I am a former wife of a law enforcement officer. We dated during the police academy and married right after he was hired by a police department. It was during his second year as a cop that I noticed a change in his attitude and behavior at home. I can remember at one point telling him to stop treating me like I was a criminal. When I filed for a divorce, I was worried about what he would try to do to me and our daughter. I received primary custody and out of fear, declined seeking child support. Over the last two years, I have grown stronger and smarter. My question is this, male or female, what is your story when you divorced your significant other whom happened to be a law enforcement officer? Did his or her career make a divorce harder (knowing the judge who signed your divorce paper, tight with all the attorneys in town, et al). Thanks!
2007-11-18 01:58:53 · 8 answers · asked by Amber B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just for clarification ... I have been divorced for two years, seperated for three. I did have a great attorney but simply wanted to know other people who found it hard to leave their spouse because of his or her career as a law enforcement officer. I know some cops are retarted and corrupt, I know the pig jokes and donut jokes, so no need to post.
2007-11-18 02:14:50 · update #1
Okay- my divorce is over and really not the point of my question. I want to know if...
1. You divorced a law enforcement officer.
2. What kind of obsticals did you encounters during your divorce because of his or her career as a law enforcement officer.
2007-11-18 02:26:32 · update #2
oh pls...divorcing a cop is easy...just offer him some money...seriously u dun have to worry divorcing him is the same as divorcing any other loser
2007-11-18 02:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by Sony 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I went threw this a few years back. He did change like you were saying, and for the worst. Thought he was above everybody, including myself, and became very bitter. As if he saw no "good" in people any more. To him everybody was a felon in hiding. No one could be trusted or befriended, cause they were all "up to no good". It seemed as though we isolated ourselves from the outside world, and I was on 24 lock down, all the time, (for my own protection he would say).
Our divorce was not a pretty thing. The problem with me was we lived in a small town of about 24,000 people. Everybody knows everybody, and the P.D, and City Council were in cahoots together on every thing, from enforcement of laws, to who's wifes going to be cooking the pie for the Sunday afternoon bbq. that they all will be attending. Our whole town seemed to take sides. Unfortunately my side became fewer and fewer people. Only the long time, true friends, stuck by my side. Most people were afraid to be in my favor, for fear of some kind of retaliation on his part. Suddenly the undecided ones were being pulled over, harassed, etc... till they changed there ideas. I finally couldn't take all the whispering and glances i got, so I decided to move... to a much larger town, where nobody new me, or better yet knew him!.. So, I think a big factor, is the size of town you both live in. In a large city, you would be fine, theres too many people to know everybody... But a small town is a completely different story.
2007-11-18 02:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by >< SHeDeViL >< 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes!, You don't have a chance with attorneys or judges.
The attorney will tell you that they are on your side, but don't believe it! The best thing to do is try to compromise with him and move on with your life. If your ex has been in law enforcement for a while he has made friends with higher ups. And believe me they look out for one another. I even got a lawyer 60 miles away, twice and it did no good because the judge in the town we lived in was on his side. Its been 18 years now and we have come to terms with everything now. But I promise you you've got a long road to go down yet. Don't mean to discourage you but its the truth.
2007-11-18 02:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
police officials might want to be perfect or worst. If massive city, the position 2 guy automobiles are difficulty-free police officials learn a thanks to "stay and play with others " 8 hours an afternoon with a prevalent better 1/2 so have some skills at this. And salaries very virtually everywhere with extra time exceed 50k so are above difficulty-free in maximum communities. advantages and holiday time is likewise in a lot of circumstances outstanding. yet in case you connect with a cop you also develop into married to his activity. a lot of work on weekends, holidays nights. police officials can develop into "complete of themselves and too good for his or her households" . no longer something worse than someone who thinks now i'm knowledgeable or professional etc and that i'm by surprise better than my better 1/2. police officials attempt this now and again. success of the draw youngster once you get mutually with a cop.
2016-10-24 10:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cops now-a-days are just people in everyones eye because time after time the news reports whenever one or more are arrested for criminal acts. I really don't trust any of them and most people talk about how they abuse their power. If you have a good attorney you should prevail. (smile)
2007-11-18 02:09:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All law enforcement jobs are stressfull, day in and day out you basically deal with the criminals of society... They become heros when you need one...
2007-11-18 02:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by prop4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really don't matter these days it is diff. from years ago it is much easier and now the lady if she is a good mother wont loose on kids part anyways. but, i still don't care much for the police and i never would date one. good luck
2007-11-18 02:17:30 · answer #7 · answered by daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you don't marry one, that is stupid to begin with, they are all TURD*S
2007-11-18 02:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by Eddie B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋