-18 01:38:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous